What happened to Prachi's care for Neev? - Page 3

Yes, being a Wife is far far different from being a Lover... because being a WIFE(in all its real meaning) means being a Lover, A friend, A soulmate and a LIFE PARTNER. Being a Wife is far more a honour and a responsibility when compared with being merely a Lover. And Prachi's priorities are just fine.
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Hey Ryka, I know I do this so many times, but thanks so much for brilliantly putting into words what some of us feel but cannot express as effectively.

This Neev v/s Milind seems to me to be dividing this forum unecessarily. Like you said, being a wife is so different from being a girlfriend. People forget that when she took the seven steps around the sacred fire, she made a commitment towards Milind. When Neev married Ayesha, he made a commitment towards Ayesha, her sister. How can anyone expect Prachi can now go back to Neev?

Love has a different meaning at different stages in life. One may 'love' a boyfriend because he looks cute, he's funny - you can have a reason. Like you have for liking a new dress or haircut. But love for a spouse goes beyond that. You love him because he's part of you. Like your hands, your legs. Your life. Adat ho jati hai. It goes way beyond returning favours to each other, and feeling love, it is about creating love and performing one's duties.

Sometimes I feel maybe the girls who like Neev right now are the younger ones and the ones who understand what Prachi feels for Milind are the older (young!) moms like me?

I do everything for my son right now, from cleaning his butt to changing his clothes, to feeding him to teaching him how to read - does that mean all his life he's supposed to be grateful to me? Tomorrow his duty would lie towards his wife and kids. They will be far higher priorities than me. Today as a four year old he cant sleep without me - ten years from now, I will probably be complaining about his messy room, terrible music taste...That is life. It flows, relationships change. We have to love who we have and move on.

Originally posted by: devilangel

sweetie, i cannot for the life of me agree with what you said. she will always be better than neev was? I mean, answer me this: what the hell did neev do wrong? NOTHING!!.. i am not talkng about any couples here, even though i am a Milind-Prachi fan, but think about neev individually as a character. he didnt blame others at any point, and how can you say that he was worse than prachi? That technically means that you're saying that if you have loved someone but now youre in love with someone else, you're going to forget your first love?!?!... Neev took care of her for her whole life,

Dear..it was...as Ryka said...Prachi who took care of Neev his wole life....more then him...he ...after even their confession of love....couldn't understand or even stand by Prachi...when she was on Sukriti's side against Alaap???!!!!! Or have you forgotten all that.....😕

And to understand more please read Gawkers post.....she explained it beautifully....

milind comes in for a few months and yes, it is passionate and very loving and touching..but that doesnt mean she can forget everything she has done before meeting milind..

Why not....She is married now dear...and her past ...is a past...she has moved on with her life....

Neev needs to do the same...is not a young boy or child anymore...that he needs looking after....from his ex....whose married...and has her won set of problems and priorites....

Again...if you donot understand what I am trying to say..please refer to Gawkers reply....

So i woud lke you to find any example of neev blamng someone else, or being "worse" than Prachi ever would be, and get your facts straight before accusing Neev...

Dear I do have my facts straight.....and I was stating my opinion....

Neev blaming Prachi till now....yeah sure shes one of the reason hes married to Ayesha.....but no one forced him to marry Ayesha...did they....he did it out of his own...if he did not won tot marry her...he could have outright refused.....😕

Also i the episode..where he coems to clear the air between him and Prachi...he again...talks about the wrongs done to him ..by Prachi..Ayesha....so if thats no blaming then what?????😕

I'm sorry if you got offended, but you cant just go around blaming innocent people

Its odd...the word sorry...first Offend someone then say Sorry.....😕

As for being offended ...yes I am....and for accepting your sorry....nah....

Innocent...how...dear.....??? Just because he acts like a victim.....did anyone force him to get married to Ayesha...nah...he made that decision himslef...if he was so...innocent and great guy...he could have refused no matter what!!!!!!

just because you like another couple.

