Discussion: What If?????????

Jai Walia has always maintained that his relationship with Bani above all else, is one of a soul connection. It is this connection by the "souls" (in spite and despite differences galore in terms of status, age, personality and outlook on life) which have made them the iconic pair they are in reel. Sometimes its hard to distinguish who loves whom more and their love story is truly unique in that here's this much older man who has found his "soul-mate" in a much younger woman. We all know the history of their tale but I'd like to pose a "what if" question and a what if senario.

Disclaimer: I am in no which way suggesting or promoting any particular thought with this "what if" senario, so please don't come after me with your brooms, belans, slippers, bats, bricks etc.

What if Buddha was married before the "Dixits" came to Mumbai on that fateful (or unfateful) night? Would Jai Walia and Bani Dixit have still discovered each other?? Would that sense of "belonging" still be lingering? Would their "souls" have reached the same destinations in spite and despite walking different paths?? People say that "love is blind," that being said, without questioning the rightness or wrongness of such a situation, is it possible that one can find their "soulmate" after they've married someone else???

If one does find their soulmate after they are married, what should they do?? Should they honor their commitment or should they follow love?? (Farah, this question caters especially to your query!)

P.S. Ph.dians, this is dedicated to you all so get on with the discussion and put your certificates to use! 😃

Originally posted by: nyzbabigyal

k u just reminded me of KANK 😆 i have no idea.. so i really don't know how to answer your question its complicating.. personally - i mean PERSONALLY.. ahem if one finds their soulmate in someone else.. after marriage.. that is.. i don't know that's just.. it .. it just is creepy

"Complicated" and "Creepy" it might be along with many other things....but we're not discussing the rightness or wrongness of such a situation, rather, it's a "what if" senario. What would you do if you found your soulmate after you've married someone else?? Let's face it, sometimes people do things impulsively and that includes marriage. People at times do things for convienence and that again also includes marriage.

Coming to J&B, what if they had found each other after one or the other was already married?? What would they have done do you think??

Hey Rani, I think you have posted a very good discussion and I hope my answer, and I hope this makes sense.. read your PM and you'll know why..

I truly believe that soul mates are meant to be, and those that are lucky in life get to meet them. The fortunate ones actually marry them in real life, and even at times that is rare (I just read Nav's post and she's right, it is much like KANK).

The problem is this is a much debated discussion. If you do find your soul mate after you have married, then you would be considered at fault for not being committed to your marriage.

In terms of JW, I doubt that he would have strayed from his marriage. The reason I say so is because even during the time he was married to Bani, and they werent intimate, he was never unfaithful. He still valued the sanctity of marriage and their vows. How easily he could have faltered and gone off with Roshni Cobra, right? But he didnt, even though at first he was not in love with Bani (or at least he didnt realize it).

Had JW been married, the love story in front of us today would be nonexistent. There would be no way that Bani would run after a married man, or persuade him to leave his wife and pursue a relationship with her. The characters that we have in front of us would have to be different for that situation.

If you look at KANK, then yes Rani Mukherjee's marriage was on the rocks, as was SRK's. But I still maintain that JW would give his all.

Even if they had discovered that they were each others soulmates I think they would have left it at that. They would not pursue it for the sake of their loved ones (esp if there were children around). They would have accepted the fact that their significant other is not their soulmate and would have accepted it, no matter how difficult. (this is assuming their characters were the same)...

Originally posted by: kajolfan

"Creepy" it might be along with many other things....but we're not discussing the rightness or wrongness of such a situation, rather, it's a "what if" senario.

IF that had happened.. jai already being married.. then i don't know.. d way they neva really got along wit each other.. like as a viewer of the show.. i neva saw so much chemistry in them in the beginning episodes.. as i did in ranveer and bani - for some odd reason i alwayzz thought they'd get married instead of jb..

but then they alwayz had this connection.. he was already concerned about her (like when jigs came wit mohan khandwal's proposal fo bani).. so maybe knowing her a bit more... they mite have developed a certain kind of relationship wit each other but then would they really understand each other and to get to know each other in depth like they did after marriage?? would she had gotten to see the different him.. the one - even in anger shared his pain wit her.. its not like they worked together.. she worked under him.. they rarely met..

did that make sense😕.. sorry fo blabbering

Originally posted by: Hkaurk22

The problem is this is a much debated discussion. If you do find your soul mate after you have married, then you would be considered at fault for not being committed to your marriage.

ye.. that's wat i meant to say.. if u start finding a soulmate in someone other than ur spouse.. ur legally at fault fo not being "committed" enough.. and seeing bani .. d way she is.. even jai - they're definetely not d kind.. who'd break their vows.. to go be wit their soul mate.. their marriage - their vows mean a whole lot of deal to them.. if.. IF they did think that they were meant to be... "soul mates".. they'd keep it hush hush and move on.. instead of leaving their other half..and breakin those sacred vows.. cuz marriage to them.. is a one time deal - not a joke..

[quote=kajolfan]If one does find their soulmate after they are married, what should they do?? Should they honor their commitment or should they follow love?? [/quote] i'd definetely say they should just stay committed but then that's my opinion.. cuz u gotta think about ur surroundings.. u can't just marry someone.. and then leave 'em because u have found ur soulmate in someone else.. marriage is not a joke..

Originally posted by: nyzbabigyal

ye.. that's wat i meant to say.. if u start finding a soulmate in someone other than ur spouse.. ur legally at fault fo not being "committed" enough.. and seeing bani .. d way she is.. even jai - they're definetely not d kind.. who'd break their vows.. to go be wit their soul mate.. their marriage - their vows mean a whole lot of deal to them.. if.. IF they did think that they were meant to be... "soul mates".. they'd keep it hush hush and move on.. instead of leaving their other half..and breakin those sacred vows.. cuz marriage to them.. is a one time deal - not a joke..

Exactly Navs! Assuming their characters were the same, I doubt they would allow themselves to stray from their marriage. They would quietly accept it. For both of them, marriage vows are stone and are meant to be treated with the utmost amount of respect...therefore they wouldnt break those vows, but quietly accept them and move through their life with the hope that in the next lifetime they will be with their soulmates.

Originally posted by: Hkaurk22

Exactly Navs! Assuming their characters were the same, I doubt they would allow themselves to stray from their marriage. They would quietly accept it. For both of them, marriage vows are stone and are meant to be treated with the utmost amount of respect...therefore they wouldnt break those vows, but quietly accept them and move through their life with the hope that in the next lifetime they will be with their soulmates.

exactly.. cuz even in d show.. d way they got married.. d tension they married under... divorce was d word that shook them both... cuz their vows.. their saat phere - even if done under a weird dillusion meant a great deal to them..

but then its another question.. if there spouses were worthless - gfn's.. but if their spouses were .. u know d typical.. always there for u thru thick and thin.. then its tough.. but if they have a worthless other half.. then i say hey move on😆 😆 but that decision also changes if kids r involved

just a quick question -

Does this discussion not base on how you define a soulmate? and whether you believe that your soulmate and your life partner have to be the same person?

Rivs