Why has Milind’s family turned blind.... - Page 2

Ryka, marvellously put. But fully agree with Kitty and Pippa for their equally wonderful explanations. I typed out a long response but unfortunately because of some network problem it all disappeared. Feel too tired and bored typing it all.

Anyway to keep it short, I know the forum is full of Milsi sypathisers (count me as one too) and Shabbos' realistic potrayal of it only makes it more painful for all of us.

But as I see it there seems to be some poetic justice to it all. Since Milsi himself believes in destiny and fate a lot, I would put it down to his punishment for the treatment he meted out to Prachi for so long for no fault of hers. See life teaches us the hard way. When we may get away doing something bad, the punishment may come to us for something we may not have done. Thats how justice is served.

Milsi never really suffered for all that he did to Prachi. The poor girl even went through a near rape for his misplaced beliefs. He may have a hundred and one justifications for his actions. That does not reduce the pain the girl had to go through, does it? But the minute he relented the girl readily forgave. In fact she forgave him even before that. He did'nt have to go through any torture (except may be a sense of guilt).

Now he is going through the torture and pain for no fault of his (although I would'nt say he cannot be faulted at all because he is suffering also because of his lack of trust) not that it was Prachi's way of getting back at him. Prachi too has her own justification for this (that she wants to spare him the pain of knowing about his sister). You may not agree with her logic much as I would not agree with the logic that makes Milsi think that Prachi is having an affair with Neev, but that is her logic.

So at the end of the day both Mi and Chi have wronged each other and they are paying for it. The only ones who are paying for all this without committing any mistakes are poor hapless Michians like us. For whoever is hurt the pain is ours. Our only fault being that we love these two duffers to the core.

About Shah clan not caring, I would'nt agree with you fully. The first thing PL said after Prachi told her lie is what would Milsi feel. You are the world to him. Dont do this to him for loving you. Now that did'nt seem insensitive to me. She has repeatedly been telling Prachi to tll him the truth. Even at the court house she urged her to tell the truth. It is another matter that Prachi is stubborn. Dont blame PL for that. Why this lady was so worried for Milsi when on the night of SS marriage she was telling Dadi she feared Niharika will create trouble for Suki. Milsi cannot ask for a more loving and caring M-i-l. Since she could not get her stubborn daughter to open up she was asking god's help through that Puja. What was wrong in that?

As to the rest of the clan standing by Prachi, what were they supposed to do, given that Prachi refuses to open her mouth? Cheer Milsi and tell him go for the divorce? Moreover, whoever is at fault, in the Indian society it is much more difficult for a woman to survive a divorce than a man. So they were there to provide their moral support to her. As to why they did not see his pain, as you have admitted yourself, this guy never shows his pain to any one and they are too thick skulled to understand that his anger is nothing but his pain.

Krangara,

I fully agree with u, Prachi has sufferd very much more than mills.I don't deny the last 2 months he has gone thru a lot of pain and agony at the same time think of prachi from the time she married Millind, the agony and pain she has gone thru....Even before Ritwik came in to the scene din't he suspect her,blame her accuse her screem at her for things she never did...But not once she ever complained abt millind to her family or his family.She kept it to herself.

To tolerate Ayesha is must be the worst suffering in Prachi's life.When it comes to Ayesha, Prachi is helpless coz she knws Millind trust and believes Ayesha more than any one in that house. He does not realise that mad women Ayesha not only ruling but ruinning Millend's life. So Prachi in silent is suffering more than Millind.

Originally posted by: Tikkiri

Krangara,

I fully agree with u, Prachi has sufferd very much more than mills.I don't deny the last 2 months he has gone thru a lot of pain and agony at the same time think of prachi from the time she married Millind, the agony and pain she has gone thru....Even before Ritwik came in to the scene din't he suspect her,blame her accuse her screem at her for things she never did...But not once she ever complained abt millind to her family or his family.She kept it to herself.

To tolerate Ayesha is must be the worst suffering in Prachi's life.When it comes to Ayesha, Prachi is helpless coz she knws Millind trust and believes Ayesha more than any one in that house. He does not realise that mad women Ayesha not only ruling but ruinning Millend's life. So Prachi in silent is suffering more than Millind.

so I guess the only thing 2 do now is kill Ayesha 2 save Michi forever

I wl do anything to save Michi forever.

Ryka loved your analysis on Milsi's pain and personally I feel the same, the guy has been abandoned and taken for granted to the hilt. Though I would not hold Prachi entirely responsible, she has borne a lot of suffering. (Though I don't believe Prachi has been very commendable in her trust on her husband but if I say so everyone will be at my throat claiming Milind as a savage animal who hardly deserves her so I'll rest it here!)Now the reason I let her off the hook here is because her feelings and love for Milind are genuine and we all know it though she's a first class fool to assume his reactions on her own and plan her actions accordingly.I personally hate Sukriti because she is the root cause of this crap had it not been for her one night charade we'd have been saved of an illegitimate child in the first place. It's her sin that has so many lives endangered fine she loved Alaap but there's a line to be drawn in that too.I wonder if Baba's negligence brought this on both the children, he led to a wrong path turning into a street alec and she a vulnerable dame ready to shed off her clothes in the name of love.If the woman had some idea of her action's repurcussions well ......that's history now. The magnitude of her stupidity just leaves me in awe if she had indeed slept with Alaap miraculously fallen pregnant too why in the love of humanity did she not get it aborted? Couldn't she have asked Rohan to help her with it as he did help her with the gestation and delivery period.The child would have never existed in the first place and the evidence for abortion could've been easily done away with.With Baba I think the man couldn't balance between work and home. In his attempt to provide them monetary comfort he basically never spent much time with them paving way for certain disaster. As for him trusting Prachi I can't think that's wrong Ryka he has known her since childhood as much as he knows Milind.So it's only natural he sides with her which is only siding with the truth. Though his way of handeling Milind's turmoil is very sad he simply dismisses him and won't listen to any explanation on his part. Never did he ask Milind the whole truth neither did he encourage Prachi to tell Milind the truth cuz I'm sure if he had things wouldn't have turned so bad. Instead he chose sides and made it all the more maddening for Milind who thought his father had abandoned him for his wife.

