Trust & Belief - What They Mean... EDITED

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Aisha

@MOTHERHOOD

Stunner

+ 10

Posted: 12 years ago

#21

Khushi has shown too much trust and that is my problem.
Arnav clearly denied of having physical intimacy with Sheetal.
But she did not feel cheated.
She thought Arnav has forgotten.
Can anybody forget sleeping with a woman unless he sleeps with a new woman everyday.
There should have been a sense of betrayal.
But Khushi was sleeping beside him.
Did not she feel disgusting for a while to sleep with a man who lied to her.
Throughout the day she is thinking about Aarav.
Where is the feeling of being cheated and where is the fear of loosing?
This time I wanted Khushi to blat at Arnav.
A woman should not be so selfless that she does not care that her husband slept with a lady and lied to her.
I want to see a human Khushi.

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surenkal

@surenkal

Voyager

+ 2

Posted: 12 years ago

#22

Tia what bother me is that she did not take the confrontation out in the open... when sheetal tells her Arnav is the dad and he will take away Arav that is why i did not tell him, she should not have kept quiet.. she should told sheetal Arnav says Arav is not his child, you say he is.. lets first get face to face and resolve this blame game..

then we will see what happens to Arav

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bepatient

@bepatient

Dazzler

Posted: 12 years ago

#23

Tia, I dont agree with you on some aspects. I love khushi's character from the beginning of the show and was attracted to her innocence and chirpiness.

But I am unimpressed by khushi's goodness during and after kidnap phase.

I really dont think such goodness brings about happiness to everyone in the real sense. One needs to see the bigger picture and see the effect it would have on everyone's life before going about doing such good acts. The Bold act of bringing in shyam into RM, trusting the guy to have changed ... thank God didnt result in blood shed for arnav but then this is just a show. But in reality, can you imagine a person who planned the destruction of arnav for a long time, cheated on khushi & anjali, planned and executed the kidnap of arnav, planned and executed (unsuccessfully) murder of arnav to have changed suddenly ? Would you bring in such a person into your house and let him roam free with full access to the victims ? Here she didnt think of her love , her soulmate arnav's safety. She didnt think about the safety of anjali .

There are some decisions we cannot and should not take alone. There will be some trouble times when we need to discuss as a family and then take a correct decision. I dont agree with her philosophy of trying to solve all the pbms without consulting anyone.

IIIy today she jumped the gun and pounced on sheetal instead of ideally talking it out with arnav. I would have gone with the report to my husband and would have asked him to explain how this could have happened. I would not have confronted the other lady before dealing with my loved one.

And I dont think it is possible for anyone to have a physical relationship / one night stand with someone and not realise it at all. At some point of time after the ONS, one should be able to recollect the incident. There is no excusing a husband if he says he couldnt remember it !!!

Edited by ipkkndfan30 - 12 years ago

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Tia.0

@Tia.0

Sparkler

+ 6

Posted: 12 years ago

#24

Originally posted by: ItIsMyLife
Khushi has shown too much trust and that is my problem.
Arnav clearly denied of having physical intimacy with Sheetal.
But she did not feel cheated.
She thought Arnav has forgotten.
Can anybody forget sleeping with a woman unless he sleeps with a new woman everyday.
There should have been a sense of betrayal.
But Khushi was sleeping beside him.
Did not she feel disgusting for a while to sleep with a man who lied to her.
Throughout the day she is thinking about Aarav.
Where is the feeling of being cheated and where is the fear of loosing?
This time I wanted Khushi to blat at Arnav.
A woman should not be so selfless that she does not care that her husband slept with a lady and lied to her.
I want to see a human Khushi.

She trusts Arnav because she loves him. It's as simple as that. If she loved him even a little less or trusted him less, she would have thought he lied and accused him for that.

That's the same reason she doesn't feel disgusted to sleep beside him nor she feels cheated. But she does fear of losing him which is why she reacted the way she did when Sheetal asked her whether she will leave Arnav or he will leave her.

In fact, if she did charge Arnav and turned out that he was not lying then it would hurt him to no end knowing that his wife believed him to be lier. (It's no different than Arnav accusing Khushi of lying, but still)

However, I wanted her to tell Sheetal then that, "Neither I will leave my husband nor he will leave me. But that doesn't mean that he should not get to know his son or Aarav doesn't get to know his father. There are a lot of parents who are separated and they manage their child perfectly fine while maintaining their own individual families. You of all people who studied abroad should know that better than me."

