Michi's expectations from each other

Milind - A man who has been ditched once by the one he had given his heart. Has come up the hard way and always held the rich in contempt. Felt that they lacked feelings, especially when it involved someone of social status lower than theirs. Because of his background and past, wants total and undivided attention and love from the woman he married. While initially he only wanted attention since he himself had got into the marriage not for love but for revenge, with the passage of time and his gradual attraction and love towards his wife, he not only wanted attention but also all of her love. Not that he expects something he himself is not giving. That man can be the most attentive and the most loving and demonstrative to the ones he loves, be it his father, sister or more importantly his wife.

However, his trust in his wife appears to be still fragile as he continues to be haunted by her past. The only difference between his attitude to his wife prior to the c-night and post is that while earlier he would have thought the worst of her even without giving her a chance to defend herself, post c-night he wants to hear her admit her innocence.

Prachi - A woman who had led a sheltered life up until her father's sudden demise and the ugly secret he was hiding came out into the open. Sacrifice is her middle name. She is too simple (or should I say foolish) not to realise that most of the time her sacrifice ends up hurting the people she loves. Since she has always trusted people in her life she expects those she loves also to trust her as much, especially her temporamental husband whom she loves to pieces. Again she is expecting something from him that she herself is giving. Never once did she question his support to Ayesha. Even when she saw him in Ayesha's bedroom or witnessed her hugging Milsi, she never felt threatened (sadenned may be), because she simply trusts the man she loves.

No wonder she was hurt that after all the closeness they shared, his trust in her is not complete. He still feels the need to hear it from her rather than go by what he feels deep down in his heart. She, on the other hand, wants him to believe her unconditionally and implicitly.

So here is our Michi - One wants unconditional love and attention and the other wants unconditional trust. Not that they are wrong in expecting it since they themselves are giving to each other what they want from each other . But since they are at different stand points in viewing their relationship, they are hurting not only themselves but each other, although that would be the last thing they would want to do to each other.

Guess our penance is to wait for these two duffers to realise what they mean to each other and appreciate what the other wants in them.

Ah I like that part 'first he wanted attention'. Must be referring to the cute 'my wife is busy' episode, right.

Lovely post. I might reply differently in different mood but for now I'm just sad.

It's like a marriage between a man (with all faults and downside as human) with someone inhuman (expecting complete trust, giving complete love, taking all burdens that are not really hers, shooing away all possible harm heading her husband's way single handedly like a blind bull, expecting telepathic skill, etc etc). Now I know what's wrong with Prachi. She's interfering with things that are not really her own business, she's deciding for things she's not suppose to decide alone, in short she's a busy body . A dumb busy body with a golden heart.

Sorry for the offtopic-ness 😭

Yes, Magno, Prachi is the one with a golden heart but an empty head. It is indeed a tough task for Milind to make their marriage work when she is busy constantly undermining it all the while, totally not aware of what she is doing. But if he truly loves her, he has to accept her as she is. For at the end of the day, it is only she who can give him insurmountable happiness and peace although she puts him through hell before that.

And Prachi, she better realise what she has got in a hubby like Milsi. He is insecure and wants constant reassurance from her that he comes first for her. Complete unconditional trust will not be forthcoming (atleast for now). She needs to accept that and ensure that she does not jeaopardise that any further. For at the end of the day, he is the only one who can make her happy.

That's very well said and actually makes me feel better, Optimist 😊😊

Originally posted by: candyfloss

i dunno what to think abt prachs.But she seems to take mills very lightly.If she sufferes than its entirely her fault.She's ruining her love n life with her own hands.

I would'nt say it is entirely her fault though she is substantially to be blamed for what is happening. But for Milsi to take her for her word now that is also something I cannot digest. It is pretty obvious she is lying. He should have atleast made an attempt to find why, not immediately believe everything she says. I guess I am barking at the wrong tree. Cant expect anything more from a man who has not had any basic sex education, can I? The problem is not only is Prachs suffering but so is Milsi and with him all of us. Blame it on the crazy creatives who have come up with path breaking track.

Originally posted by: candyfloss

i dunno what to think abt prachs.But she seems to take mills very lightly.If she sufferes than its entirely her fault.She's ruining her love n life with her own hands.

No, I dont think she takes him too lightly. In fact she credits him with far too much feelings for his sister than he has for her. Must have a very low self esteem indeed to think that a man madly in love with his wife would be more offended/upset to learn that Ritwik is his sister's lovechild rather than his wife's. She has not got into her dense head that this man has been showing that he values her more than anyone in his family. Was he not day dreaming, enraptured in her beauty when his sister's wedding was going full swing? Was he not the one to try to mend his relationship with her (through first confrontation and then consummation) when his sister's bidai was taking place? Was he also not the one to miss seeing off his sister on her honeymoon because he was busy planning a family with his wife? Yet, this girl thinks his sister's shame would be greater to this guy than the shame of his wife.

And as to this being entirely her fault, here again I beg to differ, she is substantially to be blamed for hiding the truth and taking on the blame. But where was Milsi's brain? It is pretty obvious that she was hiding something from him. But that does not mean that whatever she says is true either. He should have atleast made an attempt to get to the bottom of it. Why did he not confront her when she lied to him about going for shopping ? He could have immediately cornered her and asked her then how come he saw her with Neev at the hospital. Man, this guy has been intimate with her and still believes her lie? Sorry, forgot he had no sex education.

And as to her suffering, now irrespective of who is at fault not only is she suffering but so is Milsi and all of us Michi fans. Blame it on the crazy creatives for coming up with this path breaking track.