From being my favourite show to my most disliked show - Page 6

Completely agree with the original post. Great analysis.

Originally posted by: PPak

Your MAlini character is unstable enough to attempt suicide without knowing the full truth - divorce is a much more palatable option....pleeease what are you defending?

My Malini ?😆

Just so you know I actually know people who hv done this. You don't know how a person who has invested so much in a relationship feels like when they get cheated on. Too easy to judge people when you aren't in their shoes.

Also mental health is a another big issue which I won't bother explaining to you bcz I don't think you hv the maturity to evn understand that. Calling people who attempt suicide as 'Unstable' is so uncalled for . It's called helplessness which people feel when they are depressed. Depression isn't something people create or want. Suicide isn't easy. A person has to feel that level of helplessness to even think abt it. People here are so insensitive to real issues bcz of a fictional love .

So pls continue to enjoy the romance .....bcz after it's a fiction which most people like you watch to just see Romance and not the story.

Lastly when replying to a comment or question try to give at the least a logical reply. If divorce is an optn for Malini......so was it for Imlie. No why would you consider Imlie to take dt logical optn ? Bcz you like her. It was forced marriage for godsake. Just bcz it's being shown as romance even a horrible tradition as Forced marriage is being loved by people here. There are thousands of women whose life was ruined bcz of traditions like dis.

But you go on......ignore and throw away any shred of logic and compassion.......just enjoy the romance .

Originally posted by: abha981

Today's episode was like a tight slap on adilie and the wierd justifications for this fiasco. Malini rightly pointed out in to the point tone and adi being the cheater and spineless he is giving bahana of amma of why he went. Beta amma kahan gayi thi jab malini se shaadi ki thi and were treating imlie like dirt.

Tripathis acting finally like some sane people who question and giving the cheaters their due. Even if they come to know first wife wala thing...how adilie explain this that first adi didn't love imlie after marriage with malini he developed feelings for imlie...which is no short of cheating and ema. They are not going to be too kind to these cheaters, all that beti jaap by tripathis was so so fake. Beti jaisi hai but pehli fursat mein uthaka bahar.

Mahaan imlie ji repeating the same mistake again..coming tripathi house unannounced giving opportunity to anu and tripathis to blame her. Bhai phone bhi th kar sakti thi.

Imli also has double minds.. first tells adi go and then wondering kahan gaya. This two minds have wreaked someone else's life. When will these cheaters understand this.

Totally.

Now Adi is all for Imlie's Amma 's expectations and love and respect. Where was all dt when he treated their daughter as shit ? When he introduced her as a servant ? When he ditched her in a completely new city to fend for herself?? And where was it when he decided to marry someone else.

One lame ass excuse that is. Arey if you love her ........go and say dt no......bloody coward.

And Imlie toh...from the promos it's clear dt what she says is not wht she actually feels. She herself said she wanted Malini to be happy and Adi should be wid her but here she says Adi cheated her and went back to Malini ? I mean girl make up your damn mind. If you don't want him to be hers .......say it. Why pretending to be all caring and sacrificing ?

Originally posted by: DaffodilsNew

I wanted to post this somewhere or atleast say it out aloud. I don't why. May be to make myself feel a bit better. Maybe bcz forums has always been a place I come to when I get involved in a show more than required.

When the show started....I instantly fell in love wid the concept and the characters. I loved Imlie, Aditya and Malini. Yes all three of them . But with how the storyline has been going.......I have to say the show has disappointed me on various levels.....so much so that I have actually stopped watching the show entirely. Just see updates these days.

Initially I was able to relate to all three of the characters. I understood why Imlie kept insisting on a marriage that was forced on the two. I understood the values and upbringing she had coming from a village of traditional people and having no father figure in life. I loved her enthusiasm and her determination to do something in life.

As for Aditya. Though I found it wrong that he didn't tell anyone abt his first marriage but still I could relate to him. Bcz had I been in a situation like dt .......I would hv broken off the marriage the first chance I got. Bcz marriage should be a choice .

As for Malini. Considering she never had any idea abt all this. There was nothing to fault. Yes she is fragile. So are a lot of people but when time comes they deserved the truth. How they handle it ..... shouldn't be the reason for hiding the truth from them and blindingly leading them on.

To be honest I liked how Adi started getting feelings for Imlie. But after the last village track ......the way the story has been handled has made me feel disgust and anger for both Aditya and Imlie.

