narmada's silence - Page 2

bwahahaha.... maybe the CVs are trying to show that even rich people can get walked all over and can be meek? 😂 🤷

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

you have more faith then I. they have so far yet to show baby doll and blue aunty the door despite all the criminal drama.... but then again, someone has to be majboor, otherwise how can we have villains right? 😆

yes..😂

but narmada instantly broke uday's rishta when he failed compatibility test.. here, there is no such option I think..

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

you have more faith then I. they have so far yet to show baby doll and blue aunty the door despite all the criminal drama.... but then again, someone has to be majboor, otherwise how can we have villains right? 😆

Well this is the crux, isn't it? She's majboor because of cvs warna BM and BD wouldn't linger that long

About the points you listed, I'm honestly confused because it's a mixture of many things for me.

She's too soft and easily influenced. Her children had a trauma and it was addressed and cured( not convinced how insensitively it was done cause of obvious reasons🤪) but yeah it is what it is.

But Narmada has been showing signs of trauma too. She becomes docile and subservient in the face of adversities like BM cause that BM knows how to tackle Narmada by reminding her of her fears.

Though she did show signs of strongness initially but now she's having the same treatment as Aru had (I'm still sour over the fact that he was made a clown over that revenge thing and also him asking sorry left right center nowadays). Narmada is having the same fate. To show imlie's mahaanta about dowry issue

thats why this character seems confusing to me and I made this post to get others thoughts. it is not like she didn't have struggles -- she lost her husband and then her son-in-law. so usually troubles of life makes us strong. so why is she such a pushover?

and if she can't speak up, at least let aryan fight it out. or maybe it is just to show how amazing imlie is? 🤷

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

friends, what do you make of narmada's silence on various issues? even those who speak up like imlie and aryan are asked to keep quiet either to appease aunty blue or society? so what is behind her silence?

-- is she a prisoner of giving others respect that even when people like aunty blue insult her daughter, she is unable to put them in place?

-- or is she someone so soft-hearted that she doesn't know how to fight for herself or her children?

-- or is she someone who had a cushy life, never had to fight for anything and so does not know how?

-- or does she silently agree with assessment of society on some level about the place of daughters, widows and women?

-- or is she just pragmatic and practical and figures that this is how society operates -- so pay the dowry and ensure your daughter is married?

-- - or is she just a worried mom who knows that arpita has realistically less chances of getting re-married and therefore, have to be satisfied what she gets?

-- or is she someone who has no problem with dowry because she doesn't see it as social evil but just as a social custom?

-- or is she just hopeful that these are just small hurdles to cross and one must do what has to?

-- or is she just thinking as a mom and being irrational?

-- is her silence a sign of weakness or strength?

2nd last tag!!!

Originally posted by: -JaZ-

yes..😂

but narmada instantly broke uday's rishta when he failed compatibility test.. here, there is no such option I think..

there is no other option because CVs want sundar 😂

It's exactly to show how mahaan imlie is

But about becoming strong, I think it goes both ways. Not everyone takes grief the same way and learn the same lesson from it. It varies from person to person.

I have seen people become more docile and resigning to fate than before after facing losses and traumas.💔

Originally posted by: bips

I kept thinking that maybe bm knows some secret about narmada that makes her keep shut. I honestly had this whole theory in my head that maybe aryan is adopted and she doesn't want aryan to find out and that is why she listens to all the crap 😆

thought the same.. may be narmada isn't mother of arpi n Aryan, may be wasn't legally wedded to Aryan's father.. so she is scared bm may spill the beans..

she never raised voice whenever bm insulted imlie also, she didn't try to stop bm when she was about to slap meethi also.. not even she warns bm in private.. very strange..

Apart from all the other reasons stated in this thread, I find one more reason behind Narmada's meekness. Some women are like that. When it comes to conflicts in the family, they just ask the ones they are comfortable with to stop flaring up the situation. Because, more than their self-respect, they value peace to prevail at that moment, especially if elders involved in the matter are from their husband's or son in law's family. They just want to make sure that the situation doesn't go out of control and the damage caused is irreversible. Their mentality is that why to spend your energy unnecessarily, on people like Neelima & Nanda who are full of negative vibes. But, that doesn't mean that they are a weak character. They have lots of other strong qualities within them, which many outspoken people may not have. I can tell it confidently since I have one such person in my life - my own mother. It's because of her such peace-loving nature that lots of fights that could have happened in my father's family and even in our family could be adverted.

And to add to this, despite being the wife or mother of a rich person, Narmada never had any type of attitude problem with her. Instead, I had felt Aparna had more attitude in her personality than Narmada. More than anything in her life, Narmada values the happiness of her kids probably even at the cost of her self-respect. Plus, I feel she is that person who prefers to see only the positive side of people or a situation. That's why she could accept Imlie in her home & heart in the first place and later in her son's life. Imlie being from a village or being a divorcee had never been even in her thoughts for a second. And the thought that drives her now is, her daughter's happiness lies with Sundar and hence nothing should hinder Arpita's happiness, something which she got to see on Arpita's face after 4 long years.

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

friends, what do you make of narmada's silence on various issues? even those who speak up like imlie and aryan are asked to keep quiet either to appease aunty blue or society? so what is behind her silence?

-- is she a prisoner of giving others respect that even when people like aunty blue insult her daughter, she is unable to put them in place?

-- or is she someone so soft-hearted that she doesn't know how to fight for herself or her children?

-- or is she someone who had a cushy life, never had to fight for anything and so does not know how?

-- or does she silently agree with assessment of society on some level about the place of daughters, widows and women?

-- or is she just pragmatic and practical and figures that this is how society operates -- so pay the dowry and ensure your daughter is married?

-- - or is she just a worried mom who knows that arpita has realistically less chances of getting re-married and therefore, have to be satisfied what she gets?

-- or is she someone who has no problem with dowry because she doesn't see it as social evil but just as a social custom?

-- or is she just hopeful that these are just small hurdles to cross and one must do what has to?

-- or is she just thinking as a mom and being irrational?

-- is her silence a sign of weakness or strength?

Thanks for bringing up the mindset behind such behavior by Narmada or any Mom behaving such.

Well I believe it’s a mix of almost all the factors above you mentioned but more points to her giving prisoner of giving respect, had a cushy life(Narmada specific) and worried mom thinking it’s difficult for Arpi to get remarried. One thing to add too is she is aware of Arpita’s liking for Sundar and her kids approval, all she wants is marriage to happen thinking things will get sorted eventually. She wants to get Arpi what she wants.

For many other parents, it can also be agreeing to society norms and not go against it which may bleak the chances of girl getting a good groom. Also, to make groom’s family happy with a mindset that if the groom family is happy, the girl will be happy.

God when will these norms change? When we will stop treating girls like second class citizens? When will girls not have to prove they are equal to men but will be very obvious like all human beings are equal 😞😞 This part of gender inequality makes me so mad… double standards of society… hate them 😡