Ryka luved wht u said....
u said it perfectly... even milind is a human n he can also break due 2 sum other fake truth or lie....

but even milind need 2 understand sumtym dat wht u c might nt b real truth.. like in d case of sukriti...

milind was kwning dat sukriti was rite n alaap was rong.. but venever he saw surktiti n alaap ... suk was in bad impression n alaap in bola bala impression. dere he beleive suk. den y nt believing prachi.......

dat is wht bad i felt abt dat case

Muneeza, as to why she did not abort the child, there is a moral issue involved here. It is a life after all. One would argue that it is worse having a baby and leaving it in the orphanage. But there are others who would argue that atleast the child gets to live and hopefully gets a better life.

Not all children in orphanages suffer all their lives. Many of them are lovingly cared for and if lucky even adopted. These children give hope to many a childless couple. Morwover aborption is very traumatic for any mother. One has to go through it to understand it.

I would'nt blame her for having the baby. I would rather blame her for her lack of trust in her brother, a brother who has done so much for her, a brother who stood by her in the worst of circustances.When the world did not believe her he was the only one who did. Another instance when I felt like slapping her is when she did not have any inclination to remove the child from the orphanage when she had an opportunity to. She had believed that Saket had accepted her after knowing about the baby, did'nt she? Should she not have suggested that they adopt the baby? If she had, then the truth would have come out long back, even before the marriage. Saket may or may not have accepted that but atleast he would not have been in the dark.

In fact I feel Prachi should have encouraged her to come out with the truth both to Milsi as well as Saket, so that if the baby was not accepted by Saket atleast Milsi would. Both Prachi and Suki put the interest of Ritwik at the end and were both more keen to ensure Suki's happiness.

Granted Suki needed a second chance. But poor Ritwik was not even getting his first. If today he is in SM it is not because Prachi lovingly adopted him. It is because she wanted to hide him from Alaap (another one of her foolish plans, bring the baby to the house in which he lives). He is not in SM not by design but out of desperation. And his fate still hangs in balance. That is what irritates me about both of them.

Originally posted by: k-ekta fan

milind was kwning dat sukriti was rite n alaap was rong.. but venever he saw surktiti n alaap ... suk was in bad impression n alaap in bola bala impression. dere he beleive suk. den y nt believing prachi.......

dat is wht bad i felt abt dat case

Shanta, that is why he did'nt beleive her I think. He must be thinking that the entire family put on an innocent face and dupe people! since Alaap did it to his sister, his sister, Prachi is doing it to him!

Seriously I think Milsi better start putting more faith in his wife after this raaz comes to light. I would'nt have him putting Prachi through tests just because he cannot get out of his insecurities. He better understand that there is such a thing as unconditional love and he is lucky to be getting it from his wife although he missed out on it as a child. He better start thanking that destiny instead of cursing it for leading him to her and for escaping the clutches of Ayesha.

Opti there are a lot of children who die miserable deaths just because their parents cared for their own physical pleasures and given an abortion in it's very earliest stages certainly isn't demonic an act. As to Sukriti being a mother yes she really played her part as one well didn't she. Not having the courage to own it up and dumping him conveniently in the orphanage if she knew she couldn't handle the burden of the child's identity why bring it in the world and make several lives miserable including the child's.Prachi ofcourse wasn't much help oh but why waste my brains on such trivial issues when spending nights with Alaap wasn't beyond that Sukriti wat else could one expect of her. I certainly will never ever forgive her for surrendering in to pleasures of the flesh, she is one selfish woman who deserves to be whacked sore.

Muneeza, I cannot agree with you on the abortion issue. Life is a life, early stages or not. Amd to giving in to the pleasures of the flesh, she did think she was married to him did'nt she? She was foolish to trust him but she certainly did not sleep around. So let us not throw the baby with the bath water.

I would'nt blame her too much for what happened with Alaap or even giving birth to Ritwik. But the follow up to that 'bold' decision is really pathetic to say the least.

I had watched a Tamil film long back. In that the heroine has a baby out of wed lock. She leaves her in an orphanage but keeps visiting that child. Later she meets a man who falls in love with her. She tells him of her past and she can marry him only if she can raise her child. He agrees to it since he really loves her. They get married and they come to the orphanag to adopt the girl. Unfortunately the baby is adopted by a childless couple (they would have lost their daughter). The child gets attached to the new family after some time. The biological mother in the meantime gets crazy and her husband desperately hunts down the family whom adopted the baby and begs for the child. After they come to know the truth, they let go of the baby. The story was very moving. But what I wanted to say was that she could have still attoned for her mistakes if only she had told Saket that she will agree to the marriage only if he was agreeable to accept the baby.