Why Am I feeling bad for Sona :'(

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mena_k

@mena_k

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Posted: 9 years ago

#71

A relation works best If when one of the partner is upset over something the other quietly listens to his/her and does not react to it.

When Dev reacted to Sona's talk angrily it was quite natural. He wanted her to stop. A lot of things from his past just came back to his mind with the talk and its but natural for him to react the way he did. An instant sorry would have meant he lacked the emotions to what he just said, which he didn't, it was deep rooted pain, pain accumulated over several years and I am glad he didn't say sorry right there. Again its natural. He takes care of Sona when she needs it. He does a lot of things for her, given the fact he has recently learnt how to live a happy emotion-filled life.

To say he noticed her saying Maa might have been Dev's way to cheer up Sona. He doesn't know any better way n secondly they were talking about Ishwari so its in flow for him to say that.

Sona understands him, she knows he didn't mean to hurt her. It was her attempt to calm him down when she said sorry. She knew she had hurt him by forcing him to remember the painful past memories. A young child going through all that pain is truly unimaginable for anyone no matter how much the person cares for you.

Lastly for Dev to know about her family, I guess that time has not come yet. He n her are yet to reveal about the relationship to the family's. Perhaps we would see more of Bose family after confession in front of Ishwari. Dixit house is practically sona's second home away from home as she spends most of her time in the house. So getting involved with People is expected n she is more social than Dev for sure.

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saumiee

@saumiee

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Posted: 9 years ago

#72

Originally posted by: amaypranay
I'm a big fan of them both...I think Sona is trying for him to open up... And knows his complexities..
Infact she knew he would not be sleeping and will be thinking about what she has said.. But she let him Face his battles!

I love how open they both are and agree to disagree in a very positive manner...
I was happy to see Dev attend the pooja.. Sona's thoughts are very effective and have a big impact on him 👏 Slow and steady he will change for her even more! Like he just did for the Havan!!!

Sona is well aware of Dev's complexities and her tolerance levels are good enough to deal with dysfunctional Dixits. .She does influence them all directly or indirectly.

Dev looked too self absorbed yesterday, I think he attended the pooja not because he was affected by her thoughts and decided to ponder over them, but because his conversation with Sonakshi forced him to face the real question, His anger with God or his acceptance for his own God's (mother) beliefs.

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saumiee

@saumiee

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Posted: 9 years ago

#73

Originally posted by: mena_k
A relation works best If when one of the partner is upset over something the other quietly listens to his/her and does not react to it.

When Dev reacted to Sona's talk angrily it was quite natural. He wanted her to stop. A lot of things from his past just came back to his mind with the talk and its but natural for him to react the way he did. An instant sorry would have meant he lacked the emotions to what he just said, which he didn't, it was deep rooted pain, pain accumulated over several years and I am glad he didn't say sorry right there. Again its natural. He takes care of Sona when she needs it. He does a lot of things for her, given the fact he has recently learnt how to live a happy emotion-filled life.

To say he noticed her saying Maa might have been Dev's way to cheer up Sona. He doesn't know any better way n secondly they were talking about Ishwari so its in flow for him to say that.

Sona understands him, she knows he didn't mean to hurt her. It was her attempt to calm him down when she said sorry. She knew she had hurt him by forcing him to remember the painful past memories. A young child going through all that pain is truly unimaginable for anyone no matter how much the person cares for you.

Lastly for Dev to know about her family, I guess that time has not come yet. He n her are yet to reveal about the relationship to the family's. Perhaps we would see more of Bose family after confession in front of Ishwari. Dixit house is practically sona's second home away from home as she spends most of her time in the house. So getting involved with People is expected n she is more social than Dev for sure.

Dev has always been a person who is quite vocal about his anger, so it definitely looked natural. And obviously, Sona may not have even taken him being rude into consideration, He was hurt. . And that is the exact reason she said sorry for.

But, don't you think Dev needs to realise it later that He was snappy at her? In normal conversations too, we do become rude or cold overpowered by other emotions but we always realise it later.

It has been second time in a row that he was so closed to her thoughts. It was Sona who apologized that day too, and he said sorry because 'he couldn't think from RV's perspective'

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saumiee

@saumiee

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Posted: 9 years ago

#74

Originally posted by: sowiee
Hii..even I m into the fandom u r not alone.
The thing is she is adjusting a lot for him

Even Dev shud adjust something for her Na..

I felt really bad for sona when he said u don't know anything if she doesn't know anything why will she come and gve that gyaan bhashaa and all...

I even got bad when he said nahiii I will not. Change ..I mean we can clearly see the change in the sona face expression.

She is right everyone is nor perfect same applies to u sona..u should voice out your opinion unless and until you don't voice out Dev cannot understand what you are feeling. It hurts you later because of your silence today.

Glad that there are so many of us who felt this way😊

Sona doesn't know what Dev faced in his childhood, but she is trying to know him. . And even at this point of time, she understands his emotions better than anyone else in the family. Sona was hurt there clearly. She did not expect a no.

The thing is Sona would never voice our opinions about this, because right now, she hasn't even noticed that he was rude to her , It was us who can point it out objectively.

It is Dev, not Sona, who needs to realise that he was wrong. You can't treat her like your punching bag, just because she is willing to help you.

