Hi Estee….good episode and your BT, LT does it justice! Awesome
* little thing: after heer took care to pick up prem's dupatta-thingie, what happened to it today??!! i want to know!
Trust you to focus on the last thing on anyone's mind!! It is a good question…
* prem's slap thing: 'kay, i guess everyone here knows i abhor as much as violence. even though there was a warning in that prem-fist tightening at his side, i was comfortable, thinking that it's prem, for crying out loud. even at his most angry, he didn't even slap prashant (just tried to strangle him with his own collar.. ).
writing that, even now, it feels like the strangest thing on earth. and no matter, how much i can see a certain inevitability of the action, there is still no justification i can come up with it. here's really what ended up bothering me after i thought and thought 'bout it. that it was a slap. and that it was only one slap. (you weren't expecting that were you?).
i know this was out-of-control prem. i thought he was going to get physically violent. when heer grabbed prem and tried to shake him, the most natural thing would actually have been to push heer away. and then, because that would have focused him on her, he would've kept pushing and pushing, while shouting at her. until they came to the cliff edge and the final push would've made her fall.
(btw, that was heart-stoppingly done! i swear - from the slap onwards, i was continuously flinching. but when she slipped... my heart was in my mouth. i felt the shock we see on prem's face in my bones, the shock that tells us that he has just been jerked back to being in control, that prem has come back to us. i felt it, i tell you. seriously - i hate how this show has me hooked... )
but instead of pushing her or something, prem slaps heer on her face. i've always detested that action of violence. your face is your identity, your personality. hitting someone on the arm, or on the bum, or something is so much less.. of a personal affront than with a slap on the face. why? why?? i don't think i can forgive prem, my poor-violently-passionate-about-heer prem, for having slapped her.
*silence from my little gang -- acceptance on this one thing.*
This was a very big deal for me. I had already read on the forum about what happened and seeing it was much worse. I thought about this a lot after….of course after having given due consideration to the other parts of the episode as well. I agree that there is absolutely no justification for what he did, but Prem jerking back to reality at the end of the scene made me really want to analyze what would have driven him to this point.
Prem has carried the burden of being the cause his best friend's death for years (???) (frankly, his family is sure as heck not equipped to deal with his emotions…yes G-mom included) So, he is finally with the one person who was meant for him (add to the pile of guilt) and just when he is feeling happy and secure a ghost from his past pokes at him…and since then we have seen him zoning in and out of reality…totally losing it when the song was playing, the urn in his bedroom…as if Sanjana was daring him to be happy when she herself was dead...and adding MORE to his pile was the fact that he lied to Heer.
Heer did not demand explanation…she was just trying to tell him that she did not care about his past…but maybe he wanted to let it all out and be done with it…to be forced to reveal what was really bothering him. Heer has been brilliant in understanding him and pushing him to blurt it all out. Her understanding at this point did not really help the situation…I think she was afraid of what she would hear from him and then she'd be the one to deal with it. Sorry, but in a cowardly fashion, Heer let the burden rest with Prem.
The saree was the final straw…and yet Prem walked away. Had they left him alone at that point, he'd probably have spent the night on the cliffs, guilt eating him up…he would have been back…controlled, but the demons inside him very much alive. But Heer followed him and what followed was Prem lashing out at Sanjana and NOT Heer...for having killed herself and for taunting him with the song, the urn, the saree…that's my take on it…and no, not an excuse for Prem. The slap was…collateral damage…and still not justifiable. Prem after all "bhagwan-nahin-hai" and Heer is the one person that he has shown, he could hurt…because he does not consider her different from him…she is just an extension of his self.
Yeah…it was a shocker all right.
* prem thing: in-control prem doesn't know about out-of-control prem. which, btw, i was fiercely glad for. we get at least that little consistency about prem and his violence towards heer - he had been in extreme distress. when he has his heer safely away from the cliff's edge and back in his arms, it's like it's the first time that he sees where he is, where they have come. it's like he really doesn't have a clue! (which makes me wonder: when he was stalking away from the world, in his blind rage, was he headed towards the cliff's edge to do himself some bodily harm??)
btw, i loved how shaken both of them were. they were literally shivering at their close call, both of them, clutching each other in desperation. the intention was superb. the acting was lovely. i just sooo badly wish these two had a better editing team to put the final product out better. 'cause that bad editing was something that kept standing up and waving "yoo-hoo!" at me from prem's story of sanjana to heer.
Yeah…loved his expression just as he pulled her away….some awesome acting by HC…I simply forget that it is HC that we are really watching and get so caught up with prem…his actions…his expressions…
Loved everything you said about Preet. He is just an awesome brother to have…really knows his PB and the rest of his family. He was excellent…especially with kooky!!
* prem thing: what to say 'bout prem's recital of his vow of everlasting love for heer? i loved the start of "today, i, prem juneja" but more i loved that the first thing that he took permission from to take heer as his wife was ... "these winds"! after all, these are the winds that have always danced around his head, puffing up his hair, acting as a signal that "his" heer was in front of him. and in the end, "mein prem juneja, aaj, apney naam kay saath, apnay astitva, apnay shareer, aur apnay atma kay saath, heer maan ko apnay dharam say, karam say, dil say, aur apnay har jasbaath say, apni patni maanta hoon."
it was firm, it was bold, it was all male, it was ... prem claiming ownership of heer, in front of all the world to see? no, for me, it was more like showing her, in front of everyone, that he s going to match her gift of love with his gift of .. himself and all that he stood for.
*thu... (oh wait a bit, though. can a pool of goop go *thud*?? hmmmm... )
and the best thing of all? this was a .... prem-heer eye conversation! only this time, we get to hear what those eyes are saying! unlike all the other times, where prem and heer can understand it 'cause ... well, they are one. but we always had to guess. and see?! what pretty-pretty conversations those eyes make??
This totally bowled me over…I have no words…you seem to have said it all. And Heer looking up at him with such adoration when he reached out for her hand….awww…. I am not ashamed to admit that had tears in my eyes….and that entire dialogue was so well said…it will take me a while to get over this…..are you calling him 9/25-Prem now?
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