Discussion: What If????????? - Page 4

[quote=nyzbabigyal][quote=kajolfan]true but who actually has that kind of time on their hands.. to go search for their soul mate in another person apart from their spouse.. This is one of the glitches of "finding your soulmate"....I doubt everyone goes around searching, and hitting on every Tom, Dick and Harry and says, "Hi, I'm such and such, are you my soulmate?" "Hmmm, I'm feeling lucky....I think you are!" It simply doesn't work that way. I'm certainly no expert on this but I think soulmate connotates a spiritual connection where only the two parties involved can understand. i agree.. well said.. "spiritual connection".. its just understanding one another.. witout having to say anything.. that's jb😳

i mean if ur spouse keeps u happy.. would u develop those kinda feelings fo someone else??? This would depend on one's definition of "happy" and again, if one finds their soulmate in their spouse then obviously there wouldn't be that "pull" towards anyone else. wat if that "pull" is more of a romantic attraction u have towards that person and u mistake it as a "hey ur my soulmate" would u look at someone who u share a lot in common wit and be like "hmm we're soulmates".. .. i mean it could happen.. but if that happens.. would u betray ur spouse - d one who's always there fo u.. and so on... its just bac to being complicating.. there's a lot u have to look at.. there is no perfect answer😕 No perfect answer indeed! exactly its too complicating.. if one situation's good.. then d otha doesn't fit d puzzle.. there's always two sides to a coin... u gotta look at both of 'em... and they both have their rights and wrongs.. d good .. d bad..

Originally posted by: fsam

Harveen the resentment would not stem from infidelity, but the fact that you chose to honor your committment to that one man/woman. It is human nature to lay blame when one is not happy or emotionally satisfied, right or wrong no one takes the blame. You would look at him and feel/realize if not for him I would be with my soulmate leading to the resentment.

I think this too is debatable. I mean it can be looked at either way. True, it is human nature to place blame on others rather than ones self, but I doubt that it is always the case that the person who is being unfaithful will truly blame his or her significant other. Again it is not your husband/wifes fault that you have met your significant other when it was "too late", and you might show some resentment, then again you might just distance yourself, and keep away. I see both sides to this one as well.

(ok. im seriously done for now gals.. cant sit up any longer...)

Originally posted by: nyzbabigyal

[quote=nyzbabigyal][quote=kajolfan]true but who actually has that kind of time on their hands.. to go search for their soul mate in another person apart from their spouse.. This is one of the glitches of "finding your soulmate"....I doubt everyone goes around searching, and hitting on every Tom, Dick and Harry and says, "Hi, I'm such and such, are you my soulmate?" "Hmmm, I'm feeling lucky....I think you are!" It simply doesn't work that way. I'm certainly no expert on this but I think soulmate connotates a spiritual connection where only the two parties involved can understand. i agree.. well said.. "spiritual connection".. its just understanding one another.. witout having to say anything.. that's jb😳

i mean if ur spouse keeps u happy.. would u develop those kinda feelings fo someone else??? This would depend on one's definition of "happy" and again, if one finds their soulmate in their spouse then obviously there wouldn't be that "pull" towards anyone else. wat if that "pull" is more of a romantic attraction u have towards that person and u mistake it as a "hey ur my soulmate" would u look at someone who u share a lot in common wit and be like "hmm we're soulmates".. .. i mean it could happen.. but if that happens.. would u betray ur spouse - d one who's always there fo u.. and so on... its just bac to being complicating.. there's a lot u have to look at.. there is no perfect answer😕 No perfect answer indeed! exactly its too complicating.. if one situation's good.. then d otha doesn't fit d puzzle.. there's always two sides to a coin... u gotta look at both of 'em... and they both have their rights and wrongs.. d good .. d bad..

{wat if that "pull" is more of a romantic attraction u have towards that person and u mistake it as a "hey ur my soulmate"}

Exactly! Oftentimes, people do tend to equate a romatic attraction towards a person and as you put it, mistake it as a "hey you're my soulmate"....let's get married! I don't subscribe to the idea but the fact is that it happens that people do get married oftentimes due to impulse and/or conveinence. But unfortuantely later finds out that after that attraction and infactuation has diminished, there's no connection. It is that spiritual connection...that undescribable bond that distinguishes infactuation from soul connection.