Me ...definitely am a MP fan...love them...as they do seem to be two individuals who have moved on with their lives...instead of wallowing in their past....

And yes, i know, its a tv serial, but this can well happen in real life.

Yes...dear...things do happen in real life...but the lesson one needs to learn is to move on...to come to grips with one past...and get moving with one life.....One can never remain in the past......

As for me, i just hope that when you fall in love for the second time, you wont forget your first lover...

Dear...I hope that when you are married...you donot...remain a confused soul....not knowing whose your main prioroty........ your love and need to be with...your past lover...or your future husband....

One may not forget ones first...but...one can not hang on to it and mess up the future....

You can't just forget someone you claimed to be your "true love" so soon. Neev doesn't even know why Prachi did this. Maybe if she tells him it'll be easier for him to move on. Prachi doesn't care about Neev anymore. How is that possible? Yes, she's a WIFE now and has to care about her husband, but what about her childhood love? She known Neev for so long and loved him, how did she forget him? She would forget Milind soon too if she went back to Neev this way... 😕

Originally posted by: gawker

Hey Ryka, I know I do this so many times, but thanks so much for brilliantly putting into words what some of us feel but cannot express as effectively.

This Neev v/s Milind seems to me to be dividing this forum unecessarily.

Like you said, being a wife is so different from being a girlfriend. People forget that when she took the seven steps around the sacred fire, she made a commitment towards Milind. When Neev married Ayesha, he made a commitment towards Ayesha, her sister. How can anyone expect Prachi can now go back to Neev?

Love has a different meaning at different stages in life. One may 'love' a boyfriend because he looks cute, he's funny - you can have a reason. Like you have for liking a new dress or haircut. But love for a spouse goes beyond that. You love him because he's part of you. Like your hands, your legs. Your life. Adat ho jati hai. It goes way beyond returning favours to each other, and feeling love, it is about creating love and performing one's duties.

Sometimes I feel maybe the girls who like Neev right now are the younger ones and the ones who understand what Prachi feels for Milind are the older (young!) moms like me?

I do everything for my son right now, from cleaning his butt to changing his clothes, to feeding him to teaching him how to read - does that mean all his life he's supposed to be grateful to me? Tomorrow his duty would lie towards his wife and kids. They will be far higher priorities than me. Today as a four year old he cant sleep without me - ten years from now, I will probably be complaining about his messy room, terrible music taste...That is life. It flows, relationships change. We have to love who we have and move on.

Gawker....donot know your real name...but so beautifully put dear....👏 Completley agree with every thing you said.....👏

first of all,its not neev's or praachi's fault,,the story line itself isto be blamed,, those who have been following this serial frm the begining,,knows very well that,prachi's and neev's relationship was not just a skin deep love affair,,i wud hve agreed to this even if it wa neev who left prachi,,but it is impossible 4 prachi's character who was so much in love with neev,,to ditch him like this... ya we have to accept that prachi is married and she have er own different life and neev sud move on,,but her one fault decision
which made neev to marry someone else destoyed 4 ppls life...milind and prachi r happy with each other,ow but i dont think the othe 2 will ever be able to forget their past,,,

Ya… In her once sacrifice mode and now her love for Milind and family, Prachi has completely ignored Neev and his feelings… She was the one who pushed him away from her and get married to Ayesha when she knew that Neev loves her to death and will not be happy with any one other than her… Later she got married to Milind and fell in love with him… But what about Poor Neev… He has been in the cross-fire without doing anything wrong…… Bechara… Love and marriage – lost in both………

@Ryka: I'm bored of saying how well and straight to the point you wrote, General!😃😆

Originally posted by: gawker

Love has a different meaning at different stages in life. One may 'love' a boyfriend because he looks cute, he's funny - you can have a reason. Like you have for liking a new dress or haircut. But love for a spouse goes beyond that. You love him because he's part of you. Like your hands, your legs. Your life. Adat ho jati hai. It goes way beyond returning favours to each other, and feeling love, it is about creating love and performing one's duties.

