Originally posted by: skanda12
Sangeetha, you have made great points in counter to a lot of the sentiment against Jalal's behaviour today. But there's one point I want to differ on. You have said "It's OK for Jodha to help him as she completes him".Here it is my humble opinion that a marriage is doomed if two people "complete each other" and it happens only when either or both of them are less than 100% individuals themselves. On the other hand the marriage would be rock solid if both individuals were 100% each, and together they made 200%. That's what a good marriage should be about, where each person is a fully developed individual with inner strengths to cope on his/her own if needed. But when they come together they make twice the impact! Here if one is 45% and other is 55% there will always be a shakiness of the marriage:a. because the pendulum will swing daily and each will constantly be in a adjustment mode with the otherb. They will operate with each other from a "inadequacy" mind set and thus lean too much on the other for "completion"c. They will have no room to evolve individually, as the other person would be interested to keep them where they are for that other person is vested interest in the 45-55 relationship!