Discussion: What If????????? - Page 2

Originally posted by: kajolfan

Indeed, their characters are such that they would have "sacrificed" themselves for their principiles, truth, and loyalties. However, how fair would that have been to them and to their respective partners (albeit their intentions)?

Truth be told it wouldnt be fair. But the problem is neither sides of the coin in this situation is fair. On one hand, you are really in love with someone else, yet you have a family that you have made a life long committment to, yet are never truly happy in your life because you have lost that one true love. On the other hand, if you broke your marriage, you have broken that life long commitment, hurt those around you, although you are with the one you love. Each side in this case has its ups and downs, therefore truthfully speaking, going for your soulmate, you are not being fair to your family, and staying in that marriage, you are not being fair to yourself.

The situation would be worse if there are children in the picture. Those children would lose faith in relationships, not know who to trust (esp if they can not trust a parent). The psychological effects of this can be very grave.
'Over all, both sides has its faults. The problem is weighing which one is worse.

Originally posted by: rivya

just a quick question -

Does this discussion not base on how you define a soulmate? and whether you believe that your soulmate and your life partner have to be the same person?

Rivs

I think its very similar to KANK- where neither SRK nor RM believed that their significant others were their soulmates... They found their soulmates in each other after they had met their life partners..

I think if you believe your soulmate is your life partner, and have met them- it is a different situation..

Originally posted by: fsam

Harveen good point, but the question then arises can you be comitted to your marriage. Are you being faithful to your husband, if you long to be with someone else?

Farah- read the answer to Rani's question.. I think I answered it..

Originally posted by: fsam

Haru very well said, both sides have their faults and heartache attached to it.

Exactly- both are hand in hand with heartache! I mean it would be painful to be living with a person, and giving them a committment that you know you can not give your 100 percent to. It would be painful for that life partner.. and would hurt your just as much knowing that your heart just doesnt belong there..

allright people.. I think im done for a few hours.. my head is splitting..

Originally posted by: Hkaurk22

I think its very similar to KANK- where neither SRK nor RM believed that their significant others were their soulmates... They found their soulmates in each other after they had met their life partners..

I think if you believe your soulmate is your life partner, and have met them- it is a different situation..

Harvu, Navs -

Based on this it would mean that you believe that a soulmate is a person you have to be romantically involved with...

Sorry to divert you gals from the topic on hand...

Rivs

Originally posted by: rivya

Harvu, Navs -

Based on this it would mean that you believe that a soulmate is a person you have to be romantically involved with...

Sorry to divert you gals from the topic on hand...

Rivs

I dont think a soulmate is just a romantic connection. It goes beyond that- sometimes you just feel a connection with someone, and it goes beyond love and friendship. You know how they say you meet someone and you feel like you've known then your whole life? Something like that. Its that connection that has no single definition.

Originally posted by: rivya

just a quick question -

Does this discussion not base on how you define a soulmate? and whether you believe that your soulmate and your life partner have to be the same person?

Rivs

How many different definitions are there of "soulmate?" Unfortunately, many a times one's "life partner" isn't always their soulmate (rightly or wrongly).

Originally posted by: fsam

Rani very thought provoking post. Here is my opinion.

Yep you can and people do find their souldmates after they are married. As it is not always necessary to be married to your soulmate.

To answer your specific question in my opinion they would have realized that they are soulmates, it would be impossible not to, as they were living in the same house and working together. I think once you realize that the opposite person is your soulmate it hard not to feel a sense of belonging. Just because that is the person who is ideally suited for you and understands you better than anyone else.

They might have eventually reached the same position they are in today, depending on the path they chose. Depending on the hurdles they chose to cross or not to cross. In such situations I think each story ends differently. Depending if the married soulmate chose to honor his commitment or follow love.

This indeed is a very subjective question and there can only be subjective answers, but what do you think is "right" and/or "fair?" This question is also heavly dependent on how one defines "right" and "wrong".

Originally posted by: rivya

Harvu, Navs -

Based on this it would mean that you believe that a soulmate is a person you have to be romantically involved with...

Sorry to divert you gals from the topic on hand...

Rivs

well srk and rani - they had a lot in common.. their personalities and blah blah - they were similar.. they could talk to each other openly and understand and each other.. and yep they did take that step further and "did it"

no i don't believe ur soul mate is someone ur romantically involved wit... cuz even though srk and rani did take it that far.. but they did show.. how much quality time they spent wit one another and understood one another.. that's y it reminded me of KANK

Originally posted by: Hkaurk22

I dont think a soulmate is just a romantic connection. It goes beyond that- sometimes you just feel a connection with someone, and it goes beyond love and friendship. You know how they say you meet someone and you feel like you've known then your whole life? Something like that. Its that connection that has no single definition.

So if a relationship between soulmates is beyond love and friendship...much more deeper and can be anyone then - how can finding a soulmate outside of marriage be called cheating on your spouse?

Just me personal feeling that you soulmate can be anyone in the world including your own siblings or parents...

As for Jai or Bani, if they are truly soulmates and were given an opportunity to actually realize that they were soulmates it would not matter what their marital status is. Again this does not mean they will be romantically involved in the KANK sense.

But knowing the way these characters are portrayed, I doubt they would have as much chance to know each other as well had they been married to someone els. The reason they realized they are soulmates if because their marriage and the prodding by Masi caused them to be in circumstances where they realized their connections.

My two cents...

Rivs