Sometimes I feel maybe the girls who like Neev right now are the younger ones and the ones who understand what Prachi feels for Milind are the older (young!) moms like me?

I do everything for my son right now, from cleaning his butt to changing his clothes, to feeding him to teaching him how to read - does that mean all his life he's supposed to be grateful to me? Tomorrow his duty would lie towards his wife and kids. They will be far higher priorities than me. Today as a four year old he cant sleep without me - ten years from now, I will probably be complaining about his messy room, terrible music taste...That is life. It flows, relationships change. We have to love who we have and move on.

Gawker I wonder why you wrote so rarely while you wrote so well. I write craps yet I'm going to be a Goldie pretty soon😃 That part about you being mom and takes care of your boy yet understand he will have other priorities in life...😭 I'm truly touched and I miss my mom😭

Agree with everything you wrote, just a slight disagreement:

[quote]Sometimes I feel maybe the girls who like Neev right now are the younger ones and the ones who understand what Prachi feels for Milind are the older (young!) moms like me?[/quote]
I think age is not the deciding point here... It just depends on who we think is hotter between the two troublesome males, which depends on personal preferences😃 But maybe it can't be denied that generally, older(ouch!) women catch Milind's errrm 'charms' easier. Still, for sure there are many exceptions...

As for Topic: I didn't want to answer this earlier, but now I will. Prachi's care for Neev as a friend is still there, I believe. However the writers have given us no storyline to prove it. So it's not wrong either to judge she no longer cares. As for her romantic love for Neev, it's long gone, kaput, dead as a Dodo bird. Some of us might want to blame her for it, but as for me I think it's good for her. Kayamath has a different timeline than the real life. One episode equals a much longer time or something. So past is past.

Here is basanthi's take on it.

Different ppl react to love in different way, so is the time they take to let go of a love. So yeah, Milind and prachi loved somebody, then let go and fell in love with each other. So they can let go of their love faster. But neev and ayesha will take a bit longer ( I hope ayesha lets go I love her too much 😭 along with my shakeela di ) . Its like Anjali and Rahul from KKHH. For anjali rahul was everything loved him and only him, but rahul is not the same he fell in love with another and later fell in love again. Dont we love both of them equally, its just they are diffrent in nature, just becoz Rahul loved again letting go for his first love or wife doesnot make him shallow, its just ppl preference thats all .

In reality the forum is filled with ppl so many different kind of ppl, young gals dreaming of the true love , the first love identify yourself with prachi in love with neev. So first love is important one cannot forget and all. Now few others who are a bit older and experienced with lifes ways identify M and P so its just phase and age and preference. I would say its better for prachi to stay away from neev becoz now its different sigh

Thats just my 2 cents

Ram Ram

Cheerful

Basanthi 😉

errr.... I am just curious and so i'm asking all MP fans -

what exactly did milind do to deserve prachi's love ? where did the soulmates thingie come up from which all MP fans keep talking about ?

he tries to rape her, humiliates her, doesn't trust her, sleeps with ayesha (atleast he doesn't know the whole truth), constantly accuses her of having her an affair with neev, talks extremely roughly with her and is the first one to believe any false accusations against her...

before ppl jump down my throat - i do NOT support affairs after marriage. My problem is - that the show has been very misdirected. if they wanted to introduce MP angle, they should have shown some compatibilty, shown understanding and love slowly blossom.... instead they show prachi as an pati parmeshwar type ammaji from the second she gets married, who meekly takes all crap her hubby dishes out....

