Originally posted by: xaviara
It is not easy to define or explain what love is, because it varies from person to person. The essence of love remains the same, but for every person it usually has a different meaning.
Take the lead characters of Gustakh Dil for instance. For Lajoo, love means thinking about others and making sure they are happy at all cost, even at the cost of her own happiness, be it for her village, family or Nikhil. She only draws the line when it comes to her self respect.
For Ishana love is like a possession, where the ownership belongs to only her. Nikhil for her is like her favorite toy, which she cannot share with anyone, and when destiny forced her to share Nikhil with Lajoo, her love suddenly became a game, where her goal was only to win back her toy (Nikhil) from the girl (Lajoo) who dared to come in to their lives and she had no choice but to share it with her.
For Nikhil love is GUILT, because that is what he has been taught since he was a child and lost his elder brother. All his life since that incident he has been taunted and blamed again and again by his mom that he killed his brother, which made him feel guilty, so for him loving his mom meant living with the guilt of killing his brother.
The other person he loves in his family, is his BABA, for whom he went to Sonbarsa for, and ended up marrying Lajoo, again out of guilt, which his BABA made him feel, that is why he came back to Sonbarsa to marry Lajoo, out of his own will.
Last but not the least, the person he loves the most and can't live without, according to him, is Ishana. In my opinion she cashed on Nikhil's guilt about being the reason for killing his brother, and became his lifeline. I have never seen Inshana go against Barkha even once in all this time, and tell her off that she needs to stop blaming Nikhil for what happened, and give him the motherly love he desperately needs and yearns for. Why would she, the more Barkha distanced herself from Nikhil, the more closer he became to Ishana.
If that wasn't enough, after he married Lajoo, Ishana took him for another guilt trip ride, this time about marrying Lajoo and not thinking about her and their love. But she wasn't as direct as Barkha, she pretended to understand him and his circumstances, yet every opportunity she had, she made him feel guilty for hurting her.
No wonder Nikhil is such a weak man, because the pattern fo his life is that whomever he has ever loved, has made him feel guilty about something, or used his guilt for their own means.
So if we look at Nikhil and his life in this context, then its not difficult to understand why he hasn't realized his love for Lajoo, because she has only tried to keep him happy, never used his guilt as a weapon. She did what anyone in love does, she let Nikhil free, because she did not want to be the reason for Nikhil feeling guilty about anything.
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