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Originally posted by: BollyBabe75

Oh, Bakwas, I am so glad to read that. We have been so like minded on so many things, I was wondering. I guess I am just not getting the sarcasm in your and Tashi’s posts. But God, she and Lavenya friends. She should be thankful he took her to Mumbai with out asking her? She should relieve him of his guilt by being paid off with his alimony? Too much sarcasm for my emotional brain right now.

He lost all rights on her when he cheated, so who allowed him to think he had rights to save Khushi from Umanagar, Shyam or no Shyam.

But really want Khushi to take that money though and get out of this marriage, money is better them taking Arnav as her husband for life.

I don’t want La and Khushi to be friends, that’s not even possible. I was commenting on Arnav and his notions of exes being friends.

But I do want Arnav to dance at Khushi wedding and may be sing a song as well. 🙈

Guys is the chapter too tough? Will i survive this?

Going to read it now.

GOODDD i am scared. Uffff!

I guess he got tired of being in a pedestal and wanted to live a normal flawed life!!! His understanding of khushi was that she will never be fully happy with him if he doesn’t agree for a baby. I remember Arnav’s thoughts when he saw khushi smiling genuinely after so long holding Leher . They seriously lacked communication.For she also never gave him the impression otherwise…. It became too much he cut loose and chose the worst path.

I agree to everyone who said he should have divorced and then move on. His relationship with lavanya has no justification!!!

I wonder why is alimony him buying her off!!! Is it because she was a housewife so she has no rights on his earnings? I thought it is their money. Shouldn’t she kick him out !!! Also why should she be ashamed to face the world, she didn’t cheat!!!

Originally posted by: tashi26

I don’t even know what to say after reading this. I felt bad for everyone, Arnav, his parents and my heart just broke for Khushi.

Khushi leaving for bhagwanpur in October might have pushed Arnav but all these guesses can wait. We will come to know about everything in next chapter.

But right now I feel like nobody deserves that and that too on their anniversary. No wonder Khushi now has no expectations from Arnav as her husband. Who would?

Though I do believe photographs can be deceptive. The situation in some of them might be different. But whatever does it even matter. Arnav did cheat on her.

While reading about them made me sick in the stomach, how would a wife have felt, your husband making out with other woman. Hearing about it is bad and here she saw it.

Somebody played a nasty game by sending them but I personally feel it’s good she got them.

Khushi’s trust is broken so much, Arnav even if now pours his heart out now, does everything she wants will not be able to win it back. Does not happen in real life.

Khushi might have not understood him on many levels before but I don’t think she would make any efforts now. Arnav could not put up with a loving and caring wife before as he felt she did not understand him, does he even have it in himself to try and make the marriage work now, when he will be the one doing most of the work. Khushi actually in her heart left him forever.

There are 3 more heartbreaking parts coming.😭

I told you guys it was going to be twisted to a point where you will have to pause and think about Arnav’s predicament too 😅😅😅

Yes, Khushi and Arnav have had their differences earlier too but they were willing to work. At least Khushi was. This time it’s going to be so much harder because Khushi is the one who gave up. Arnav initially thought she was done with the marriage and she still hasn’t severed herself from his life. Let’s see what happens now :)

Finally an update. God what a roller coaster. Waiting for Arnav - khushi' s confrontation. How they deal with it.

Arilip, the reason I feel he offered her generous alimony was buying her off was to relieve his guilt. He never discussed with her the divorce he had been planning for months. She deduced it from Aman’s silence. But of course by then she had seen the pictures. He was treating their marriage as a transactional business deal. I will compensate you for doing your wifely duties for 10 years. Khushi loved him and she was brought up to make your husband the most important center of your life. You don’t pay someone for doing what is right. It wasn’t a job. It says in one of the earlier chapters that when she left Shantivan for the penthouse and hugged him, his response was to tell her he would make sure she got a generous alimony. Then she looked at him and how small he felt. Then he was baffled and angry with what she asked for and he forced the penthouse on her which she rejected. We don’t know what she asked for. He couldn’t assuage his guilt then.

