Put Lipstick on,Dress it up,a Pig is still a Pig:MODP27 - Page 18

Originally posted by: serialjunkie

correct me guys, I am being accused of not understanding the USP of this show or understanding the character ASR.

What am I missing?

It's a case of differing expectations. Disappointment at how Arnav's character is being warped in order to achieve "intensity" of the romance we got promised from promo 4. The writers set-out to do one thing and they've completely screwed up in my opinion because it's done in the form of abuse - changing the perception of the show. Damaging ASR's character and Khushi's too. Rising trps adds to the issue because it means more of this to endure, I really hope this is the last ultimate ASR low and things don't get worse. It's like the frustration I felt when kicked her out of his car the first time late in the night.

Spoilers suggested this track won't be dragged out too long, here's hoping. I want him to be indifferent and even taunt her as gold digger but no more of this.

The consistency of the story irritates me slightly how can they show Arnav feeling Khushi's pain when she mentioned being orphaned again when to add to that he pretty much makes her homeless by leaving her no choice but sleep on the floor outside!😔😵

Originally posted by: showstruck

The character ASR has always been prone to violence...from the beginning realising the video, dropping her off his cabin, making her attend the carpark at night or day, giving her a short dress to wear, telling her uthake bahar feqk deta in front of ppl, throwing her out of his house calling her gold digger, calling her di's naqar, kicking her out of his car few times...what he did tonight that he didn't do before??

Does it make a difference that she is his wife today? Does that make his previous acts any less regressive?? Not to me...

Again, what did he do tonight that he didn't do before?? It was violence then and it is violence now.

How did we put up with it...maybe this time I should quit...or keep on hoping ASR will turn good and keep watching?? Did we encourage the cvs by making this show popular??

i think it was disturbing when it happened then and its disturbing now as well. but in the past, we were perhaps a bit more willing to forgive because we thought he is just that way and eventually eh will change.

well, this past week CVs not only hit the rewind button but also made ASR more angry, more violent and Frankensteinesque. I am very saddened by the dive south.

Originally posted by: serialjunkie

correct me guys, I am being accused of not understanding the USP of this show or understanding the character ASR.

What am I missing?

Not trying to kill the post but let me pause here for a minute and THANK YOU for responding to this post. Here is what you showed today to the rest of the forum:-

1. An unbiased opinion and open mindedness to understand the jist of the post
2. We can find flaws with the character of ASR and still love him, because we know he is fictional and in fiction characters always redeem themselves
3. Use logic, reasoning and arguments focus on the topic, without resorting to character bashing, juvenile name calling or attacking the post-makers, and thereby, taking the post to its 23 pages.

Heres an applause to all those who opined, whether you agreed with me is irrelevant, but you put forward your point without making me feel irrelevant. Thanks!!!

SJ

SJ, I'm on page 23 and delighted ... sooo many people feel the same way and have spoken up. 👏 .

Originally posted by: sunaina02

For those who say it is just a show - shows are not meant to portray domestic abuse, racism, abuse violence etc and be able to pass it off as 'just a show'. The media has a responsibility it is meant to uphold. And it is one thing to show domestic violence or racism as part of a show where it is clearly defined as racism / violence and that it is wrong but here this type of abuse is being passed off as somehow a part of romance and love and passion. THAT is where it goes wrong. You cannot commit abuse and then say 'oh we need it so their love later is so much more passionate'. That is disgusting to euate love and passion with abuse needed to up the passion factor. But it is obvious from a lot of the responses on the forum that people seem to think it is ok to have abuse if it means passionate love later on.

So many people who watch this show will be influenced by it especially those women who are abused thinking that passion afterwards somehow makes abuse ok. How many times would you see women who are abused going back to their abusers because 'oh he really loves me and is very sorry' and tomorrow they end up dead. I'm not saying Arnav's character is totally to that level yet but this line of behaviour they are starting to show in Arnav needs to be nipped in the bud from now on.

We should all know that TV in particular plays a huge role in defining social roles etc and influences people so no it is not 'just a show' and all this crap should be accepted as part of the show.

An emotional distance, some taunting etc from Arnav's point of view would be fine for me as he thinks she is trying to break up his sister's marriage etc but not this type of behaviour. And I am honestly baffled that people think him throwing a blanket at her outside is showing his love and concern that he is trying to hide.

It's not totally the fault of Arnav's characterisation either - Khushi's characterisation is pretty bad too. She doesn't fight to get back in - she goes and sleeps on the pool? She sits and takes everything really - just because she spoke up a few times to him to ask why he made her marry him is not her being a strong character. Everyone is walking over her and she can't even tell her own sister in private why she got married? I'm tired of the Indian martyr bahus and wives. They set a bad example that if someone treats you badly you should just keep uiet and show a happy facade to the world. So many women who are abused do just that. I'm not one who believes in throwing your married life open to the world over every little fight but this is just overboard. Abusers act just like Arnav did today - they present a happy married life to the world especially to their family and abuse in private.

Anyways I hope they get rid of this part of his behaviour - I don't expect him to be nice to Khushi but there needs to be a limit and Khushi really needs to grow a bit of backbone to not turn this into the suffering wife / dominant husband typical serial characters.

Originally posted by: serialjunkie

Not trying to kill the post but let me pause here for a minute and THANK YOU for responding to this post. Here is what you showed today to the rest of the forum:-

1. An unbiased opinion and open mindedness to understand the jist of the post
2. We can find flaws with the character of ASR and still love him, because we know he is fictional and in fiction characters always redeem themselves
3. Use logic, reasoning and arguments focus on the topic, without resorting to character bashing, juvenile name calling or attacking the post-makers, and thereby, taking the post to its 23 pages.

Heres an applause to all those who opined, whether you agreed with me is irrelevant, but you put forward your point without making me feel irrelevant. Thanks!!!