Mere Shivvay - Part 3

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Posted: 8 years ago

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Asya ..As usual a great write up on (dare i say) "humara" Shivaay...😳 and i agree completely he is totally husband goals these last couple of episodes..

But i would like to add my voice to the minority voice here.

Shivaay is nowhere close to doing away with his NKK demons.. and him investigating into her past is more for his peace of mind than for Anika. He knows he can't bear to be away from Anika which is why he is saying and doing the right things , but he hasn't accepted her wholeheartedly.

In mondays episode his head is spinning ( along with ours thanks to the revolving room, rotating camera circling Shivaay) with the thought that Anikas father is a lowly door to door salesman..but Anika is Anika and he puts up a brave face in front of her and also at the Pooja. But then comes the bombshell, Anika doesn't know who her parents are...Orphan maybe illegitimate!! Shivaay walks off and is surrounded by darkness..His NKK darkness. Darkness is nothing but the absence of light ( lalit mohans insta caption) i feel this scene was symbolic. Shivaay is in dark and the light comes in the form of Anikas phone call...Anika is the light that will bring him out of darkness...Slowly

Thank god that Anika heard the shiomru conversation.

She was prepared for the worst whenever her lack of nkk comes forth. But Shivaay told her you are my wife no matter what. And the girl begins to hope...Her defenses start to crumble..and bang! One day she realises NKK is very much still there. It's good that she got to know so quickly... Before she started to dream a happily ever after... Let's see what Shivaay has to say in his defense today, but whatever he says she knows now that NKK is very much present...

"Not the mother of my kids" will be the next shock she faces.

Pinky knows exactly which buttons to press. She keeps bringing up the kids issue, your kids will not know thier moms NKK...Which is also Shivaay's issue. He doesn't want kids with Anika because he doesn't know her NKK. He doesn't want to hear anything against Anika , but his mind knows his mom is saying just what he himself feels about her lack of NKK.

He has not chosen Anika over NKK...He has chosen Anika while still hanging on to his NKK obsession.

He will never be able to answer his mom or the world back, untill he himself has dealt with his NKK issues. And Anika ( i hope) will keep her defenses up, untill he has.

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(Controversial topic I know but this is just my P.O.V. No bashing pls 😉)

Another notch on Shivvay's belt as a supportive and good husband today for just being who he is. The man seems to be unstoppable nowadays and hell bent on wining the "Husband of The Year" award as well.

Lets start with the mature and understanding husband who really and truly knows his wife inside and out.

- "Shivvay Mein Bahut Daar Gayee Thi ... Mujhe Laga Key..."

"Mein Chala Gaya"

The statement was completed in the most understanding and consoling tone ever. He already knew her fears and did not even listen to her message that she had just left on the phone to react and then return. He was there even before she had completed her message and sent it to him.

Shivvay is so tuned into Annika's fears and insecurities that his face mirrored her look of pain when he spoke with her. When she ran to him all he did was absorb her into him while she clutched him tightly as if fearful that he would leave her even now. Him just standing there while she plowed into him was him letting her find solace in him while he let her find it in him.

His embrace was protective, reassuring and strong - making sure to dispel those unwanted fears and calm her tensed body. What followed was Shivvay being Shivvay. He was the protective, supportive and proud husband who was surprised that his wife had to ask that question of him again. The pain that he wore in in eyes and on his face was because of how vulnerable and fragile she was mentally and emotionally to doubt that something like this would make him abandon her.

Now for the crucial statement that made his wife walk out on him. Was it misconstrued by her because she was in so much pain that all she could work on was her absolute and sure knowledge that he would choose his NKK over her??!!

Yes!! It was. It so completely and definitely was.

Think back to what Annika would always say would happen if Shivvay found out the truth about her background time and again with conviction and guarantee. She always said that the day he found out about it would be the last day of their relationship and all it stood for.

Never once did she doubt, falter or second guess that there could be another outcome. She was so completely prepared for the outcome of their relationship ending in her mind that it gave her no other option but to psych herself to believe that it is exactly what he meant when he was talking to his brothers in the kitchen.

What did Shivvay say in the kitchen?

He starts out with "Is mein Annika ki koi galti nahi hai" - His wife is completely blameless in what happened today and also for what happened to her years ago. How can she or could she have control over the fact that she is an orphan!

"Mein jaana chahata hun jisse meri shaadi hui hai who kahan se hai, kaun hai, kya hai... "

"Mere liye mere biwi ka background janna zaruri hai... bahut zaruri hai"

Is it important for him to know her background in order to accept her - no!!! it is not because he already has accepted her. So why is it important??

(Again just my viewpoint and some may disagree - I understand that)

It is important because then I can stop the world and especially my mother from spewing poison and hurting her beyond tears. I can stop her and the world from saying vile things about my wife. I can actually protect her if I know the facts because then I would have something concrete to fight with, like he was a simple middle class man who made and sold soaps but was hardworking and industrious. Something like that gives me facts and knowledge that I can use as weapons to fight on her behalf and make a strong case to put forward.