Aditya knew he was married and insisted on marrying Malini inspite of it all bcz he couldn't handle being forcefully married to a village girl. So he did what he wished. And for that one moment when his conscience came back and he decided to tell the truth. .......Imlie stopped him. So where was Malini's fault in all the whole thing ? Did anyone even ask her ? Ws she even given an opportunity to make an informed decision for her whole life. All she knew was she was marrying the love of her life who she had been dating for 7 yrs.

And now Aditya wants to break off his marriage wid Malini. I am honestly fine wid dt too. But can he just shamelessly stop romancing Malini's own step sister in his house behind her back. ??? Don't people feel any sense of guilt for cheating on their partners who they married of their own free will.

Now the most important thing that had made me stop watching the show ..... Imlie. I adored Imlie so so much. Loved her. But not anymore. It's not bcz Adi chooses her over Malini. It's bcz on one hand Imlie pretends to care for Malini and doesn't want to hurt her but on the other hand she doesn't back out from romancing wid Adi. Why does she have to put the sindoor now when she didn't do it for so long in their house. She keeps saying she cares for Malini but all she is doing is causing her pain. It would be so much better if she would just let Adi tell Malini the truth. But no she refuses to do so. More so bcz she doesn't want people to hate or dislike her......not bcz she cares for Malini. Truth may hurt Malini but it will be better than what is happening ryt now. Ruining someone's life on the pretext of not wanting to ruin their life is what has made me hate Imlie's character. Now her niceness feels fake. Truth has its consequences and Imlie should be prepared to face dt. If she wants her sindoor and her husband......she should let Adi tell the truth or stop whatever she is doing wid Adi .

Anyways I had to say it somewhere. So here it is. How much I hv studied this forum I know 99% people here will not like the post bcz people just want to see the leads romance. .......at whtver cost dt may be. No issues wid dt.

Just don't understand the unnecessary bashing of Malini I see here. That character has done nothing wrong to anyone and yet she is suffering bcz of two very selfish people.

Originally posted by: DaffodilsNew

My Malini ?😆

Just so you know I actually know people who hv done this. You don't know how a person who has invested so much in a relationship feels like when they get cheated on. Too easy to judge people when you aren't in their shoes.

Also mental health is a another big issue which I won't bother explaining to you bcz I don't think you hv the maturity to evn understand that. Calling people who attempt suicide as 'Unstable' is so uncalled for . It's called helplessness which people feel when they are depressed. Depression isn't something people create or want. Suicide isn't easy. A person has to feel that level of helplessness to even think abt it. People here are so insensitive to real issues bcz of a fictional love .

So pls continue to enjoy the romance .....bcz after it's a fiction which most people like you watch to just see Romance and not the story.

Lastly when replying to a comment or question try to give at the least a logical reply. If divorce is an optn for Malini......so was it for Imlie. No why would you consider Imlie to take dt logical optn ? Bcz you like her. It was forced marriage for godsake. Just bcz it's being shown as romance even a horrible tradition as Forced marriage is being loved by people here. There are thousands of women whose life was ruined bcz of traditions like dis.

But you go on......ignore and throw away any shred of logic and compassion.......just enjoy the romance .

I was questioning your logic with my comment...you said who considers divorce when they don't know the full truth. All I'm responding with - is someone who can attempt suicide without knowing the full truth - whats Divorce for the person in comparison? Do you get the logic?

I have a good understanding of mental health issues and depression as well and Malini's situation you are right - fits the criteria. Depression causes unstable behavior. You called it depression - I used the manifestation of depression - instability. Why is it you can say Malini has a mental health condition like depression but I cannot use 'unstable' to indicate what depression does to a person based on medical definition.

Also you are making an assumption that I am watching Imlie only for the romance and dismissing everything else. Pls...Imlie is one of the better written stories in ITV. I enjoy the story and watch it for the full package - I even appreciate the makers showing us how a person should not be one dimensional like MAlini is - and the pitfalls of being that way. You seem to dislike everything about the story and still spend your time watching and on the forum as well - criticizing a storyline that has no chance of changing. Pls go ahead. That's something I don't understand...but to each their own - I guess.

People who are mentally or emotionally unstable tend to have intense spells of anger, depression or anxiety that may last for several days or just hours. Their mood swings vary between periods of euphoria to periods of dysphoria, and from severe anxiety or irritability to manic self confidence. Signs and Symptoms of Mental Instability

Also - I do agree with some of your points on Imlie and Adi.

