The fact that Jodha has refused to return by itself is a good message to Jalal. He will not take her for granted anymore. He will value her self-esteem and he will be more careful. Also, the current behaviour will also indicate how strong is her loyalty for him - meaning, she could not even bear to hear such an accusation, which she can never ever be able to do. MA track now, will also leave a lot of learning for him and reinforcing his trust for Jodha. He will also be able to relate to Jodha's pain better, as now he understands better what she has been subjected to.
Well said! Fully agree. But I think, Kaana, it works both ways. I think Jodha will also learn that even Jalal who loves her so much has his limits. She cannot pull the relation so much that he gets frustrated and backs out. And she will also learn how MA had manipulated Jalal and tried to separate them. So some of her anger towards Jalal should reduce.
Reason why I'm mentioning this is to balance the discussion between J and J. 😆
Regarding Jodha, I think it is very kind of on track. She stood by her self-esteem conveying what she wanted to. Her emotions regarding the accusation holds. Just that her approach is changing. So, by the passing of time, she is changing. The time recommended for jodha is to understand her own feelings for Jalal, and realise that she cannot live without him. Which is what is essentially happening now.
If we look at Jodha closely from the time she left Agra:
Letter : Hurt and parted ways, she also could not have continued at Agra anyway when her love is questioned - it is not just trust, but he very love for him. Remember after boat incident, she said "I feel bad if my love is disrespected" even for a situation as that. (I read in some post that she continued after FP track, but that time she was not in love with Jalal and it makes a big diff on who accuses you)
Anyway in FP track, she was suspecting that Jalal had taken advantage of her when she was unconscious. When he accused her, she thought he was shifting the blame on her to appear innocent. Later both came to know the truth and everything settled well. Here the situation is different.
Mathura 1: Hurt mode, but could not forget him. Trying to forget him and settle in her new life.
Mathura 2 (separated to highlight the change): When she realised that Jalal was coming in search of her, she did not want it as she could not have returned with him. Hurt before love was her state.
Mathura 3: Love for Jalal overflowing and care continued. But still, hurt preceded her love for him. So, when Jalal begged her to leave and though her heart was pining for him she could not forgive him still. She requested him to leave her alone and not return for her. She was clear in her decision to be away from him.
Amer: Proximity brought all the feelings back with force. She could hear her heart pounding for him and she could not ignore it now. Her helplessness translates into anger. She is unwilling to accept to herself that she could forgive him for what he has done and on the caution always to maintain it. She even tried doing things to prove herself as unforgiving. She tried avoiding situations which could weaken her - avoiding proximity, eye contact etc. with Jalal. It is not that Jalal's repentance has not touched her, it very much has, but she still wants to stand by her self-esteem and convey the message clearly. It is a tough stand for her also.
@bold: well put. you have explained situation in Amer excellently. which should clear the minds of quite a few of us.😊 sometimes when we take a very public stand against something, then it becomes very difficult for us to get down from that stand even if we want to because we feel it would be too embarrassing. Something like this is happening here. When Jalal was in Amer, Jo was clutching at any excuse to care for him but could not bring herself to admit this openly. She has been pretty vocal about her hatred and indifference to him. Even before all this happened, she found it difficult to admit her feelings for him openly. And there's a spoiler that says when she goes back t oAgra, she will still continue to refuse to admit why she returned.
When I was writing this, today's episode came and I saw that Jodha has forgotten her hurt and anger. Time seems to have healed her wounds. All negative emotions have drained from her heart's sieve and only love remains. Yet she is desperately trying to hold onto her non-existent anger and justify her action to both Shehnaz and Shaguni Bai.
But she was softening by the day, she was loosing her own fight to remain intact. She took up his side and blamed the circumstance for his behaviour, who otherwise was a very nice person.
Even though she said a clear NO to him to return to Agra, where even HB and Rahim sentiment failed, if we noticed she said she will come when she wants to. Isn't this a big transformation since the time she left Agra, through her Mathura days and later Amer days?
One realises the importance of something only on its loss. All the while, though was refusing and exhibiting her anger, she was sure of one thing that Jalal was still always there for her. But today, when he moved away from her, it was the biggest shock of her life - that she has lost something very dear to her.
Now, the emotion of loosing something precious and to win it back, and this desperation, will take precedence over her other emotions that was in the fore all these days. It is like now or never and obviously, she would not want to loose it for good. And she would be willing to let go anything for this sake. She is now under the grip of emotions. And we all know how one behaves when under the grip of it.
Regarding Jalal, he was in a state of guilt and despair all these days, hoping against all odds to get her back. With the final NO from her, he now became lifeless, drained totally off everything.
To answer your Q on winning Jodha's trust back, currently emotions are playing big. But once this phase is through, the trust buidling phase will definitely kick off. I am not sure if it would work in the long run with Jodha going back to him emotionally. Her very concern needs to be addressed sometime and am sure this will happen too.
I am sure that Jalal having come so close to losing her and realizing that she was never at fault and it was MA who had continually plotted against her, will take all possible steps to make sure she never has any reason to leave him ever again. They had already started trusting each other. They had drifted apart because of MA. Once MA is banished, they can breathe easier. And develop the trust further.
I don't think Jo is going back in an emotional state. She is analyzing her feelings with Shehnaz and Shaguni Bai and herself. Only when she is convinced in her mind will she take the decision to go to Agra. There she will find Jalal broken by MA's betrayal. And there's nothing like a crisis to bring a couple together. 😊
Hope it helps.
Definitely, it helped me a lot and I'm sure it has helped many others who have read it. 😊 Thanks so much!!!
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