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saumiee

@saumiee

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Posted: 9 years ago

#75

Originally posted by: Sharicafan
I am glad people are noticing this..I felt very bad when he left her in the cafe that day...it was perhaps the worst thing a guy can do on a romantic date...people were happy about the 100th episode and the forehead kiss and many were happy they patched up soon...yet Dev's anger seemed very scary and yes, he did it again! Snapping is not a healthy way of discussing. I hope Sona gets angry after the next fight and makes Dev come over to her house to apologise...I am happy how Sona has managed to stay calm despite unacceptable behaviors by Dev,Ishwari and RR. Dysfunctional family indeed...
P.S I love Dev...It's just that his anger streak makes me worry about Sona...and why has he stopped trying to kiss her or prevent her from going? I miss that..

I know , right?🥱 I am hell of a confused soul. . Because I love Dev so much. . And DevAkshi too. . But I just can't overlook the fact that Sona has to bear so much, just because she is in love.

Everyone in the house is just taunting and yelling at her all the time!

I miss that too😆

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Vimal M

@VIMAL.SM

Stunner

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Posted: 9 years ago

#76

After watching the episode again.I have diff perspective.In first place what was the need for Sona to ask him to sit in Pooja.She could have just left it.Because that's is individual choice.Because Ishwari is sad.She wanted to make things good.I don't want Sona to do this in future.Play family counselor role.

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Curlyhairdiary

@Curlyhairdiary

Voyager

Posted: 9 years ago

#77

Originally posted by: saumiee

Sona is well aware of Dev's complexities and her tolerance levels are good enough to deal with dysfunctional Dixits. .She does influence them all directly or indirectly.
Dev looked too self absorbed yesterday, I think he attended the pooja not because he was affected by her thoughts and decided to ponder over them, but because his conversation with Sonakshi forced him to face the real question, His anger with God or his acceptance for his own God's (mother) beliefs.

Word.Word.WORD. I agree with all the different opinions that are being expressed here, but the thing that bothered me was not Dev snapping at sona or refusing to change.. it's okay, I understand u snap at your close ones when you're upset but then why disregard her sorry for talking about something else and that is, you guessed it, his 'Maa'..

I didn't want him to say sorry or anything, I can understand he has gone through stuff that no child should have to deal with and saying sorry would've discounted that.. But he could've atleast acknowledged her sorry through a gesture or something, like a small smile or just holding her hand or any other innumerable ways which convey,'I get your point, thanks for understanding'.

Contrary to what Ishwari is gonna understand or even Dev believes for that matter, he did not sit in the puja for Sonakshi's sake.. he did it coz her advice made him question the underlying problem he had with God..

I'm getting tired of watching Sonakshi be the giver in the relationship all the time, I understand relationships are not balance sheets and you shouldn't keep tabs about who's giving more and who's giving less.. But total dependence of one person on another is also unhealthy..

My complaint is more to the makers than Dev, coz he deserves the benefit of doubt that if a situation arises wherein Sonakshi needs support, he will be there for her.. as a viewer, I only wish to see such a situation of both parties relying on each other instead of just Dev..

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LiveLoveLife

@LiveLoveLife

Explorer

Posted: 9 years ago

#78

Don't know whether this is a deliberate attempt by CVs. May be later Dev realises how he's been behaving with her. But for him to realise this there wud need to be a meltdown on Sona's part. Well all this is purely assumptions and speculations. But I really do hope CVs read this feedback from all of us.

Well I also asked myself what I would do if I were in Sona's place who is so deeply in love with Dev and of course vice versa. Well as per typical Indian upbringing, most girls by nature have it in them that they be more understanding and adjusting. After all still the culture remains that the girl leaves her maternal home post marriage. There itself she takes her first step towards adjustments. I know this show is not about revolting or changing Indian customs. But it is about relationships in today's day and age. Sona has been a working and independent woman. Like Dev once told her (post Kushal track)...that Sona is an independent woman. She does not need anyone's approval or permission before taking her decisions.

I understand Sona wants to try and keep things happy for Dev which obviously includes his mother. But not liking the way Dev snapped at her - both at cafe and in yday's episode. Hope CVs notice it and incorporate in in the show. Would really respect and appreciate them for that.

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Cool_wonder

@Cool_wonder

Sparkler

Posted: 9 years ago

#79

Originally posted by: aaliah3108

Baby u shall understand this in sometime... Let ur time come... 😆 it's OK yaar... Even I want to see tables turned... Shall we tweet to Mamta mam on this?? What say
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Beautiful aaliah👏...

U have explained it very beautifully😳...any relationship takes time... Two people have to understand and embrace each other ...😳with the short comings...let's see how our DevAkshi relationship devekops😳

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aaliah3108

@aaliah3108

Rocker

Posted: 9 years ago

#80

Originally posted by: Cool_wonder

Beautiful aaliah👏...

U have explained it very beautifully😳...any relationship takes time... Two people have to understand and embrace each other ...😳with the short comings...let's see how our DevAkshi relationship devekops😳

Thanks honey. See we end up counteracting our own views... We are angry at Dev not agreeing to change for Sona which means we want him to change for her... And on the other hand Sona has changed a lot in love but we are asking her to revert back to her own self..which means we didn't want her to change for him... ... 😆 😆 I hope u r getting what I mean... Kya chahiye hum ko?? ... In a relationship both people undergo changes... Dev has and Sona has to... They r comfortable with each other, understand each other, they discuss and agree to disagree which is very good! We cannot expect them to go back to being their original selves... A relationship is an everlasting project in which are times u tend to give ur 100% but at times u may not b able to... That does not mean that the relation is not working... Nothing at all can b perfect... I'll say it's not even close to being perfect... Situations happen and sometimes we just go with the flow. U can't judge anyone. 😊

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