Imlie wants her sindoor and see Malini happy. It's wrong...but her motivation is her belief and her sympathy. And she is the one sacrificing the most here - so its easy to be sympathetic to her.

Adi is not perfect - in fact he is the one that has perpetuated the mess...I like him for his one redeeming quality - that he stands up for the truth - once he's hit in the head with it...without being sacrificial and fake.

Malini would have been the one who would have gotten all my sympathies if her character sketch was done right. MAkers by yo-yoing her from sugary to outright bitchy have made her character on screen - seem very weak entitled and manipulative. So even though storywise my sympathy is for her - when I watch the show - I am unable to feel it - credit fo makers who are spinning it this way.

If you need to find someone to fault - blame the creatives - not the viewers. We are simply reacting to whats being shown and for the majority of viewers - Malini seems to be a weak clingy single track entitled selfish person who loves to project a loving front - but once anything threatens her - the fangs come out...and she cannot bear normal life.

I think this show is no more worth analyzing.

We need to ignore the show to send stern messages to the show makers. Poor actors are doing there jobs. It is the show makers who don’t get it and keep dragging the show.

Originally posted by: DaffodilsNew

Totally.

Now Adi is all for Imlie's Amma 's expectations and love and respect. Where was all dt when he treated their daughter as shit ? When he introduced her as a servant ? When he ditched her in a completely new city to fend for herself?? And where was it when he decided to marry someone else.

One lame ass excuse that is. Arey if you love her ........go and say dt no......bloody coward.

And Imlie toh...from the promos it's clear dt what she says is not wht she actually feels. She herself said she wanted Malini to be happy and Adi should be wid her but here she says Adi cheated her and went back to Malini ? I mean girl make up your damn mind. If you don't want him to be hers .......say it. Why pretending to be all caring and sacrificing ?

@bold kyunki ishq mohobbat pyaar aisa hi hota hai Imlie aur aditya destined hai isliye aditya can get away treating imlie like shit and now talk like he’s carrying on the responsibility which imlie ka amma ne diya

Honestly I hated how imlie was treated by aditya but that’s okay, he wasn’t ready for what happened and he was conflicted with handling his emotions. It was also okay when he didn’t believe in that marriage and went ahead with marriage with malini. It was also okay that he suddenly realised his love for imlie and suddenly want to believe in the rishta. But the way he is treating malini now is same like how’s he’s treated imlie and he hasn’t learnt a damn thing. There’s no consideration on how he just played with all their lives and owes her the truth. Not sure about others but I could feel the desperation malini is feeling with the kind of situation Aditya has put her in. Honestly it’s a very dark place to be in when suddenly you feel your partner doesn’t want the marriage now and you don’t have any reason to process why this sudden transition. Even if it’s the compatibility between these two was not great for the 7 years they were in relationship, they were atleast friends, he owes her that much.

he talks 1000x times he’ll tell her the truth but bande ke muh se kuch nikalta nahi...aur of course tripathi’s will question, why for a husband, his wife is not priority and imlie is his priority. I don’t understand the reason to villanize them when their confusion is absolutely realistic.

as for imlie having two minds, I again blame aditya, the girl is freaking 19, how much ever strong she is, Aditya as a personality can be very impressionable. I think with all the new realised pyaar aditya has, somehow she has some hope developed which she’s trying hard to supress.

honestly I just want malini to get out of this mess with Aditya and move on with her life. Same goes to imlie, want her to take her path of realising her dreams. it’s her choice to stay with aditya but considering how babusaheb is like tick tok clock, wouldn’t be surprised if he has a change of mind again.

Originally posted by: Peanutbolt

@bold kyunki ishq mohobbat pyaar aisa hi hota hai Imlie aur aditya destined hai isliye aditya can get away treating imlie like shit and now talk like he’s carrying on the responsibility which imlie ka amma ne diya

Honestly I hated how imlie was treated by aditya but that’s okay, he wasn’t ready for what happened and he was conflicted with handling his emotions. It was also okay when he didn’t believe in that marriage and went ahead with marriage with malini. It was also okay that he suddenly realised his love for imlie and suddenly want to believe in the rishta. But the way he is treating malini now is same like how’s he’s treated imlie and he hasn’t learnt a damn thing. There’s no consideration on how he just played with all their lives and owes her the truth. Not sure about others but I could feel the desperation malini is feeling with the kind of situation Aditya has put her in. Honestly it’s a very dark place to be in when suddenly you feel your partner doesn’t want the marriage now and you don’t have any reason to process why this sudden transition. Even if it’s the compatibility between these two was not great for the 7 years they were in relationship, they were atleast friends, he owes her that much.