How can a man who has dealt with logic and facts all his life to make his point always, use absolutely nothing now to stand up against the world and fight for his cause.

There is nothing wrong with Shivvay wanting to know about his wife and where she comes from. It was not that he chose NKK over her but rather he chose her over his NKK.

He has already accepted an orphan as his wife and that was proven by the fact that he went to get her back home. What he needs now is resources and tool to be able to give that same wife the respect, honor and rightful place as an Oberoi Bahu. I do not see any malice in that action taken.

He truly is her Shivvay.

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Posted: 8 years ago

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Pearl like pinky said we know what kind of kids r in ashram... Well if he comes to know she is a paap ki nishani... Young girl's mistake... What is he going to shut ppl's mouth with... Can He stop ppl talking bout Annika... Will He be even able to stop pinky from talking about Annika's ganda khoon... He can silence her but can't change her thinking... He himself has that thinking... So What is he going to do by knowing her bg?
I agree that NKK is how he thinks even now post finding out that Annika matters to him.

Today he mentioned that he cannot change his thinking 'overnight' which is exactly what you would expect from his character. We cannot expect that one fine day NKK does not bug or bother a man like Shvvay Singh Oberoi. That suddenly it does not matter to Shivvay where his wife, who he has to spend the rest of his life with, comes from. That is just who he is, just like Annika is just who she is "sirf Annika". She cannot change who she is even if she comes to know about herself tomorrow because she will never be able to identify with those parents and that Family she belongs to.

He loves her (we know that - he has not accepted it even to himself) and has already decided that come what may she is his wife - her Izzat is his. What the crux of the matter now is his accepting her as a mother of his children. That too will happen but it has to be a gradual understanding of how NKK does not really make or break a man/woman and who he/she truly is inside. That is what Shivvay needs to journey towards - that enlightenment. If they show him just accepting it because this keeps Annika with him it will be wrong and a bigger insult to our intelligence and his character progression.

No growth, metamorphosis or transformation is instant and without pain. Even gold needs to be melted from it's ore before it bleeds real gold into the goldsmiths vessel. Shivvay has to transform by trial of fire and this is his journey and need. i do not see why he needs to drag Annika with him in this painful journey by telling her. The results might pain Annika but his pain will be greater when he has to chose between disclosing it to her and hiding it from her.
Remember he says he cannot see tears in her eyes. How then will be be the one to cause those tears?

She did mention that to him today that she will always be just Annika and he has already accepted that. He has also accepted that whatever has happened in her life is no mistake of hers. That was more than he did for Dev and Dev's father was there to defend him - mind you. This means that Annika has already broken through the first barrier of NKK and once the walls of that fortress have been broken through it will not take long for love to make it's place there.
He is very aware that his finding out about Annika is going to make a change in their lives and that he has to live with it because he will never be able to ignore it but that is just it. He wants to know what that 'IT' is that he has to deal with. Not knowing will not smoothen his journey and future life with her but knowing may give him either the satisfaction that it is no big deal or make him deal with what the truth is so that he can move towards accepting it and protecting her.
It is important not because he wants to decide whether he wants to stay with her or leave her but because he wants that the future with her is not dependent on a haze of uncertainty from the past that will always be ticking in their lives like a 'time-bomb' waiting to explode.
Again, it is just my view point that I am putting forward 😊

I know he is like that... But all I'm saying is he shud hv spoken that to Annika... Opened up about his worries to her... Coz this concerns her... She is core of it all... She is deffo scared he will ho back on his words of her being his wife once he knows everything coz like pinky said n she herself called her paap ki nishani...
... and he not finding out whether she is or not will make her fears disappear?? Will she truly and honestly believe in her heart that his NKK has disappeared if he decides not to find out?? Do you really want Shivvay not to be true to himself and his basic nature and give Annika false hopes that he is ok with being oblivious about her BG
As for not telling her that he is investigating that reason is obvious right now. She is already vulnerable, emotionally high strung and battling her fears right now. There is something to say for the 'right time for the right thing' and this is not the time for honesty because it will serve no purpose.
She is doing the same about the Mahi situation - holding off telling Shivvay till the time is right and there is some or any facts that are worth disclosing to him. If there is not why worry him unnecessarily?

Knowing Shivaay She has almost no doubt that he can't accept some paap ki nishani as his wife... She will nvr have his respect... She has all her life heard ppl calling her all that n she dint give a hoot to it coz those ppl dint matter to her... But Shivaay's acceptance and then him digging out her past n him losing respect for her will break her... That's her fear... A fear of being accepted and then rejected... When She will be in happy bubble he might know her past and break her bubble leaving her alone
.. and if he does not dig can you truly believe that every time someone throws a hint at her past she will be strong enough to keep fighting it??? Today it is her, tomorrow it will be her innocent children being targeted for no fault of hers or theirs. How would she feel when she has to hear that as a mother about her kids??
Her fears I understand but if you tell me that he digging into her past is going to upset her then she needs to have more faith in this mans commitment to her than she has. Her faith and trust in him cannot be that weak??

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