Weekend Musings: A Matter of Principles - Page 2

Originally posted by: soapbubble

1) True - the makers of this serial have really hit a chord with this dilemma - very thought provoking situation, indeed!

2) Hmmm - I still think she was a bit weak. It was a tough 'negotiation' and I think she blinked first.

And I see your point about not being black and white - in fact there is no scenario in this whole kissa that leaves Saachi happy. But I still feel that principles are the guiding lights of our lives... if you think spending this sort of money on one week of celebration is a criminal waste of resources for society, you should continue to think that and act accordingly - particularly when you are called upon to decide.

3) Agreed Saachi isn't as perturbed about her principles as she is about her sister being unhappy. Her priority is her family. That's who she is, and she's a great guy!

Bubble

Originally posted by: Heema22

I am very happy TM has open up this discussion . I was wondering why no one is speaking out against Dowry . I am sure of you have been thru this situation .This is one of horrible custom in Indian culture . We need to fight back and eradicate this dowry system we need to take good stand and set up good example for next generation . I don't think I can ever live with the man or be with the family who expect something in return from my family .

I like the Sher TM has posted. I read it before , but today liked it better , it's cynical but true . . Many people only leave by their principal and refused to back off l and some people have principles and don't follow them .I like persons better than principles, and I like persons with no principles better than who has them and don't follow them .

I am not denying the fact that Sachi has it hard . It's not easy to be surrogate parents . Unfortunately lots of people has to step up to the plate and take family responsibility. This doesn't mean that Sachi has to agree to give in whatever groom family is asking . I want to see female lead to take stand against Dowry . I want to see that saying no to your love one is not feel guilty or consider it as failure . I want Sachi not to take loan , sale her jewelry and spend for lavish wedding which is nonsense. Start with what is right rather than what is acceptable.one thing I know that even child knows that "No is a complete sentence and so often we forget that."

So Sachi needs to say no and DV needs stop supporting and doing illegal act !!!

Originally posted by: --Evon--

I love what you said about dowry. I recently saw how another serial handled this much better. It was also termed "behavior" or something like that but how they shot down every argument in favor of it was awesome..

I think Praachi is the root of all problems. She is not a kid. I can't believe being an educated girl, she wanted her family in so much financial trouble to get married into such a horrible family.

Now, for Saachi, this is not new (I personally hate that!). But she is being the typical (in this case, stupid) girl's family by giving in. And like I said in my previous post she honestly believes Sunil loves Prachi. I would've liked it better if they showed that Saachi's being pressured behind the scenes fro dowry and that both Sunil and Prachi are blissfully unaware. That would be more complex.

Originally posted by: --Evon--

Nice post! I loved the sher.

But your point reminded me of how she wanted to sell her mother's jewelry. I didn't like that decision of hers. I get that this is a mom thing to do by sacrificing her desires for the kids and I understand her dilemma but I was very glad when Aaji refused!

And honestly, I hate how she wants to manage everything but that's her character, so I won't say much. Like when Praachi was inviting 50 of her nonfriends. I was like she shouldn't invite anyone! But Saachi was very generous (though impractical)..

Anyways, coming back to your main point. I think she agreed to this marriage despite her reservations because she honestly believes that Sunil loves Praachi. His family is rich and therefore different.. but with Praachi's insistence on never marrying again, she had no other choice. Plus the whole taboo thing of dahez was hidden in the different form of 'gifts' that she thought was may be common in rich households..

Thanks for making this topic TM.

Originally posted by: Walden

Honestly, I am appalled that people on this forum are not completely outraged by what is being shown thru Saachi's character! The way they have degraded women and girls thru Saachi's actions is beyond despicable! Is this the kind of society that girls on this forum want to raise their daughters in?