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Nuttyme

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Posted: 9 years ago

Hi all,

I really cudnt manage to see the precap coz the power decided to snap out... but I do get the gist from the LU that Viplav is quite annoyed with dhaani. And rightly so voiced his opinion.

Poor dhaani... she is in a state of mind where she can cross no path... cant stay at AN and demotivate herself... and cant go back to ashram coz dulari mai will be quite upset with the events.

This is realism... and I really like the fact that the PH and CV have shown Dhaani like this. For once lets put ourselves in Dhaaniz shoes and see... Her fault lies in the fact that she tries to overplease people who pounce on her. and her one shortcoming of being illiterate is what is pulling her down completely. And rightly in India such cases do exist. and she is truly putting a brave front inspite of being pulled down everytime. But how long can she too take it.

COming to Viplav... he now realises that dhaani and he are poles apart who are bound by only love and there is absolutely nothing that is common between them. While he is very upfront and impulsive ... she is patient and very persistent. And putting ourselves into his shoes... his approach is quite practical... we do that so many times in our lives when we tell our partners... at least ask me once. Thats what Viplav did.

How should the story move fwd... definitely Dhaani should leave AN... her soul doesnt deserve this. Her innocence is lost and she is in the midst of such misery. Any more days of humiliation... which is now added by Viplavz words is only making that simple soul cry for space... space to live life. After all she didnt marry for this. Poor thing she was happier without this. SHe never asked for this... !! I think she should leave AN... and Ashram. Start a life of dignity ... where she finishes her studies and stands on her feet. Viplav will be angry and eventually come searching for her at the ashram... only to find that he has lost her forever.

Viplav will eventually realise the dirt in the house and intentions of his family and kamini and realise what he has lost... and then the search for that eternal love should begin... with a happy ending of course.

This is what i feel... but with the time slot change and rumours of the soap going off air... i simply hope we get some justice from these beautiful actors and this particularly enticing couple.

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dell30

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Posted: 9 years ago

your post is spot on. i do not think i have ever seen a character suffer so much hate and humilation while rapists, murderers, adulterers roam scotch free.😕

p.s. love vidha😊

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premparbat

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Posted: 9 years ago

Nutty you have said it beautifully ...

See there is no lack of trust , love or support between the two .. As you say its realism .

When two people live together they are faced with so many issues and that is what they are going thru . Dhani with her weaknesses is being manipulated and Viplavs weakness is Dhani and he is being manipulated yo that effect .

In real life you cannot run away ... Where should Dhani go ? A lot of housewives in reality need space but it cannot be . The one biggest thing that is lacking between the two is communication . If both sit and talk it out and make a pact that they will not let a third party influence , which again in real life are mothers and mother in laws , couples can survive.

Currently Viplav is constantly made to see Dhani's deficiencies .

Walking out on a marriage is not the way or easy . And I think it will be stupid too to leave husband in the hands of another women .

What is being shown in bigger picture makes sense.

Now if only Dhani would stop whimpering ... Poor soul really needs a true guide and I wish Badi Amma or dadi would help her.

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premparbat

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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: pvanatic
your post is spot on. i do not think i have ever seen a character suffer so much hate and humilation while rapists, murderers, adulterers roam scotch free.😕

p.s. love vidha😊

She is hated because of where she comes from .. From not a very high level in society .. And believe me it's real .

I have a senior uncle who married a 'commoner' according to family heads had a huge issue with integrating her ... And she was not bad . Only she was not up to the family .

My point ... I understand why she will always be considered inferior . Then on top she has been a widow , is young and beautiful which adds to the fodder . Makes her more 'available ' to others .

What is being shown is exaggerated but not uncommon .

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mehraan

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Posted: 9 years ago

Hey Nutty...very well put in...This us,wat I wNt to see n constantly been harping out in everywhere...This is the reality...Marraige alone cant survive on love n be to it when dhaani has so many shortcomings when compared to Vipu...The most imp thing her being Vidhwa ,then poor n illiterate on top! The phase 1 of marrying dhaani got over n we are on the second phase that is acceptance in his house n in the society as a whole...Their journey was meant to be difficult from day 1 in AN n tats what we are witnessing...especially dhaanis...So im in a way ok the way they are potraying the hurdles they both had n have to cross, along with being newly married which requires time n effort to understand each other...! From here on , I can say if she walks out, it will do more good to her cos she needs some space to breathe nrelax herself...poor soul I feel pity for her...! I can se her progressing towards education n better life ...the growth of her character n the truth is the bond that is so fragile between them now will be much more stronger thereafter.

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Nuttyme

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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: premparbat
Nutty you have said it beautifully ...

See there is no lack of trust , love or support between the two .. As you say its realism .

When two people live together they are faced with so many issues and that is what they are going thru . Dhani with her weaknesses is being manipulated and Viplavs weakness is Dhani and he is being manipulated yo that effect .