But then Khushi is old-fashioned and a bleeding heart.

Other than this, I won't say she dealt with the situation in a bad way, YET...

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Nishita Rao

@Nishitarao

Inactive

Posted: 12 years ago

#25

I totally, absolutely agree with everything you said...

Besides, If a DNA report says Aarav and Arnav are related..it would be foolish of her to believe anything otherwise.. She is NOT Anjali

For those who are having a problem that she did not tell everybody immediately,

I think it would be very irresponsible on her part to do that as a lot of lives are involved.. She is going on the right track..

First she has to confront Sheetal as she is the one who knows the truth..

After confirming her doubts, she is left with very little choices.. Its "Ek taraf kua, ek taraf khai" kind of senario for her.. she needs time to think and come to a decision..

According to me her actions and reactions are pretty reasonable so far.. I cant say the same about tomorrow...

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Tia.0

@Tia.0

Sparkler

+ 6

Posted: 12 years ago

#26

Originally posted by: surenkal
Tia what bother me is that she did not take the confrontation out in the open... when sheetal tells her Arnav is the dad and he will take away Arav that is why i did not tell him, she should not have kept quiet.. she should told sheetal Arnav says Arav is not his child, you say he is.. lets first get face to face and resolve this blame game..
then we will see what happens to Arav

But you see, DNA report says Aarav is Arnav's child. She didn't believe just Sheetal's words. There was also DNA evidence. How can she say Aarav is not his child then?

But I agree, she should not have kept quiet when Sheetal said that Arnav will take Aarav away from her.

She could have said, " The ASR you know is not the Arnav I married. My husband will never take away a son from his mother because he understands mother-son relationship very well. I promise you that my husband will not separate his son from his mother. But we need to tell him what you told me because he has a right to know his son and Aarav has a right to know his father.

And you don't worry about my family's happiness. Let me handle that. I'm the daughter-in-law of the family and his wife. So I will worry about this family's happiness. It's not your concern."

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Nishita Rao

@Nishitarao

Inactive

Posted: 12 years ago

#27

Originally posted by: tia.o

But you see, DNA report says Aarav is Arnav's child. She didn't believe just Sheetal's words. There was also DNA evidence. How can she say Aarav is not his child then?

But I agree, she should not have kept quiet when Sheetal said that Arnav will take Aarav away from her.

She could have said, " The ASR you know is not the Arnav I married. My husband will never take away a son from his mother because he understands mother-son relationship very well. I promise you that my husband will not separate his son from his mother. But we need to tell him what you told me because he has a right to know his son and Aarav has a right to know his father.

And you don't worry about my family's happiness. Let me handle that. I'm the daughter-in-law of the family and his wife. So I will worry about this family's happiness. It's not your concern."

Oh! How I'll give anything to hear this from her

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Tia.0

@Tia.0

Sparkler

+ 6

Posted: 12 years ago

#28

Originally posted by: Nishitarao

Oh! How I'll give anything to hear this from her

Me too. But not very likely...

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@GhalibIsDead

Explorer

Posted: 12 years ago

#29

The Awesome Threesome, by that I mean Arnav, Khushi and Sheetal have been incredibly stupid on this Aarav issue. Khushi with her quickfix solution, Sheetal with her manipulation and Arnav with his inexplicable attachment to his clone that his ex produced -- they are all messing with a kid. Just my opinion. And frankly, that just annoys me. Unless, of course, the child is part of the plan, in which case, I am even more annoyed. How can Arnav be so oblivious? How can Khushi be so naive? And how can Sheetal be so insensitive? I mean, Arnav is smart, Khushi has a great self-reliant streak and Sheetal is a mother -- none of this adds up.

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Tia.0

@Tia.0

Sparkler

+ 6

Posted: 12 years ago

#30

Originally posted by: Kavyazz
The Awesome Threesome, by that I mean Arnav, Khushi and Sheetal have been incredibly stupid on this Aarav issue. Khushi with her quickfix solution, Sheetal with her manipulation and Arnav with his inexplicable attachment to his clone that his ex produced -- they are all messing with a kid. Just my opinion. And frankly, that just annoys me. Unless, of course, the child is part of the plan, in which case, I am even more annoyed. How can Arnav be so oblivious? How can Khushi be so naive? And how can Sheetal be so insensitive? I mean, Arnav is smart, Khushi has a great self-reliant streak and Sheetal is a mother -- none of this adds up.

This is CVs my dear. None of their logic adds up. We still make logical posts on illogical situations anyway.