India has perhaps the lowest divorce rate in the world. I think I saw the other day it is around 2% and it’s the worlds most populous country. It’s a very patriarchal society. We saw how her parents, and the village reacted to a 10 year marriage with no children. Khushi was deemed infertile. She was scorned. Likewise, divorce is considered shameful and the woman is blamed. I’m not from India but have family ties there. Even among educated people I have seen the shame and blame given to the woman who is divorced.

Originally posted by: Arilip

I am really not sure what exactly went wrong. With your reply I feel he was a complete jerk, who thwarted every single effort she made. My reading of the previous chapters and this one doesn’t suggest that!!!
Ten years is a awefully long time to wait for babies!!! I understand that but that time should also teach that it’s a dead duck and start picking your priorities !!! I would understand the nieve girl from village didn’t understand, but didn’t she work in a ngo supporting wronged women!!! How did she turn blind eye to her relationship!!!! She herself was thinking it was three of them on one side and he on the other. I understand she didn’t think that Arnav will move on so fast!!! But wasn’t she aware of how he felt responsible for everything. He has taken responsibilities for very young age and that puts a lot of pressure on anyone……. He hadn’t wanted to talk I understand but she was happy to hide about the pills ,but still let him go though the thought of having to give in to his biggest scare crow. He always thought that one thing he finds so difficult is the only thing she wants. For the responsible person like him it came like a big blow, and he had cut loose on all his ties….

I feel I am the one who doesn’t understand the story, I feel like he was the one trying to keep it all together. Wasn’t he the one asking her to accompany him to the party , he was the one who celebrated their anniversaries . Why is khushi always on the periphery? I feel khushi couldn’t adjust to the changes in the lifestyle after they came to money, and woke up too late . To me her letter came months late if not year!!!

And Arnav did the unthinkable within few months of not even formal separation !! A decade of marriage failed in few months. Is it so easy to move on?

My heart goes for khushi for the way she found out, but it looks like a big conspiracy against her and everything spiralled beyond their control. Arnav had wanted to talk to khushi but because of his guilt and ego he couldn’t come up clean. And everything went out of hands.

It would be really interesting to see how they rebuild this relationship, if they even do.

I understand 😊

Khushi had admitted to Payal, that she feels like a hypocrite. Especially the way she behaved after the divorce and now we know the cheating news. Because this is what happens. You’re never prepared for a relationship to go this wrong.

The thing is, this is why the timeline was important.

10 years truly is an awful long time but their fights only began in late 2014. Sometime when Khushi finally grew tired of waiting and even then, she hadn’t instigated a fight that was so big that Arnav walked out. She was letting go of the topic as soon as it started bothering Arnav.

She was also rattled by this sudden distance Arnav put between them. He was almost having an anxiety episode when she was trying to talk to him in the car and he shut the discussion down. At that time, all she wanted was her husband and did know that the topic had become so sensitive that she could push him away if he pressed.

The thing is he still went away. Because both of them did not address the real issues. The communication breakdown.

They must’ve tried for a few months after leher’s birth. Which means when Arnav went away for good, it took Khushi only 2-3 months to realize that he must’ve felt lonely and pressurised. Her letter’s contents were only this fact that she wanted nothing else but to be his companion. In all senses.

The point that how can she turn a blind eye to her relationship despite working with helpless women isn’t exactly fair imo. Nobody operates under the assumption that their marriage would fail after the first disagreement. If Arnav was walking away, she had the right to sulk for weeks/months too.

Alos, I know Khushi’s action frustrate many over here but we futej overlook one very important part of the fic; Khushi isn’t from a random small town. She is from a very small village and a very oppressive community. She had been raised with the belief that she were to be a good wife and a good mother. To her, it’s her life’s purpose. And she is obviously more connected to her life in Lucknow than Mumbai.

She is also far more reachable for the family to pressurise. Arnav’s solution to this was - ‘stop going to Lucknow and be as aloof as me’. There she had clearly put her foot down and showed the slightest bit of individuality. She is looking out for her husband. Knows he misses the family and even mused that Arvind and Arnav’s ego is the reason for it. Had she been as high handed as him, Arnav wouldn’t have a family to talk to.

Everything aside, Arnav’s plea is understandable too.He really did not feel Khushi and him had a proper relationship anymore and he wasn’t entirely wrong. Khushi had realized too that things were going too far off. It’s just that when his mind went into the direction of severing the ties, Khushi was trying to mend it.