In real life you cannot run away ... Where should Dhani go ? A lot of housewives in reality need space but it cannot be . The one biggest thing that is lacking between the two is communication . If both sit and talk it out and make a pact that they will not let a third party influence , which again in real life are mothers and mother in laws , couples can survive.

Currently Viplav is constantly made to see Dhani's deficiencies .

Walking out on a marriage is not the way or easy . And I think it will be stupid too to leave husband in the hands of another women .

What is being shown in bigger picture makes sense.

Now if only Dhani would stop whimpering ... Poor soul really needs a true guide and I wish Badi Amma or dadi would help her.

True premparbat... i agree with you that walking out of a marriage is not that easy. Considering that we all belong to the 21st century women who take bolder decisiona.. dhaani is a meek god lovong amd vulnerable woman. For her taking such extremw decisikn might be a "sin"... but then she also needs to realise that nothing is more important than self respect. If people dont value you for your contribution... qhats the point to be around and please them.

I hope badi amma or dadi drill some sense in them. But as we all feel... this is hatsh reality in indian villages and many small towns. I hope the cvz show dhaani coming out with flying colours and pull all her detractors down.

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Nuttyme

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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: mehraan
Hey Nutty...very well put in...This us,wat I wNt to see n constantly been harping out in everywhere...This is the reality...Marraige alone cant survive on love n be to it when dhaani has so many shortcomings when compared to Vipu...The most imp thing her being Vidhwa ,then poor n illiterate on top! The phase 1 of marrying dhaani got over n we are on the second phase that is acceptance in his house n in the society as a whole...Their journey was meant to be difficult from day 1 in AN n tats what we are witnessing...especially dhaanis...So im in a way ok the way they are potraying the hurdles they both had n have to cross, along with being newly married which requires time n effort to understand each other...! From here on , I can say if she walks out, it will do more good to her cos she needs some space to breathe nrelax herself...poor soul I feel pity for her...! I can se her progressing towards education n better life ...the growth of her character n the truth is the bond that is so fragile between them now will be much more stronger thereafter.

Amen to the last line mehr. I would really want to see how the cvz plan to make life beautiful for this couple. Phase 1 over... honeymoon over.. now comes reality.

And thinking of our cvz... they will come out with something thays gonna be atreat to watch.

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premparbat

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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: Nuttyme

True premparbat... i agree with you that walking out of a marriage is not that easy. Considering that we all belong to the 21st century women who take bolder decisiona.. dhaani is a meek god lovong amd vulnerable woman. For her taking such extremw decisikn might be a "sin"... but then she also needs to realise that nothing is more important than self respect. If people dont value you for your contribution... qhats the point to be around and please them.
I hope badi amma or dadi drill some sense in them. But as we all feel... this is hatsh reality in indian villages and many small towns. I hope the cvz show dhaani coming out with flying colours and pull all her detractors down.

Again very well said .. Walking out on your Pati you worship versus ones self respect .

And in this case he has not said anything incorrect to her yet so I don't think there is a cause yet ...

So let's see.

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mehraan

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Posted: 9 years ago

I feel her walking out is not on this issue but there has to be something bigger n explosive for her to take that jump...Wat he is goin to say looks mild incomparison for an exit like that...So tomorrow the picture will be clear...im sure it has more to it

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Mishfan

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Nutty, a very good post.

I think what is being shown is exaggerated reality.

It the stigmas of society & the disparity between upper, middle, & lower classes that encourages ppl. to behave this way. Yes, this happens more in conservative cultures like ours , unlike in the west.

Added to this, the high & mighty get away with their crimes too.

Coming to the show, Dhani has her shortcomings as you have pointed out. Sadly, the Cvs have turned Dhani weaker mentally after walking into AN. This was not the Dhani we got to see at the Ashram.

But what I fail to see is she refuses to stand up for herself, & let everyone in the family abuse/ insult her.

But again, she retorted back to PC in a public gathering. Just don't get this.

The solution is not running away from the problem but face it head on .That's what Dhani it trying to do, but her approach has to change. Atlest one good step is her education which will boost her self esteem.

But the basic fact is she as a human being has " self respect" & deserves to be treated like one.

It's a "give respect & take respect" policy they have to adhere to. She needs to make them understand that, not by bowing down but speaking up.

No one, not even Viplav can do that, but her. That's what I feel is missing.

As for Dhani moving out, I don't see that happening. It's not unlike her character... When Vip moved out, she convinced & brought him back. So will she do the same? Don't think so.

The other annoying part is Dhani makes decisions without consulting Vip. She needs to realize & not repeat her mistakes. The consequences can be big.

As for Viplav, I don't blame him . He is doing his best supporting & standing by her. He will support & love her even more, provided she is ready to hold her head up.

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