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I changed the title of my post to reflect what was really bothering me. It was earlier "why the hesitation".
I understand the why, I feel bad about the hesitation he feels especially given that they are supposed to be so close...Ideally she should have done her duty as a mother and created an environment conducive for him to share and made it easy fro him. The onus in such situations is quite often with parents in India. Every parent with children who are old enough to be in relationships declare their stance on this topic quite routinely so when the time comes they can act accordingly, at least the ones who are supposed to be close in a healthy way do..especially for a son who has been so giving and always tried to do the right thing for his family..such kids are always made to feel welcome about opening up on such matters
However that is the crux of this story... a mother who is unwilling to do that...which is why I feel bad for Dev like many of us do
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This was my original post ---
What is this close relationship between mom and son (apparently a closer relationship than what other lesser normal mortals share) that a CEO son hesitates to share something that makes him genuinely happy? And the mom does not want to know the reason for his happiness and share his happiness?
Like everyone else I loved the last scene. I liked how lost and innocent he looked when Sona (the emotionally more mature one) chided him and he realized the consequence of an action he did not think would matter much.
I could really relate to it because my husband is sometimes that way..he is a gem of a guy and very sensitive but like many typical guys does not apply himself to the consequences of actions/or lack thereof in relationships. Finally when I point something out very emotionally, he feels my hurt/pain acutely and acts on it immediately...similarly Dev just needed to understand the situation and once he did, he decided to take action, like the man of action he is..of course for some reason he will not share it while dressed in the grey t shirt (per sbs video it will happen another day). what matters is the intention.
He was always sure of his relationship with Sona. Very clearly both he and Sona are one woman/man people, they both know that about each other, way before they fell in love.. so if they love someone, that person is the ONE. Since they both know each other so well, neither of them need reassurances on this aspect. Dev taking time to inform had nothing to do with how strongly he feels for Sona and all to do with his complicated home environment and his inability to share stuff about himself. This too I can relate to since my father is that way. He has always been the provider who needed to stay strong (first for his own family as his parents passed away early). He finds it difficult to share what is going on in his mind and he always looks for ways to settle matters himself.
While I may sound like I am contradicting myself...none of this can explain Dev's hesitation in the precap because according to Ish she knows him very well and their mother/son bond is apparently unique and not like the normal bond my dad had with his family. The vibe I get is of a woman who wishes to smother her son with affection, keep the relationship at the same level that it was at when he was a kid but unable to deal with a grown up sons needs (I don't mean the need for a partner, I mean the emotional need for sharing)..
Shiv Shakti
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