Story of my life - Page 5

To Veena and Bluepink,
Thank you both.

Thank you Veena and Bluepink...that was beautiful...especially the "akash" part 😃

It is so amazing to me that women can be so strong when times are the hardest. I love this forum!!!

Thank you bluepink and Veena for you good wishes. Yes women are amazingly strong and one cannot break them easily. We process our grief and move on.

Thank you all for welcoming me into this forum.

Hi - its me again.

Bluepink the 'akash' part is wonderful - hope everyone finds their akash. For me I am past that age where I would go looking for akash.

Hello!!

I'm back and feeling great!! The boys and I are settled into our new home. It is fantastic!!!

Peacestead - I am not joking. This is really the story of my life. There is no joking about it, the pain is too real!

Pinky05 - Bless you and you should know that you are never too old to find your Akaash.

BluePink - thanks for that wonderful card!! It is beautiful.

HE did call me on sunday night crying. (I know perfectly well the reason was) because his girlfriend left to catch a flight back home. The witch flew in on friday the day I moved. He actually took down our wedding picture so that she would not see it. ANYWAYS, I am away from all of that crap.

As Pinky05 was saying that she her ex back, but only to have hime cheat again; Well you all may not believe this but everybody is right, once a cheat always a cheat. Mine did it to me at least 15 times and those are the times I know about. It took me a long time to get strong. But now I feel empowered to never look back again and I kick myself that why I never had the guts to leave him before.

This is what happens when there is emotional and mental abuse, it takes a very long time to break free. But now that I have, I sit back and wonder why did I not do this sooner. Every time he starts his tricks on me I say this to myself: THANK GOD I AM GONE!!

Hi ladies,
My mom would always tell me that women are stronger than men. I never believed her, till I went through this phase in my life.

Welcome back Sharmila!!

Ever noticed that men cry after they mess up so bad that there is nothing that they can 'do' about it. They rarely cry about emotional stuff that they put their families through.

Isn't that the truth. He will be crying more when a few months have passed and he realized that I have not come running back. Piya used this line in today's update that totally hit home, because it is so true:

"He never thought of all that. She reminds him that drinks etc. wont end his frustrations. She pleads with him to look after himself. She says if he does not do anything, she wont have any choice but to tell Ratna everything. She reminds him that he is the one who gave Ratna so much power, so much rope to come till here, and if she did clutch that rope and come till here, its not her fault."

My ex actually gave her the power for her to get to where she is today and that is sleeping in my bed!!! Anyways!!! Life does go on and get better!!!!

Ekomas - your mom as well as my mom are right - women are definilty more storng and I feel really strong!!!!

Hats off to you all ladies.It is so great to know that among Indian women ,there are people like you.
I still remember how my mother silently suffered in her marriage and put up so much crap fearing that if she leaves her husband , her daughter will suffer from the bad reputation.
My Dad never had relationship outside marriage.He was so much insecure because she is an independant working woman and had a charming personality.He tried to subdue her by insulting her in front of people , physically abused her so many times and tried to show his dominance by mistreating her.Well, all these things were there in our family till I was old enough to stand up against him.
Still , I never think of my mother as being weak.My heart bleeds when I think of what all as a woman she suffred and she put up with it for my sake.But , she is the strongest person I ever know and because of her I am also strong person.
What I want to point at is , husband cheating on wife is not the only reason why the woman should walk out of marriage.We should also stand up against any kind of abuse i.e. physical , emotional , intellectual abuse.
We should learn to live with all the self respect any human being should have.