Lot of misdirection. If ppl remember the initial promos - it was about neev and prachi only with some dialogue like 'main tumhara saath nibhaoongi kayamath tak' ... what happened to all that ?.. that was the main concept of the show ... i think they started getting better trps or response after shabbir was introduced because he is so popular.. and after that the original idea was thrown out and now everything is hotch-potch! .. right now i don't like any jodi - NP or MP

Originally posted by: bips

errr.... I am just curious and so i'm asking all MP fans -

what exactly did milind do to deserve prachi's love ? where did the soulmates thingie come up from which all MP fans keep talking about ?

he tries to rape her, humiliates her, doesn't trust her, sleeps with ayesha (atleast he doesn't know the whole truth), constantly accuses her of having her an affair with neev, talks extremely roughly with her and is the first one to believe any false accusations against her...

before ppl jump down my throat - i do NOT support affairs after marriage. My problem is - that the show has been very misdirected. if they wanted to introduce MP angle, they should have shown some compatibilty, shown understanding and love slowly blossom.... instead they show prachi as an pati parmeshwar type ammaji from the second she gets married, who meekly takes all crap her hubby dishes out....

Lot of misdirection. If ppl remember the initial promos - it was about neev and prachi only with some dialogue like 'main tumhara saath nibhaoongi kayamath tak' ... what happened to all that ?.. that was the main concept of the show ... i think they started getting better trps or response after shabbir was introduced because he is so popular.. and after that the original idea was thrown out and now everything is hotch-potch! .. right now i don't like any jodi - NP or MP

i agree with you totally....you are right what does milind did that prachi loves him just because he bought one saree and save it from the rains and risk his life but that also because the doctor told him that prachi only gave medicine then his feelings changed for her.....all he needs is proof either sukriti tells him or someone else tells him that what a wonderful wife he has...all he gave her only tears....humilliate her...phsically shaking her...suspects her....nothing else....if now this consumation happens too because prachi clears it that she is a wife to him and neev doesn't exist in her life anymore....there is no sigh of being soulmate in milind-prachi jodi another misunderstanding arise there goes their merry-go-round crying marathon

as for neev someone told that prachi took care of him whole life i am a watcher of kayamath since the beginning and i never see anything like that in fact neev the one who took care of him i can list some of the things what he have done for prachi and in the end what he got

1)he knows abt varun truth and tells the whole family and they all never believe him and inder ask him not to meet prachi till her marriage

2)and again he knows abt the truth he explains prachi not ruin her life but prachi was stubborn because her father matters her most and breaks his heart

3)no matter what he risked his life and calls up swati from varuns home and tells her the truth and ask her to come fast

4)he stops prachi's wedding because he knows varun is a cheater

5)he begs inder not to do anything to prachi as he was responsible to meet her like theif

6)he gets slap from prachi for no reason

7)he fights with his mom n sister for prachi and supported her

8)and in his entire life he never got drunk but because of prachi he got drunk really badly that he can't even stand at all and blabbering her name like a mad guy

9)he begs prachi not to leave him since he can't live without her

10)even now he loves her so much that he is willing to gibe up his life but then in return he wants prachi happiness no matter she is with him or not

11)he even slapped ayesha for trying to charm him and tells her that she can never take prachi's place ever

if only 2 things he made a mistake is the alaap-sukriti -milind thing as prachi supported them but neev did not because of milind arrogant attitute but then when knowing the truth he apologises to her...and now he misunderstands prachi being hunger for money

did above any mentioned has milind done for prachi...i don't think so...soul mate is the one who is happy with his beloved happiness and neev is really her soulmate but she could not recognise....being passionate is not soulmate...soulmate is trust and support and how you maintain the same trust on your love and neev is the guy and milind is not near him...milind can never take neev place...

i don't want prachi to love neev since she is married i just want her to care for him as a friend like he does for her even now...only wants her happiness no matter what....he is not a servant to keep track on sukriti(milind sister happiness in his house and promise her that he will take care of her...or a outsider.....

prachi never loved neev....she just played with his emotions for a few while....but for neev prachi is his true love...

forgetting a true love is not easy and thats what neev suffering...

not only neev but laksh...robbie..anurag are suffering....

because for them love only happens once and the love their beloved gave them in their heart noone can take the place...thats why neev..laksh..robbie..anurag could not forget their love and sufering within inside....