Originally posted by: BollyBabe75

Arpita, I am so sad for Khushi. With the dates you affixed to the chapters, his behavior and the pictures in the restaurant, an unknown place and the balcony it does seem like it was an on going affair and not a one time mistake; two shots in the restaurant where they were clearly physically close and two on the balcony becoming more intimate. How many other times were they together when he didn’t come home, came home late and was often out of town with her not even knowing where he was. Of course, we don’t have Arnav’s take but I can tell you, I don’t care what he feels. My heart hurts for Khushi. I don’t know how many times he slept with her but he was definitely cheating for awhile.

His dynamics with his parents and Khushi trying to hold it together for him was as I thought. I remember how close Khushi was to Ratna and that Arnav’s father was incapacitated when he got sick so it was difficult for his parents to come to Mumbai. Khushi knew the estrangement was tearing Arnav apart. She was trying to make it better for all.

I am assuming the falling out and the baby issues have to do Anjali and her baby. I also, never got the idea that she was away from Mumbai for huge long periods over the years. But, there might have been something dealing with Anjali that required her to be gone at some point for a longer period of time.

I am guessing Lavenya sent Khushi the pictures. Manali asked her why she did it. We don’t know what she did but it could have been that. I wonder what she was grieving? What was Arnav unavailable for? Continuing the affair?

I have always felt that Arnav set the perimeters in their marriage. Khushi tried to accommodate his moods and actions. Arnav pulled away first and really became brutally distant from Khushi. Khushi foolishly thought he would come around at some point and thus let it be. They seemed to only confront things in a superficial manner for reasons I have stated in some of my previous posts. . She was always available to him which I think he knew as certain things were written in previous chapters that indicated that. And, he knew she still loved him and would be devastated. As I’ve said many, many times in my posts, infidelity for me is irredeemable. The end! That’s it! I don’t care how lonely, etc, etc , etc that made him do it.

Universal themes have us women captivated by your story. We may not have been through the devastation that Khushi is now enduring but we can still cry over a sad movie and sad story.

Look I know the chapters like these one are going to illicit strong reactions. The topic is such.

Khushi did try to accommodate a lot for him and I hope that all of you can deduce to a degree as to why. Not only she is very submissive by nature, but she sees that her husband is troubled. He is overworked and doesn’t talk to family. She may have been trying to be his rock during all this time.

Originally posted by: SwatStar_Arshi

I am still confused about this Arnav's behavior!

If he is lonely, he makes zero efforts to reach out to his wife, he knows she is trying hard by insisting on him return to their bedroom, staying awake for him, initiating small talks but he ignored her royally, continued sleeping in the study room and slowly detached himself from her... Had he called / texted just once saying I miss you, need you next to me; let's make this work, this Khushi would have never gone! Khushi is feeling just like Anamika due to his less efforts and aloofness but still hangs in there!

He was going on business trips and she would visit their native and meet parents, she attended his important parties with him and expected him to attend his family's important events. Both were doing these chores before also and trusted each other immensely but he slowly cut off the communication as well, as Khushi mentioned they talked / texted when one of them was sick, why?

For an astute businessman, how is he zero in relationships?? His parents moving to Lucknow was a sign his father expected him to realize he was apologizing! Also note his mom is sick so Khushi might be visiting a bit more but why didn't he? And he didn't even realize what Khushi has achieved for him, bridging the distance between his parents and him, his parents were visiting Mumbai for their anniversary... He was already gone too far???

I really want to understand why he did not want kids and if he could tell his family, why didn't he say it at the time of the marriage? He wanted his parents in Mumbai, baby would have bridged that gap, his mother too was waiting for one for 10 long years and he could put that condition to his parents before having a baby, astute businessman didn't think about this?

Also if he was scared how to handle babies though I am willing to wait for his reasons, they could have visited gynac / counselor, baby sit Leher sometimes to gain experience, adopt a puppy to feel the responsibiltiy towards another life! He could have simply shared his thoughts for not having baby to either convince her or get assurance from her that she will take max responsibilties etc. So many simple ways, why he specifically chose to walk away from Khushi and what made him hate her??

I am not convinced baby was the only reason... Was he lured into Lavanya's web? Her aggression, no string attached offerings ie. basically sex became so important for the righteous man like Arnav that he behaved his wife doesn't exist, avoided her like plague walking out as soon as she entered the room??