he talks 1000x times he’ll tell her the truth but bande ke muh se kuch nikalta nahi...aur of course tripathi’s will question, why for a husband, his wife is not priority and imlie is his priority. I don’t understand the reason to villanize them when their confusion is absolutely realistic.

as for imlie having two minds, I again blame aditya, the girl is freaking 19, how much ever strong she is, Aditya as a personality can be very impressionable. I think with all the new realised pyaar aditya has, somehow she has some hope developed which she’s trying hard to supress.

honestly I just want malini to get out of this mess with Aditya and move on with her life. Same goes to imlie, want her to take her path of realising her dreams. it’s her choice to stay with aditya but considering how babusaheb is like tick tok clock, wouldn’t be surprised if he has a change of mind again.

@Bold : This is what my problem is too. I had no issues wid Aditya till he started falling for Imlie. I mean dt was given......since Imlie is the main lead and so is Aditya. But the way he has been treating Malini since the realisation has made is dislike the character so much. He is such a selfish person.........how much ever the writer's try to prove otherwise. He never cared for Imlie's feeling when he went ahead wid another marriage or when he used to scold her like anything for coming in between him and Malini. And now is doing the same to Malini. All he ever cares for is what he wants and what he feels good abt.

Just bcz he moved on so fast from a 7yrs relationship and a 7 days marriage...... doesn't mean Malini has to as well. She deserves a better treatment , if not for being his newly wed wife but for being a best friend to him for years. She deserves the truth and she deserves time .

And I absolutely agree with what you said abt the Tripathi's. People hv a tendency to villianise people who don't support the lead. But looking from their pov you see your daughter in law in distress bcz of a servant. Who will you support ? Obviously your daughter in law. If your daughter would hv been in the same situation , you would hv supported her over a maid too. And they Malini for years and Imlie for only a few months. Their reaction is understandable. It's more like Imlie's breached their trust. They don't know abt the forced marriage saga. They are completely ryt in their stand.

Originally posted by: PPak

I was questioning your logic with my comment...you said who considers divorce when they don't know the full truth. All I'm responding with - is someone who can attempt suicide without knowing the full truth - whats Divorce for the person in comparison? Do you get the logic?

I have a good understanding of mental health issues and depression as well and Malini's situation you are right - fits the criteria. Depression causes unstable behavior. You called it depression - I used the manifestation of depression - instability. Why is it you can say Malini has a mental health condition like depression but I cannot use 'unstable' to indicate what depression does to a person based on medical definition.

Also you are making an assumption that I am watching Imlie only for the romance and dismissing everything else. Pls...Imlie is one of the better written stories in ITV. I enjoy the story and watch it for the full package - I even appreciate the makers showing us how a person should not be one dimensional like MAlini is - and the pitfalls of being that way. You seem to dislike everything about the story and still spend your time watching and on the forum as well - criticizing a storyline that has no chance of changing. Pls go ahead. That's something I don't understand...but to each their own - I guess.

People who are mentally or emotionally unstable tend to have intense spells of anger, depression or anxiety that may last for several days or just hours. Their mood swings vary between periods of euphoria to periods of dysphoria, and from severe anxiety or irritability to manic self confidence. Signs and Symptoms of Mental Instability

Also - I do agree with some of your points on Imlie and Adi.

Imlie wants her sindoor and see Malini happy. It's wrong...but her motivation is her belief and her sympathy. And she is the one sacrificing the most here - so its easy to be sympathetic to her.

Adi is not perfect - in fact he is the one that has perpetuated the mess...I like him for his one redeeming quality - that he stands up for the truth - once he's hit in the head with it...without being sacrificial and fake.

Malini would have been the one who would have gotten all my sympathies if her character sketch was done right. MAkers by yo-yoing her from sugary to outright bitchy have made her character on screen - seem very weak entitled and manipulative. So even though storywise my sympathy is for her - when I watch the show - I am unable to feel it - credit fo makers who are spinning it this way.

