Originally posted by: RadhikaS0
Hi Kaana,
Wonderful post. đ
You always present Jodha's POV lucidly. and in a very calm and unemotional manner. I like this very much.
Jodha needs time to heal from her earlier hurt and now she is hurt again by what she perceives as Jalal abandoning her yet again (by his departure to Agra). The precap shows how hurt she is by his going away - her mother says she has not eaten or stepped out of her room in 5 days. Imagine a Jodha who was hurt when he told her she was free now. She was not keen on going back to him because she was fearful of being abandoned by him yet again. And here she is, even before she went to him, he himself came to her and "abandoned" her yet again.
I know he has good reasons to go back because he is a king and has to look after his kingdom. I know he is hurt and frustrated by her refusal to forgive him and return to him. I know he does not know how relationships work and how to win her back.
I have already seen things from his perspective in my thread. Now I am trying to see things from your perspective of Jodha's POV. This girl was able to lead a comparatively normal life in Mathura. Then what has happened that she is now restricting herself to her room and not eating? Seeing Jalal at close quarters again, she had started yearning for him yet again. All the feelings she had suppressed under a thick layer of anger and hurt started bursting out again. And then he walked away, leaving her to pick up the pieces of her yearning and feelings once more.
Possibly she is now even more afraid of going to him, because how many times can she watch him walking away from her? Even if he does some "Actions" likely to impress her, will she be able to win over her fears and return to Agra? Again and again, I'm confused about what possible actions he can take to win over her fears and reassure her of a secure future with him? The separation can increase her yearning for him but will it be able to crush her fears? Till she conquers her fears, she cannot return. Till she returns and lives with him, she will not know that her fears are now without any foundation. So what should she do?
Hey Radhila, lovely to have you back. And as always there is no death for your extra kind words. Thanks a bunch.
You have given me an assignment now, asking such a question!!!!
My quick response here to your query. I owe Rima one too and hopefully it might provide some answers too.
Pl bear with me, and if I can share my thoughts too while I respect your views, I am not sure if I would want to agree with two things stated - Jalal abandoned her yet again, Jodha's fear of being abandoned again. In my humble view, based on my understanding so far, this is not in their character. A quick reason: he did not just abandon her when she committed suicide, twice?, Jodha's temperament and Rajvanshiness may not lend this fear possible.
Jalal's POV - no point in continuing on a relationship which has fallen apart. And does it make sense to continue to live together in the palace in such a state? So, in this situation, as understood then by him, only option is to separate and he freed her of the rishta. Giving an ultimatum to leave by the first ray of tom morning, was an emotional outcome of a devastated soul. Is it justified? Yes and No, in my view. I suppose, earlier also when he was ready to give talaq, he was trying to do a prayaschit for his act of cruelty to her so long. This was not abandoning as such - but done with a genuine intent to relieve her of the pain she undergoes here and send her back to a place where she will be happy. However, whether this act per say is right is something that is questionable. In the process he has caused more pain to her. That is the Jalal!!!!
Jodha's POV - trust fallen apart, relationship broken and abandoned, vachan not adhered to, would like to move out. It is a fact that she also wanted to move out, though husband order has been given as a reason and maybe a reason also. For that matter, technically, she has abandoned him at all these times stated. So per say fear of being abandoned by someone may not fit in well for her is my view, I may be wrong also. But she is very much disturbed, not happy and tired of Jalal's two way behaviour.
Life at Mathura: It was not a normal life in that she was getting depressed by Jalal thoughts. However, it was normal compared to now Amer or even before Jalal came to Mathura. This in my view could be because, till the time she saw him at Mathura, there was no clue that he is coming to get her back. She could have resigned to her new life of her own, pained and lonely life, which she is now coming to terms with. She had then no option of going back anyway, not that she wanted to. She accepted it as the way forward and was trying to settle in it.
But at Amer, things are different - she is pressurized on all possible grounds to return with him by Jalal, she is asked to go back in a way by her own folks, she cannot be not going back given her feelings for him and she does not want to go back being let down. And, there is an option to go back now, unlike before. She does not want to avail it, but do not want to let go it as well. So, when Jalal chose to return without her (not abandoned her - he had no option and was repeatedly asked to leave anyway), which maybe was quite unexpected by her, she is unable to come to terms with it. I am happy with this act of Jalal, she needed this jolt to come back to reality and now take some concrete steps, even if it takes some time. But without this, she may just be only sulking away and maybe in self sympathy while missing him also. But now, she is pushed to some action. Unlike Mathura, she cannot find any comfort in this state as she now very much has the option to go back to Jalal now (which is very much there at the bottom of her heart).
Regd your point 'Leaving her to pick up the pieces of yearning and feelings once more' - am not sure of this, as this is the first time this is happening after he knows of her love for him (may not apply to showdown night also). All these days, he was not even sure of her feelings. Again, he cannot be held responsible for leaving to Agra without her, it is absolutely Jodha's decision.
And to specifically answer your last Q, the transformation has to happen in both and it is a gradual process. And there are no stated or specific actions that could instill any new impression or bring it to the desired state. Just like situations, approaches, behaviour, actions and reactions and impressions played a role in building the trust that was before this track, same even now.
Separation is also expected to reveal a lot to Jodha herself. And, the new built trust in Jalal cannot be based only on Jalal's effort, but Jodha has a role in it too. She has to do her homework as well. Likewise, it cannot be achieved just by Jodha too, with her own self realisation. It has to be reassured by Jalal as well. So, both have a role to play to bring them together on a safe, strong ground.
Hope that I have been even partially successful in my attempt to answer you. Awaiting to hear your thoughts too. And you by now know how my brain works đ, just tried to look at both sides!
Edited by Kaana - 11 years ago
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