Can Love and Fear co-exist?

Hey guys!

The turn of events has been...let's just say a little less than positive for our wonderful jodi...

Even though i still love Robbie, i must say that i am saddened by his level of trust in Kasturi. I mean, as members have pointed out, it seems as if Devika trusts Kasturi more than our Robbie 😆😉...which is technically true. *sigh*

Anyways, reasons have been given for Robbie's apparent lack of trust, like, when you're in love, there is always a FEAR of losing that special someone. I also believed that line of arguement, or chose to believe it, coz Robbie rocks!😉 😳

BUT, just now, i was reading an editorial, and i came across a very interesting quote that i thought to share with you all:

"It is said that the opposite of Love is not Hate. It is Fear. Where Fear is present, there cannot be real Love and where real Love prevails, Fear is defeated."
Source: http://www.mugglenet.com/editorials/spinnersend/se14.shtml (hehe, yes well HP fever is in the air!)

Anyways, although this quote was made to relate to other matters, it set me thinking...where there is real Love...there can be no fear. whatever that fear may be.
And then we have heard another quote many times, if you love someone, set them free...etc which also alludes to an absence of fear.

Yes there is the fear that you will lose them...but that's the fear FOR them, like some harm will come to those you love.

compared to the fear that the ones you love will do harm to you...which is what Robbie is feeling right now...(Kasturi caused him pain by her dhoka)

Maybe love really can't happen just like that. Maybe it does need nurturing. Which hasn't happened as yet with Robbie and Kasturi. Maybe it isn't the 'all powerful love' yet, still just a powerful 'kashish' (pardon me as i use this link between the two shows 😉) and that's why fear still exists in this relationship?

*sigh* i don't know...i haven't actually been "watching" the show this past week...coz Karan Patel has a tendency to make me empathise with his character and well....yeh...😳

So, anyways, back to the point...What do you guys think?
Can Love and Fear co-exist? (remember the fear i'm talking about isn't the one of harm happening to loved ones, it's the fear that Robbie feels...of Kasturi hurting him)

Or are Robbie and Kasturi yet to discover their 'real' love for each other?

Okies...now, i want to know what you people think? (to those who have actually made sense of this post...kudos in advance! 😉😆)

Ena😛

Originally posted by: priyankumupal

ok here's what I think about love and fear, and this is not entirely my own opinion, a priest once told me that the fear we have of losing someone we love is not because we fear for them, but we fear for the loneliness we feel when we lose them, so what I basically want to say is that humans are selfish and love is also a rather possessive emotion.
oh wow, how true is that? amazing!! that alone brings a whole new definition to the word 'love'. and it's so true! and it fits in so well with wat it means to be human....👏👏👏

anyway moving on to the point of what you asked, well what Robbie has in my opinion is a rather bad upbringing which has rooted baseless fears in him, imagine you grow up in an unstable environment and all you see is betrayal all around you so you would tend to mistrust which naturally brings in fear. Fear of getting hurt. and as I said earlier no one wants to get hurt.
he has had a terrible upbringing, for sure...but why is he quick to mistrust everyone but his mother? granted she has had a powerful influence over him...but Raunak has also always been there for him...and in believing that Kasturi is 'wrong' doesn't that also point to Raunak being in the wrong too? and hasn't Robbie said that he only trusts/believes two people in this world...Raunak and Kasturi? Yet he chooses to believe his mother?
But yeh, it is true that his upbringing is a major factor contributing to his own instability.

I don't believe that the opposite of love is hate either but it's also not fear, opposite of love is indifference, imagine, your in love, that would be the happiest thought you can have, you can't stop thinking about that person, your consumed by this emotion. So imagine the complete opposite of that emotion. That would be indifference, when you don't care two hoots or when you don't even know someone, now that's opposite of love.
Although i am enticed by this...i am still in two minds...like i could be totally indifferent to something or someone, but...like, i still don't see it as an opposite to love. granted it fits logically, as love means u think non-stop about the person and indifference is where that person doesn't matter...but does that point to the indifferent person's ability to love? Coz when you consider the opposite to love, it's that person's ability to feel that emotion. You being indifferent to one person, doesn't mean you cannot have powerful feelings of love for another.
But where Fear exists, love cannot. if you fear that person...i guess you could love them...but only till a certain extent...oh gosh this is such a circular theory 😆

Hate is the abused or injured love or emotions. What Robbie now feels is that, he thinks he hates kasturi but in reality what he feels is that he's love has been abused by her and when the fear of getting hurt creeps in to someone's mind it's hard to think rational thoughts.
If Robbie can love so fiercely, ahhh....he can also hate with the same velocity. which i personally don't want to witness...but yes, he does feel as if his love has been abused, that the one time he let himself be vulnerable, open to someone else, that one person abused that power...what a state poor guy must be in. damn his instability! lol

So all in all I think Robbie and kasturi are truly in love and the lack of growth and the fact that Robbie has a dark past are the causes to break their relationship not absence of love.
But their love does need time to 'grow' right? What do you reckon will be the foundation of trust in their relationship? As there is love, but no trust? and you have to have both in a relationship. that we all know...geez how many K-serials have all of us seen? 😆
But of course, in a way i am happy that all of this has happened early on in their relationship...as it would hurt more if it happened later down the track...*sigh*

P.S- even I'm a big HP fan, can't wait until the book releases.
omg! tell me about it! i hate this month long wait! ARGH!! :P

P.S this was fun to discuss with you! Thanks for replyin with such a detailed post! :D:D