Story of my life - Page 4

Originally posted by: ekomas

Dear Sharmila,
I have been reading your articles. Good luck and cheers to you for standing up strong. Use this time to strengthen your relationship with your boys. Make them feel secure and safe. I do not know if you have mentioned their ages - but mine was 1.5 years old when I decided to walk out. I waited until my boy was 10 before I even thought of looking for my "Akash". My situation was that I told my ex that he can have everything, if he does not ask for joint custody. So he chose the materialistic things and I chose the most priceless gift that God has given me. Now after 12 years, my ex is dying to see my son. My son wants nothing to do with him. For my son, my parents, sister and brother's family and me are everything. My son has the self-confidence, integrity, and values that any parent can be proud of. If you ever want to talk or just vent out, you can email me at deepaz2005@yahoo.com. Once again, good luck to you and your boys.

i am so proud of you and your son...awesome revenge on people who dont deserve to be with anybody because material things are all they care about!

Thank you all again for your support!! Ekomas, I totaly admire your strength and setermination!! He wants to be a part of the kids lives and I am not going to take that away from him because he has finally realized that his kids need him as well. I agree with you, my kids (12yrs and 6yrs old) are my most prized possesions and showing them that I have the strength to move on and not put up with the bull@!#, will make them respect me and other women that may come in their lives in the future. I don't plan on jumping into any relationship any time soon, but it would be nice to have someone love you and respect and take care of you and not abuse you. Ekomas, you are right, your family has become everything for you son. Lucky for me not only do my boys (and I) have my family, but we have his family as well. Teh relationship which you see with Piya and her MIL, it's exactly what I have.
Well it's move day tomorrow and I am soooo excited!!!

Originally posted by: Sharmila

Oh my goodness!! I am so hooked on this show!! This is what I am living! I so toaly feel Pia's pain!! Like Pia, I have decided to move on!! This show should just be about me!!!

OMG sharmila, I feel so bad for you, really are you in a similar condition? are you joking? if not then just kick him to the curb and move on, there are so many wonderful guys in this world and never trust him again even if he comes begging with his tail between his legs, once a cheater always a cheater, wish you all the best for the future and god bless.😊

Sharmila, Good Luck to you!! Your kids and you are lucky to have his side of the family with you also. Once again, good luck.

Hello Sharmila:

Congratulations on showing and courage and aking the bold steps to move on as you have done. I have been reading your posts and everyone's replies and I totally agree with what peacestead says as to never consider trusting him and taking him back.

I understand your situation completely as I have also lived through the same experience (my boys were 8 and 11) when it first happened. He apoligized and I agreed to try and work it out and guess what. It happened again with the same person (maybe she was never out of his life) again after 3 years. We separated at that time and my divorce was finalized 10 months ago.

You are lucky to have family around you to support you. I have no one as everyone is back in India and because of the kids I could not take the decision to move back to India. My father was also having major health challages at that time and I think this was just too much for him to bear and he deteriorated very fast after that and passed away in 2003.

However, this has made me a stronger person and I had resolved to give 100% to my 2 boys and decided never to enter into another relationship again. It has worked out in a very positive way for me. My kids saw their mom work through all the pain and move on and forward and still be the strong center for them - always available for all their needs. We have conquered all this together and have a fantastic relationship now. My older one just started college in September and the younger one is now in the 10th.

Never look back - just keep looking ahead.

Dear Pinky05,
Welcome to our group. I am really enjoying this group's posts. It is nice to know how women face the difficulties and emerge as winners in the long run. Our goal should be that we raise our boys to be better human beings, to teach them to value the females, no matter who they are. I sometimes wonder that the husbands who mistreated their wives, do they really respect their own mothers? Or are they just acting out what they saw in their childhood? Oh well!! Sorry for going off the topic. Welcome, once again.

pinky05, welcome to the forum! we have some smart and intelligent ladies in our kasshish section. i'm glad you took the right decision at the right time. 👏 👏 to all you brave ladies.

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I wish each & every one of you the best in the future...and Pinky you said it : Never look back- just keep looking ahead.

Originally posted by: bluepink

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and by sky i mean akash😉