Put Lipstick on,Dress it up,a Pig is still a Pig:MODP27 - Page 14

Originally posted by: HeadOverHeels

I did not label them "no woman" - What I said was

A real man does not dominate

A real woman is not submissive

A real man does not ever need to use brute force

A real woman never needs to accept that as his "love" cloaked in anger

A real man will not allow the world to hurt his woman, and try never to hurt her himself

A real woman does NOT need a man to dry her tears and make the world OK for her.

As opposed to what these dramas portray. I think you misunderstood what I said. I NEVER blame the female victim and very specially abused women... but at the same time I am a strong advocate for women and believe that they should NEVER feel as if there is no hope for them. And that's what these dramas show, and what people think.. There were threads talking about Shayam telling ASR that he'd been intimate with KKG, and ASR would hate her more... What CRAP!! Lack of hymen=Worthless woman? Says who?

Adding my two cents (or 17 pages of responses)

If a woman chooses to stay in an abusive relationship, it does not absolve the abuse or the abuser. It does speak volumes about the precise conditions that lead to the abuse - helplessness of women or women thinking they have no other choice.

This is why education, women-empowerment and financial independence play a significant role. Sati was an acceptable more long time ago, but it was never right. Women were denied right to vote by entire societies because they were deemed less intelligent, but it was never right. A woman is perhaps abused by her husband/BF/father/Male member of family, but it is never right.

The more women are made to understand that its ok to raise their voices against these evils, the more they will feel empowered and less helpless. By romanticizing the abuse on small screen, the signal to an entire generation of young impressionable women is that its ok for an educated, young, talented and successful businessman to behave like this with a financially poor girl.

Originally posted by: Leah1

Can someone post the link of this thread to Lalit Mohan's FB page? I feel he should read and understand where all the young fans stand on this domestic abuse issue and tht we condemn such acts shown on Indian television in the name of TRP's...

Hats off to u Smriti for calling a spade a spade and all the replies given in this thread!!

i peeked in to LM page was suprised nobody was talking abt this pool drama...every1 was whining when this MU TRACK WOULD END AND ABT ASR AND KHUSHIS PAIN.others were drooling over BS...i think these discussions happen only in IF...

Originally posted by: Seattleite

Khushi has no reason to bear this nonsense. I agree she had no choice but marry... but when she now know that payal is already married, why on earth khushi is still sticking there?

again another inconsistency of CV's line of logic.

Originally posted by: shann20

i peeked in to LM page was suprised nobody was talking abt this pool drama...every1 was whining when this MU TRACK WOULD END AND ABT ASR AND KHUSHIS PAIN.others were drooling over BS...i think these discussions happen only in IF...

because most of us have quit saying anything on LM's page. He never reads it, only "Likes" posts that praise him, never responds to fan's on a periodic regular basis. Why open a social networking page when you don't intend to "network"?

So, the forum is our respite.

Oh man I love this post. You couldn't have put it better. The CVs are putting up constipated expressions on ASR face so that they can later redeem him in the eyes of Kushi. And our phan girls lap it up as if their life depends on it. 'ASR is nice! Seee I toldcha! he's SUFFERING'

uuurggh it's just even more fustrating to see our forum trying to defend his actions. I actually can gulp down ASR's ways. He's messed up and we all know it. But seriously defending him like this? And coming up with lame excuses for that too 😕

Originally posted by: serialjunkie

because most of us have quit saying anything on LM's page. He never reads it, only "Likes" posts that praise him, never responds to fan's on a periodic regular basis. Why open a social networking page when you don't intend to "network"?

So, the forum is our respite.

do u think they care abt this?i...the trps for last week is high and the veiwers r mostly women and if they r enjoyin this and as long as the trp is high the cvs r happy.

i agree, no matter how much girls like ASR character but none of them can bear with such life partner who send you out of the room to sleep in the cold weather. NO BASHING on any one but the wrong is always wrong no matter how much v try to justify

Couldn't help but add, read somewhere that it was "so sweet" of ASR to give her the blanket (chuck it at her!) and that this act of his shows he still loves and cares for her…Ummm…no….it wasn't sweet of him. So drag her outdoors, chuck her a blanket and s'alright??? 😆

Originally posted by: napstermonster

Im going to go out on a limb here and say ASR's love for his sister ISNT infallible and unconditional. In its own way, its also selfish, and misguided, and allows him to make choices that demean Anjali.

He is the YOUNGER brother who has taken life altering decisions about his older sister. Without her knowledge and consent-there are many older sisters on the forum right now-how many of you would be okay with your kid sister/brother deciding to keep the small detail about your spouse being a psychotic cheating asshole to himself/herself? To "spare" you the shock of knowing something that is relevant to your marriage?

To decide for you that you get to keep a child born into a marriage you'll find out in oh, six months time, was a lie since your spouse never loved you all this while? To let you become a single parent?

I dont think he values Anjali's intelligence, or her rights as a goddamn adult, to make her own choices, or even allows her to make her own decisions. As long as she wears pretty saris and makes random decisions about pujas and rasams, you know, girly crap, she should be fine. The men should do the heavy lifting of dealing with things like infidelities and attempted bigamy. Why trouble Anjali's pretty little head with such details?

Her pain will cause HIM pain, so hey, lets just make happy happy with the lusting red eyed monster in the bedroom next door.

And in the meantime...hello, brand new bride / punching bag!