Katha Ankahee -- #11 daily episode DT - Page 8

Originally posted by: Viaanrocks

https://twitter.com/RasmalaizMegh/status/1633033136312569859?s=20

Thanks for sharing.🤗

So KaViaan will not celebrate holi together. Makers are giving realistic approach to the story. No unnecessary drama.....Acha hei.😆 Don't mix personal and professional lives. That's the mantra we should follow.😃

Originally posted by: Ssp123

Okay based on holika dahan and holi get up we can conclude jab katha new dress pehnegi and achchi dikhegi uske scenes Vian k saath nhi Falguni behen/heavily pregnant reet k saath honge 🤔

Lol..🤣

Ab kya karen..

Samajh nahi aaraha hei ki kiski kismat kharab hei. Hamari ya Katha -Viaan ki.😆

Get ready for family wala Holi.😆

Originally posted by: Ssp123

Thanks Mango for sharing it !!

Even i m looking for arrange marriage (love to mujhe hua nhi kabhi ) and it is damn scary

I cant trust people easily ,it takes me 6 months at least to talk to people ,how to decide getting married in one or two months

am glad you liked ❤️; I can totally relate because I am also slow to opening up to people. another routine reason I got rejected was for being serious and reserved. a combination of personality and coming from conservative family, I need time before I am myself. but every rishta meeting felt like a job interview (which I would fail spectacularly 😂) and I would get more reserved.

in my note to amra (see above), I shared about knowing your goals and needs and how that helps with making a calculated risk assessment. I think that can help more in assessing whether someone could be a good fit or bad fit especially when the process is so tightened and we are not given enough time to assess.

even if you know instinctively that someone is not right for you, it is super important to know how to communicate that with your family and why you are making that assessment. -- that is not easy to learn because this is not language we learn generally. that is something I really struggled with and it caused lot of conflicts because it took my family a while to understand what I was seeing and what they were not.

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Originally posted by: Nabni_blr31

Thanks for sharing.🤗

So KaViaan will not celebrate holi together. Makers are giving realistic approach to the story. No unnecessary drama.....Acha hei.😆 Don't mix personal and professional lives. That's the mantra we should follow.😃

But don't you think they have already made sharbat of personal and professional life 🤣🤣🤣

ONS,Yacht date ,stalking what not 🤔

Isse kehte h 100 chuhe kha k billi ne samadhi li

Originally posted by: Nabni_blr31

Lol..🤣

Ab kya karen..

Samajh nahi aaraha hei ki kiski kismat kharab hei. Hamari ya Katha -Viaan ki.😆

Get ready for family wala Holi.😆

Birdie people are saying Ehsan is going to kiss Vian 🤣

Originally posted by: Ssp123

Birdie people are saying Ehsan is going to kiss Vian 🤣

KaViaan nahi toh kya hua..Hume EshViaan toh milega.

Curtesy: Twitter

(1) Doodledu on Twitter: "What is this behavior????? Falling in love with katha was a sham. Actually he wanted to make viaan jealous 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 #KathaAnkahee https://t.co/mSd7xS59d7" / Twitter

@mango.falooda - I might be senior to you in this respect... he he no age mentioning but I understand what you have gone through and can relate. I am single... and I was happy living that life with my parents, but things changed in last two years I lost both my parents now everyone in relatives shows urgency to get me married. For once I understood the pressure my parents had felt as they wanted me to be happy and have a family of my own. I am currently living with my brother and I am still choosy when it comes to any rishta, I have not resumed the search yet but it is better to not marry than to choose a wrong partner. I have seen my friends go through a lot and this is one relation that you make as a choice while others are by blood. It is better to go in it with full conviction. You just need to have confidence in yourself, you don't need validation from anyone. When you love yourself then only you will be able to do justice in any relation for that matter. My advice for youngsters would be to go with your instincts and please choose yourself,noone else is going to live with the choice you end up with,

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

wanted to respond last night but was too tired. as someone who has been through the arranged marriage market and still ended up single, here is my advice from experience:

#1 -- there will be a time when every relative and friend will ask about when you are getting married... and then it will stop completely -- it is like they have written you off. either end of pendulum can be a surreal experience

#2 -- you cannot explain your experience, your reasons to everyone and expect them to get you. some will understand but some won't. so you have to discern who to share and who to just ignore.

we all have stories about terrible alliances as well as rishtas that didn't work out. there will be genuine reasons for why you may be single but frankly most are not going to listen or hear your view. for some, it is a choice and for others, it just worked out that way. not something they planned on.

#3 -- you have to do what is best for you. we all have limits on what we can and cannot compromise. understand where you will draw the line and stick with it.

I have been rejected for all sorts of reasons including being intelligent. apparently a female having a brain is a problem for some people 🙄 but what to say -- it is better they show their colours in the beginning itself. if someone cannot show you and your family respect in the beginning, they won't later. for me, respect is bare minimum.

anyway, my point is be clear about your basic needs -- you are entitled to have some notes on your wish list and there is nothing wrong with wanting certain things. there is no point in compromising and then hating your life afterwards. the wedding itself may be few days celebration but marriage itself is essentially your life. it is you who has to live whatever path you are on. obviously there is going to be compromise but it is important to know where.

#4 -- you have to develop a tough skin. they will come up with all sorts of explanations that may or may not be true. they will give you gyaan that make you feel more worse about yourself. basically people will act like they will know why you are single and why that needs to be fixed.

you need to focus on making sure your self-esteem does not break. for me, my faith in God helped and I strongly believe that God has a plan and purpose for everyone. so if marriage is written for me, it will happen regardless of what people say. when God deems it, always a good time even if it seems delayed under human eyes. 🤷

so I focused on my faith but I will admit that it was hard at times. it is easy to feel like a failure, like you have missed the boat when everyone around you is settling down. it is easy to feel bad about disappointing your parents expectations. basically you have to make peace with your situation and yourself and put your best foot forward. you are you whether you are single or married and there is still a purpose and rhythm to your life.

#5 -- have an explanation that is simple and effective. when people asked, I would just say "whenever God wills" or "it just didn't happen; it wasn't our time" -- depending on one's faith, they would take it however they wish. if they are religious themselves, they won't say anything but if they are not, they will give some gyaan like how you have to put yourself out there. take it in one ear and out the other.

anyways, sorry to folks for randomly inserting in personal chatter in DT but thought it will be helpful for anyone struggling with the whole relatives pressure and rishta process.

@Mango dear🤗

Thank u for sharing this with us. Such an inspiring thing to read. I think most of us have gone through it or some are still going through this so called marriage process. I just don't like the entire arranged marriage process.

I am very happy being single. But sometimes i feel bad for my parents. I am quite used to with questions like WHY ARE YOU NOT YET MARRIED? R U IN A RELATIONSHIP? AFTER 30 U WILL NOT GET GOOD RISTAS AND ALL. But i feel bad when my parents have to go through all such questions.

Even my grandpaa had told me the same thing. God has created you with a purpose. Like u said God has a plan and purpose for everyone. I am still waiting for that and one day i will definitely find out the purpose of my life. Marriage is certainly not the end goal for me. It will happen if it has to happen. I can't waste my life waiting for some prince charming to come.

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