If you need to find someone to fault - blame the creatives - not the viewers. We are simply reacting to whats being shown and for the majority of viewers - Malini seems to be a weak clingy single track entitled selfish person who loves to project a loving front - but once anything threatens her - the fangs come out...and she cannot bear normal life.

You are talking as if a person goes and weighs the pros and cons of divorce Vs suicide before attempting suicide. It's a haste decision made from heart , from feeling of helplessness. While divorce is done in a calm mind.

As for my point. I wanted to know why people consider Imlie not wanting to move on okay but Malini holding on to her marriage not okay. Considering that Adi was the same way wid Imlie after his marriage wid her , as he is wid Malini now.

Depression is not instability. It's much more than that clinically. I don't hv to read into definitions for that. It's a state of mind where one feels hopeless, helpless and worthlessness. Depression is much more than that definition you hv posted. Besides my problem is the tone wid which you called a depressed person unstable......the insensitivity.

Nope I no more watch Imlie. This is the only post I have made and it will be my last too. As I said I felt really really disappointed and frustrated wid the way the story was handled. Inspite of knowing from the very beginning that Adilie were end goals I loved the show. Until I didn't. My problem isn't Adi and Imlie....or their love......it's the way it's being handled. And don't worry I hv moved on from the show.

And as for forum......I hv been a member for years .........I come to express here when I feel like it.

As for Malini. I don't find her anything like you described. She is dealing wid a lot here. Married just a few days back and here her husband is in love wid their maid . It wasn't even an arranged marriage. Adi wasn't forced into it. And as for Imlie.....she is still a maid. They may love her but if she becomes the reason of her husband going away then obviously one would react badly.

But as you said ......to each his own. I can relate to Malini than anyone else in the show ryt now. I can feel her pain .

Originally posted by: DaffodilsNew

You are talking as if a person goes and weighs the pros and cons of divorce Vs suicide before attempting suicide. It's a haste decision made from heart , from feeling of helplessness. While divorce is done in a calm mind.

As for my point. I wanted to know why people consider Imlie not wanting to move on okay but Malini holding on to her marriage not okay. Considering that Adi was the same way wid Imlie after his marriage wid her , as he is wid Malini now.

Depression is not instability. It's much more than that clinically. I don't hv to read into definitions for that. It's a state of mind where one feels hopeless, helpless and worthlessness. Depression is much more than that definition you hv posted. Besides my problem is the tone wid which you called a depressed person unstable......the insensitivity.

Nope I no more watch Imlie. This is the only post I have made and it will be my last too. As I said I felt really really disappointed and frustrated wid the way the story was handled. Inspite of knowing from the very beginning that Adilie were end goals I loved the show. Until I didn't. My problem isn't Adi and Imlie....or their love......it's the way it's being handled. And don't worry I hv moved on from the show.

And as for forum......I hv been a member for years .........I come to express here when I feel like it.

As for Malini. I don't find her anything like you described. She is dealing wid a lot here. Married just a few days back and here her husband is in love wid their maid . It wasn't even an arranged marriage. Adi wasn't forced into it. And as for Imlie.....she is still a maid. They may love her but if she becomes the reason of her husband going away then obviously one would react badly.

But as you said ......to each his own. I can relate to Malini than anyone else in the show ryt now. I can feel her pain .

Bold - maybe because Imli has no expectations from Adi - while Adi was brutal with her and even now... when he loves her - she is keeping her suhaag - yes, but moving away sacrificially, acknowledging Malini's 7 years and also remembers with gratitude Malini's support while Adi was brutal. Her self respect is maintained in that she is not asking anything of Adi.

Malini on the other hand - is holding on to something that clearly has gone wrong - with expectations of changing it - which hurts her further. Adi does not want to even touch her - yet Malini cannot even effectively communicate with him...she went to her mom, dad, mil, dadi, and she lets him off the hook constantly...how did they survive 7 years when they can't speak to one another is surprising. I don't have a problem with her holding on. I have a problem with the way she goes about it. No guts to ask Adi and force him to answer - since she does not want to hear the truth, taking her anger out on Imlie instead - without knowing the truth. Now the truth is out - she wont leave T house I'm sure. I can feel her pain..just can't relate to how she deals with it.

The sacrificial vs self serving contrast drawn between Imlie and Malini and the deep level connect the makers are showing between Adi and Imlie are the reason some viewers like me are drawn to Adilie. But as you said - we all come from different places and mindsets. Just tried to give my 2 cents to your question.