Yes, we all are ASR bashers and are proud of it.
The bashing has nothing to do with marriage,
The bashing has nothing to do with Dadi or Garima or Shyam and Anjali.
The bashing was about the fact that as soon as Dadi showed the photo to ASR instead of rushing to mandap to sort things out, ran away leaving Kushi at his Dadi's mercy, society's mercy, leaving Kushi alone, lonely wondering if ASR will ever show up. Don't tell me he ran away to sort his damn feelings. Kushi has feelings too and she had to sort hers in front of whole world thanks to ASR cowardice.
Just a rhetorical question? What would ASR have done if Kushi committed kudhKushi as soon as he failed to show up. After everything they went through if even for a second Kushi doubted ASR and didn't trust him to show up that day she could have easily ran away and jumped in a well. By the time ASR sorted his feelings and came back it would have been too late. How dare he presume that Kushi will still be hanging around for him, no pun intended. She could have just as easily said "to hell with you Raizadas" and gotten on the next train to Lucknow by now. (Don't tell me now he some how deep in his heart knew nothing like that will happen. He doesn't know, no one will know why and how much a person trusts another. You can never estimate such things.)
The bashing was about the fact that each single guest who was there knew their dirty laundry because ASR didn't show up. He could have ran to mandap as soon as he saw the photo, pulled whole family in to a room and told them what he knew, questioned Garima, give her benefit of doubt knowing what a bas***d his dad his. This would have increased Kushi's respect for him 1000 fold and we all will know ASR is a real man and not just a lost, tantrum throwing, spoiled rich brat. Then no one in the world would have to know their family secrets and talk for next month or so and laugh about it whenever the topic comes up. ASR has once again threw his family name under bus, just like his mom and dad did 14 years back when they committed suicide instead of working their differences in grown up way. They did exact same thing in front of whole society. Now everyone will talk about how Kushi's mom and Arnav's dad had affair. How can any one live down that?
The bashing was about the fact that somehow ASR and his feelings are high and above Kushi's and what she must be going through if he didn't show up, especially after what happened at the bachelor's party. Isnt' that what saat pheri all about placing the interests of your beloved above yours and promising to protect them from world. I know, I know- ASR doesn't believe in rasams. Even if he didn't believe in it, if he loved her even half as much as she loved him, he would have placed Kushi and her feelings and what she will go through if he didn't show up on time above his hurt and anger. Shame on him for always placing himself and his feelings above hers. If this is an indication of how their rest of married life will be, I say Kushi is better off not marrying him.
The bashing was about the fact that he didn't show up on time for his marriage. What is marriage? For Raizada's the word marriage doesn't hold much value any way.
ASR dad when married, cheated on his wife? Did he keep his trust in it?
Shyam while married to Anjali, tried to cheat Kushi and killed his own unborn child. Did he keep his trust in it it?
What is marriage but just a ceremony. If a man and woman loved each other truly marriage is just a ceremony for the sake of society. If ASR showed up an hour later, a day later and married Kushi, it is just a mindless ritual at that point.
The marriage is all about love, trust purity, respecting one another and thinking about your partner before yourself.
ASR failed big time already in his first test. Kushi will continue to be unhappy in her marriage because ASR will continue to bully her, disregard her feelings, put his Didi, Dadi, and everyone else above her. She will continue to suffer forever. She has been victimized by ASR and his family and will continue to be because she has been told again and again that is what she deserves. Good luck to her for settling with this loser. Is this the kind of guy you want your sister or daughter to marry, who runs away at first sign of trouble leaving you alone to deal with hostile world while he sorts out his feelings?
Yes, I am ASR basher and proud of it.
Arjun
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