Let's accept he has moved on with Lavanya or away from Khushi, why couldn't he confess to Khushi as soon as he got involved with Lavany physically or a bit emotionally the very first time? Didn't she deserve the honesty from him to know it from him; instead of affair / divorce decision behind her back? Then he couldn't even face her on the anniversary forget wishing her, also he had an opportunity to cancel the celebrations owing to his father's health than to run through the facade?

Biggest question, so called righteous man, why wasn't he honest to himself? Did he change so much with success and money that he started to hate / ill treat woman (or parents, sis or others for that matter) he claimed to love, promised her forever and yet he ignored years of wonderful relationship, their journey from rag to riches together, her unconditional love & support, sacrifices and managing his family too? I am in tears...

He wanted to use La as an excuse to convince Khushi for divorce, compensate her years with alimony when the money is equally her too and he wanted to explain her to get closure for himself if not for her (his own words).. I agree with Payal, god knows Khushi from this story deserves better!

How much ever I want cut this Arnav some slack, I cannot.. I am waiting for next few chapers and request you to please give un weekly updates girl! We love your story so much and so involved, I feel we deserve it...

There are clearly underlying themes to Arnav’s behaviour. These problems were always there, but it seemed non existent up until now when he reacted rather strongly and poorly to everything. Baby’s demands, cutting down time with his parents. Please note that despite a strained relationship, he does have one with his parents. He was looking at his father’s treatments and had informed the family about divorce himself.

Because as much as Hindi serials make us believe, people don’t just wa

K away from family. Khushi right now is angry too. Does that mean she severed ties with them? Hell, no. People also don’t put conditions in front of their parents. Sometimes, few topics always leave you at an impasse.

Right and wrong in the coming chapters are going to be very subjective. I’m prepared for reading the discussion between you guys 😊😊♥️♥️♥️♥️

Originally posted by: Arilip

I am really not sure what exactly went wrong. With your reply I feel he was a complete jerk, who thwarted every single effort she made. My reading of the previous chapters and this one doesn’t suggest that!!!
Ten years is a awefully long time to wait for babies!!! I understand that but that time should also teach that it’s a dead duck and start picking your priorities !!! I would understand the nieve girl from village didn’t understand, but didn’t she work in a ngo supporting wronged women!!! How did she turn blind eye to her relationship!!!! She herself was thinking it was three of them on one side and he on the other. I understand she didn’t think that Arnav will move on so fast!!! But wasn’t she aware of how he felt responsible for everything. He has taken responsibilities for very young age and that puts a lot of pressure on anyone……. He hadn’t wanted to talk I understand but she was happy to hide about the pills ,but still let him go though the thought of having to give in to his biggest scare crow. He always thought that one thing he finds so difficult is the only thing she wants. For the responsible person like him it came like a big blow, and he had cut loose on all his ties….

I feel I am the one who doesn’t understand the story, I feel like he was the one trying to keep it all together. Wasn’t he the one asking her to accompany him to the party , he was the one who celebrated their anniversaries . Why is khushi always on the periphery? I feel khushi couldn’t adjust to the changes in the lifestyle after they came to money, and woke up too late . To me her letter came months late if not year!!!

And Arnav did the unthinkable within few months of not even formal separation !! A decade of marriage failed in few months. Is it so easy to move on?

My heart goes for khushi for the way she found out, but it looks like a big conspiracy against her and everything spiralled beyond their control. Arnav had wanted to talk to khushi but because of his guilt and ego he couldn’t come up clean. And everything went out of hands.

It would be really interesting to see how they rebuild this relationship, if they even do.

What makes you think only Arnav bared responsibilities? Khushi at the age of 19 took the responsibility to run the house and even today he is proud of her skills, every corner of the house is so beautiful, people actually want to see it!

She tried to help with dabba business, was managing HIS family and their financial as well as emotional needs by visiting them more than he could, even ran NGO helping needy; all these he truly appreciates clearly initially and even now..

She was the only one trying to med the relationship, he decided to move on or fell out of love, accepted but why do it the most shitty way??????

We will know about his fear about the baby, but discussion solves even wars, this was nothing..