Just to clarify our take on the new posts that keeps creeping up

I just wanted to make this post to clarify certain points that have been coming up in recent discussion where there are pointed comments that regular forum member are not allowing supposedly new members to have healthy discussion.

So to clarify, we have no issue if someone comes and puts their view forward based on the character that we see on the screen. But if someone is coming and trying to argue a point, making long moral post based on a 2 min promo they saw or because they saw the show on auto play or something that they perceive their character to be which it is not, then is it not disrespectful to the people here who have invested 20 mins or more for last 130 episodes and hell lot more in analyzing and understanding each character.

Putting forward a concern with the show based on the facts as is shown on the show is absolutely welcome and we all can have a healthy discussion or agree to disagree. But if the discussion needs to be based on how they want the facts to be like refusing to accept this show as bigamy , totally ignoring the first marriage, quoting a maid-malik romance, speaking about EMA , then sorry but I am not sure what show you are talking about but Imlie is not that show and we cannot discuss a show that we know nothing about.😛

Nobody here is saying that Aditya is right or he does not need pay for his mistakes or he does not need to tell the truth. He needs to that is a given but the story has a flow and we should let the makers tell the story on their own pace and time If no body had an issue with the truth being hidden for last 100 episodes, why this sudden need and rant to spoil the story and truth to be out? Makes one think that they have an ulterior motive. 😉

We were all ready to sympathize with Malini. but looking at her now, why should we do it? Just to give a perspective, Aditya had gone for 4 days, Malini found out that he is lying, did she question him? She put everything under the carpet. She caught him red-handed taking pictures of another girl. Did she question him, asked him why, took him to the room to get clarification or made sure that he was not lying again especially when she has so many doubts in her head about him and Imlie. No she walked away. So why am I supposed to respect, sympathize or defend this woman who is all Ok to be treated like a doormat? Why am I suppose to compare my life to this woman's life and give an answer because frankly I would have made a ruckus and "point to be noted" it would have been in our room, not in front of the whole family.

On the other hand when Aditya mocked Imlie for her beliefs, her astitva, she straight away walked off from the relationship. He had to beg, cry, go on his knees and do the whole 4 yard thing before she relented. Why should I not respect, admire or defend this woman or want to be like her?

For me its not Imlie, Adilie, Aditya or Malini. Its the characters and the story that the makers are showing and sadly to say Malini has been a big disappointment.

Thank for this Pam!

It is so sad that we need to spell it out. If only people attempted to see a few of the previous threads, they would know why we get defensive or offended at certain things. And how we view each of the three characters. They would also see that we disagree about so many things on a daily basis. What is the point of discussions if everyone had the same worldview about everything anyway.

It is unfortunate that what should be seen as a whole story gets broken into so called ships. It is a given that people watch a show for the main leads but that in no way means you overlook the story itself.

Yes I am with you in most of the points and disagree with some!

I think you know me already, I am not a fangirl, and I invest the time in watching, rewatching without skipping and analysis with all of you!

But I have a different take in some point!

I am mentally prepared for a misunderstanding of Adili relation in front of the Ts and Dilhi log, I think in some point they will pointed as an EMA with the maid!

Do I believe or define Adili as an EMA no of course, they are married and she is his first wife, but if the Ts and others don't know this yet, they will consider it cheating anyway!

Do I like it? No, but at leasr I am ready for the heartbroken drama with my tissue box near to me 😂👌🏻

Hope this will not happen, but it is an option since the truth is still hidden, and Adilli flowing with the moment sometimes!

About Malini, I still have a soft edge but I understand you too, I may join you very much soon!

As you say we will be disagree more often, lets keep it healthy and inevitable for different perspectives to be share

Originally posted by: Guiltyo0o

Yes I am with you in most of the points and disagree with some!

I think you know me already, I am not a fangirl, and I invest the time in watching, rewatching without skipping and analysis with all of you!

But I have a different take in some point!

I am mentally prepared for a misunderstanding of Adili relation in front of the Ts and Dilhi log, I think in some point they will pointed as an EMA with the maid!

Do I believe or define Adili as an EMA no of course, they are married and she is his first wife, but if the Ts and others don't know this yet, they will consider it cheating anyway!

Do I like it? No, but at leasr I am ready for the heartbroken drama with my tissue box near to me 😂👌🏻

Hope this will not happen, but it is an option since the truth is still hidden, and Adilli flowing with the moment sometimes!

About Malini, I still have a soft edge but I understand you too, I may join you very much soon!

As you say we will be disagree more often, lets keep it healthy and inevitable for different perspectives to be share

Re: Malini we all had a soft edge, we expected the sympathy to come but since the PD track, I cannot relate to her on any level not as woman, as a wife or as a bahu.

Re EMA and cheating, that its a given because this ITV and it thrives on drama. Its going to happen but we as audience know the truth that it is bigamy not EMA so why call it EMA.. Every body who sees Imlie knows they are married, so calling their interactions or "holding hands" as "cheating" and EMA is plain absurd IMO. For me, EMA is a extra marital affair, so how is it an affair when they are married??

Originally posted by: MuteButton

Thank for this Pam!

It is so sad that we need to spell it out. If only people attempted to see a few of the previous threads, they would know why we get defensive or offended at certain things. And how we view each of the three characters. They would also see that we disagree about so many things on a daily basis. What is the point of discussions if everyone had the same worldview about everything anyway.

