Originally posted by: dlavanya
Sorry i have been jumping across the fence too many times during the last one week...
Saw so many posts on how ishwari is treating sona like doormat or insulting her etc...
But is she really insulting her ??? Lets review some scenes
1. Halwa episode
If the kid doesnt eat his moms halwa becoz some doc said it is not healthy. How is the mom supposed to feel??? All the hatred and anger that are just shown to us . When she confronted sona, i feel all she did was drawing boundaries for her doc and reminding her that she is her nutritionist and no need to advice her kids as they dont have any health problems... Again this is not an insult. She just reminded sona her job...
The mom is supposed to respect the relationships that his son makes and promises that he makes that he has to keep. She is aware that at this point her son hesitated to eat the halwa and only ate it so as not to offend his mom. He did it to please her not because he wanted to. That sort of thinking is usually expected from a mother who does things for her child, not a son who has to worry about his grown up mom's feelings.
2. Hawan episode
She was broken that her son did noy sit in pooja because of her but because of sona (who is just a dcotor in the house). She behaved same witheveryone in the house. She said she is happy in an angry manner as she is hurt. I can totally understand her tone but again nothing alarming here.
It is alarming. She is more heart broken about her ego being hurt than being happy about the fact that he sat in the hawan. Her relationship with her son is all about her ego feeling high because he listens to her.
3. Inauguration day- sona said she is looking beautiful and asked if shr is going some where. Ishwari said "has kyu" . Yeah what is wrong in it. Haa bahar jaarahi hu .. Kyu kuch chahiye kya/problem hai kya bhi mean kar sakta hai...
We all know her meaning. We do not have to pretend otherwise.
4.nikki homework- same thing ishwari told her it is not her job to help nikki and all . It is very late and she should go home as her family will be waiting for her. Again as devakshi fan i do t like this but again there is nothing wrong in what she said
Her intentions were otherwise. Never mind what she said.
5. Today when she hear dev taking sonas name - yes she got to know that dev is also equally involved . She is heart broken as she alwys expected her son to share such major things in his life with her. I am sure she woulf have been ok if dev told her the next day after confession that he loves sona. Things wont be this bad.. But again dev wanted to have this time for himself and it is totally ok.
What is she heartbroken about her son is a grown man and he will make lots of decisions in his life; some very private that he will not share with his mom. What is wrong with that?
6. In todays precap- usually these precaps only show part ofthe conversation. So from flashback we saw that dev likes to eat khichifi eith lemon pickle when he is sick and ishwari probably cam down to make it for him. There she saw sona making soup for him ( again she told sona that she doesnt need to get involved in her kids matter) so she said it again that she will take care and no need to get involved . Nothing wtong here again.
It is wrong because her son wants Sona to be involved in his life. Her kids are not kids anymore that need her looking after. They are grown adults who can look after themselves and seek whoever's help they need to help them in their personal matters.
All i wanted to say is. Yes ishwari is not being very nice like before when she used to treat sona like her own daughter and family member and was ok when she used yo get involved in family matters, her kids diet and other things... But now since she knows that or atleast is in denial that sona has one sided crush on dev and her dev is not like this that he likes a girl and doesnt tellher... She is not able to digest this and is getting territorial and defending her possession ( dev in this case)
I am sure all mothers go thru this phase (could be hours/ days/ years) before they welcome their daughter in law wholeheartedly. It is just that this show is showing this phase in detail/the entire thought process/how they defend their territories. it is beautiful and this is the story of every family and i love it.
No, not all mothers go through this phase because their lives do not revolve around their children. They have their own ambitions to fulfill besides just having children.
Children are never possessions. Only selfish parents make them so; to please their egos. It is never about the love for their kids, they are too selfish for that. For such parents, it is always about themselves.
Just my thoughts and would like to hear your thoughts
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