Very good discussion !!!!
Jai and Bani would have definitely been drawn to each other and realized that they were soulmates but having the strong moral ethical foundation embedded in thier personalities they would never break the sactity of marriage. They would have deliberately moved away from each others hemisphere although their souls would forever be entwined.

Mentally, the minute they realized the fact that they were each other's soulmate they would have been guilt ridden because to both even that realization would have constituted as infidelity!!

If either of them were married then we would never have seen them together and they would have each held true to the institution of marriage.

Thankd god that wasn't the case otherwise we would never have seen them together !!!

Nina

Originally posted by: Hkaurk22

Again I hope it makes sense..

See- this is a very debatable discussion- it can seriously go either way.. In no way is it fair to any party involved...

Absolutely unfair to all parties involved and it is a very debatable discussion that can only provide subjective responses.

Originally posted by: kajolfan

{wat if that "pull" is more of a romantic attraction u have towards that person and u mistake it as a "hey ur my soulmate"}

Exactly! Oftentimes, people do tend to equate a romatic attraction towards a person and as you put it, mistake it as a "hey you're my soulmate"....let's get married! I don't subscribe to the idea but the fact is that it happens that people do get married oftentimes due to impulse and/or conveinence. But unfortuantely later finds out that after that attraction and infactuation has diminished, there's no connection. It is that spiritual connection...that undescribable bond that distinguishes infactuation from soul connection.

its true.. it does happen.. ppl take that romantic attraction to.. defining ones soulmate.. even though that's not how it should be.. then they get married and they realize.. they have nothin in common.. except fo d fact that they can fulfill one's desire - only "romantically"

hey this reminds me of pia and pushkar.. i mean pia took his "gift" i don't know how to say it.. but she took that as "love" .. and later realized hmmm.. not love but then pia's case is hopeless.. she goes where money goes..

Originally posted by: shahni4

Very good discussion !!!!
Jai and Bani would have definitely been drawn to each other and realized that they were soulmates but having the strong moral ethical foundation embedded in thier personalities they would never break the sactity of marriage. They would have deliberately moved away from each others hemisphere although their souls would forever be entwined.

Mentally, the minute they realized the fact that they were each other's soulmate they would have been guilt ridden because to both even that realization would have constituted as infidelity!!

If either of them were married then we would never have seen them together and they would have each held true to the institution of marriage.

Thankd god that wasn't the case otherwise we would never have seen them together !!!

Nina

Nina,

Amen to that! However, I don't know how sure I am that if such a situation had played out in Kasamh Se that the two parties involved would have easily moved away from each other. Yes, they were both strong personalities with strong "values," but they are also two individuals who have their own definition of right and wrong so it's hard to say that they would have easily thought it "right" and/or "fair" to walk away.

Originally posted by: fsam

Navs/Rani yes alot of time a romantic pull is often mistaken as that of a soulmate, but with your soulmate the same yearning and longing exits after the roamnce has been removed from the equation.

Ok.. so not totally gone yet..

That is a good way to look at a soulmate girls. Its not all about the romantic connection like I said. Even without the romance, you feel drawn to them, like there is something there that is beyond explanation. No matter if there is no physical relationship, you are emotionally bound somehow.

You guys are right, that a lot of people assume they have found their soulmates, and then realize that that special bond/connection they had initially saw is in fact not there, and was masked by the term love.

Rani

I think that JB would have initially walked away from each other in sucha situation but they would have also been completely honest and forthcoming to thier partners and would have let them decide the course of the future.

If JB had acted on their feelings for each other when either or both were married I don't think they would have survived the guilt!!!!

Nina

I dont know if anyone is interested to answer to this ..But since Rani has fowarded a question ..about finding your soulmate after u done married ..Then waht .. so as we all Know originally Jai was supposed to be Married to Pia and later on fall in Love with Bani . and what If Jai had , had the ONS with Bani being in Love with her .. Like in Kank > Now Bani Fans Might say ..That Bani 's character wouldnt be portrayed in this manner or perhaps The way her role is Now some of us cant imagine her as the Other woman ..? I for One was always for Jai marrying Bani ..from day One ..and My god the day I read the update that jai married bani ..OMG my happiness knew no bounds .. But today I ponder whether I would like to see jai falling for Bani while married to Pia .
Good Post Rani ..

Klue