It is unfortunate that what should be seen as a whole story gets broken into so called ships. It is a given that people watch a show for the main leads but that in no way means you overlook the story itself.

Exactly, we ourselves have defended Malini at one point or another but how do we defend a character who we cannot relate to at any level. They say they feel bad on how Malini is getting treated by Aditya, I feel bad because she is letting herself get treated this way by Aditya. Frankly, I still cannot get past the point that she came back home without any clarification from Aditya on his lie where he clearly indicated that he was lying. How can you even think to start building your relationship when a big crack of a lie is already in your foundation? Guess "forgive and forget" should be the new motto for successful relationships 😆😆

Discuss dang se karenge to batayenge apna view... agar sar pe bandook leke aayenge with no open mind then what is the point of even talking about it. Understand you are new but atleast try to first check the views of the people here before making posts and moral comments and calling us "bullies" **rolling my eyes** here.

Ok we are then in the same page!

We both don't consider them as EMA , and prepared for this misunderstanding track too, and am with you don't agree to call it as cheating anytime back then, now or in the future, by any viewer or bashing theme of the show

But as storyline we are prepared for it!

On Millani, you give up on her, I still have faith on her, I don't give up easily , it is my personality.

I will not insist on you to reconnect with her, and I also expect you to understand that may other feel about her different than you , it is not wrong to do so.

Her layers is falling off now , she may recover or she may be worse, on which extend do we connect or disconnect with her? How much we can tolerate her? Is depend on each one personality and experience.

When the start of the show after the force marriage, Aditya was doing wrong to imlie behaving very bad with her, some members here start to call him names, he was just acting like jerk! But I didn't fully hate him, and now he is recovering!

I hope she recover some time later 🤔

Well i have different take. I was bashed with foul words just because i have a different view. How come people decided that i dont watch the show and just a hater on trp day. Did not all people jump at a conclusion without even trying to understand the whole thing. Same thing will happen in serial...adi imli will be labelled as ema ...before they sit and explain the whole first marriage thing.

I think members should be more civil and tolerant while defending and responding. It cannot be like

Sadda kutta kutta...tuada kutta Tommy🤣🤣

Originally posted by: abha981

Well i have different take. I was bashed with foul words just because i have a different view. How come people decided that i dont watch the show and just a hater on trp day. Did not all people jump at a conclusion without even trying to understand the whole thing. Same thing will happen in serial...adi imli will be labelled as ema ...before they sit and explain the whole first marriage thing.

I think members should be more civil and tolerant while defending and responding. It cannot be like

Sadda kutta kutta...tuada kutta Tommy🤣🤣

Ooh dear , I feel sorry for you

I am sorry na, If I misunderstand you 🙈

But you understand us also na,

We face this Thursdays hate attacks, how could we know you are a loyal viewer then and not only bashing it for the sake of it, it is your bad luck and the title too which enhance the misunderstanding even more

I am sorry again,

And I see we would have more common takes

I also had my own bashing time due a different takes once in a while so dont take it personally

I don't think anybody here is trying to be act bad toward you or anybody els

It only needs a big heart to overcome misunderstandings and shrinking the distance!

It takes a big heart to accept the fault. Please don't be sorry. Wish only our adi has a big heart to man up now.

Originally posted by: Guiltyo0o

Ok we are then in the same page!

We both don't consider them as EMA , and prepared for this misunderstanding track too, and am with you don't agree to call it as cheating anytime back then, now or in the future, by any viewer or bashing theme of the show

But as storyline we are prepared for it!

On Millani, you give up on her, I still have faith on her, I don't give up easily , it is my personality.

I will not insist on you to reconnect with her, and I also expect you to understand that may other feel about her different than you , it is not wrong to do so.

Her layers is falling off now , she may recover or she may be worse, on which extend do we connect or disconnect with her? How much we can tolerate her? Is depend on each one personality and experience.

When the start of the show after the force marriage, Aditya was doing wrong to imlie behaving very bad with her, some members here start to call him names, he was just acting like jerk! But I didn't fully hate him, and now he is recovering!

I hope she recover some gime later 🤔

I have no issue with people feeling differently about a character. They have full right to do so if its justified. I have an issue with people wanting me to feel differently about a character based on their views and thrashing other characters to make it so.

If Aditya and Imlie would not have felt remorse or regret or were totally avoiding the conversation of Malini, then thrashing them makes absolute sense. Thrashing them just because they are holding hands and "point to be noted", talking about sacrificing for Malini, is really absurd. I would really like to know where were these people when Aditya was romancing with Malini in front of Imlie, why wasn't he called a cheater then? Did you see any thrashing of Adini then or that it feels weird to see it or sympathy wave posts for Imlie. So, now when tables have turned, why is it wrong now when it was right then?

We accepted Adini and their PDA as normal in marital relationship and now that he is making Imlie the legit wife, why should our view change? Why shouldn't we accept it as normal in a marital relationship? We accepted it then we are accepting it now. Yes, if he would have done the PDA with Malini and Imlie at the same time then it would be a different story but he is not so what is the outrage about??

Re: Malini - the one that you see on the screen now is the real actual Malini. Unless they do a 180 degree u turn, this is her character sketch where she prefers to stay in a bubble rather than face confrontations. Avoidance is her way to deal with life issues. It been so since the first episode and its not going to change in the future. Aditya and only Aditya would have to spell it out to her and even then she is going to cling to him. So if you are expecting a miracle, my advice would be to keep your expectations very low.