Hmm-- what should I think now? - Page 3

Originally posted by: ninag

I don't just think she is giving up on life because Nikil doesn't love her. It's a combination of things people have already pointed out. 6 months of degradation and humiliation from his family. The shame brought on her family and not being loved by her husband...it is a mixture of all these facts. Lajjo is broken. At such a low point it is hard to see any light at the end of the tunnel...now she is desperately ill and physically weak as well as mentally is it any wonder she can't fight anymore?

but all of these was chosen by her only! why she didn't speak up and returned to home ..or if not then went to any ashram .. coz for me it is better than to bear such humiliation .. see if u don't speak up for ur respect then others also won't .. as simple as that .. and i don't believe every girl is that weak ..it varies and Laajo is defo a weak person who was never strong enough to make right decisions .. sorry but true! everybody says Nikhil married her willingly,in that case she also did the same .. both are responsible for all this chaos .. she suffered i agree but her self respect was in her hands only,she was ready to let that ruin for her blind love for Nikhil and now she is complaining .. but why?who stopped her to speak up that time?

She did speak up and return home after 6 months. Why should she go to an ashram? What sort of life would that be? She loved nikhil love makes us blind and make stupid choices. She tried to live with his family out of love, out of obligation to her family once she realised this is impossible and neither she or nikhil would be happy she left. She didn't know about Ishana when they married so how is Lajjo responsible for the mess now? My point was she is not only mentally weak but also physically. That's why she is talking the way she is now. She is a 19 yesr old girl, her life is in tatters. I'm glad you would be so strong when faced with such devastation. I'm not sure I would be. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger they say. These events will be a catalist and a new stronger Lajjo will emerge. At the moment she is at her lowest ebb and on her deathbed. Give the poor girl a break. She is only 19 and hasn't had much life experience yet. Once she recovers and gains her mental strength she will regain self respect and go off and train as a doctor etc. we will watch her grow strong.

Originally posted by: ninag

She did speak up and return home after 6 months. Why should she go to an ashram? What sort of life would that be? Is he loved nikhil love makes us blind and make stupid choices. She tried to live with his family out of love, out of obligation to her family once she realised this is impossible and neither she or nikhil would be happy she left. She didn't know about Ishana when they married so how is Lajjo responsible for the mess now? My point was she is not only mentally weak but also physically. That's why she is talking the way she is now. She is a 19 yesr old girl, her life is in tatters. I'm glad you would be so strong when faced with such devastation. I'm not sure I would be.

yah ashram thing i mentioned coz i prefer it more honourbale in other than being the other woman instead of being the wife anyways .. yah i also agree she tried to do it but it didn't work out ..but that doesn't mean u need to kill yourself ..my point is as simple .. yes again,and she was also hinted by Nikhil he loves someone else but as she was too young to understand it so she didn't got it but later she realized it and the pian love brings ..and i m happy that finally she backed out .. but there is my pijnt ..why she backed out just bcoz of Nikhil not loving her back? she could have stood for her self respect .. but she didn't .. every time she did things for Nikhil ..where was her self respect??? and just on death bed suddenly she thinks of her self respect! that was not logical ..her reasons for wanting to die is illogical ..and also wanting to die is illogical in any situation!

but why she got her self attached to this disease ..for her being sick others r not responsible .. she wanted to end her life .. and that too for whom?a moron who never loved her back? and yes,even i m 19! but i can bet i won't die bcoz of heart breaks .. even it is done by my society proclaimed husband! a person who never loved me back .. i will defo choose my mom and dad who loves me :)

She didn't back out because nikhil didn't love her she knew from the start he didn't and he wouldn't. She backed out cos he told her to go. She isn't trying to kill herself - that is a completely different thing - I think she tried to help her beloved kaka dr. Both of them worked without precaution when the disease started to spread. Unfortunately she caught it. He didn't. It just shows how selfless she is, how dedicated she is and what a great dr she will make. Now she is seriously ill se is saying she wants to die and listing her reasons for it but before she fell ill she was carrying on with life and was trying to be brave. I'm saying as already said before she is physically as well as mentally exhausted and that's why she is talking/thinking the way she is...we all hit a low point before we start to fight back. This is hers. That doesn't mean she is weak. It means she is human.

Originally posted by: ninag

She did speak up and return home after 6 months. Why should she go to an ashram? What sort of life would that be? She loved nikhil love makes us blind and make stupid choices. She tried to live with his family out of love, out of obligation to her family once she realised this is impossible and neither she or nikhil would be happy she left. She didn't know about Ishana when they married so how is Lajjo responsible for the mess now? My point was she is not only mentally weak but also physically. That's why she is talking the way she is now. She is a 19 yesr old girl, her life is in tatters. I'm glad you would be so strong when faced with such devastation. I'm not sure I would be. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger they say. These events will be a catalist and a new stronger Lajjo will emerge. At the moment she is at her lowest ebb and on her deathbed. Give the poor girl a break. She is only 19 and hasn't had much life experience yet. Once she recovers and gains her mental strength she will regain self respect and go off and train as a doctor etc. we will watch her grow strong.

I liked ur analysis

Originally posted by: ninag

I don't just think she is giving up on life because Nikil doesn't love her. It's a combination of things people have already pointed out. 6 months of degradation and humiliation from his family. The shame brought on her family and not being loved by her husband...it is a mixture of all these facts. Lajjo is broken. At such a low point it is hard to see any light at the end of the tunnel...now she is desperately ill and physically weak as well as mentally is it any wonder she can't fight anymore?

Originally posted by: sami01

I liked ur analysis

the thing is girls do a lot for love of their parents too...whatever she is doing she felt was best choice, and I agree with you Nikhil did not tell her about Ishaana at the time of wedding. It was only afterwards, she was under so much pressure at that time, she said yes to the compromise. Later on Nikhil's support in everything, he stood by her made her fall for man he actually is.We all know even if he is emotional fool he has always been there for Laajo.Had Laajo told him she was leaving he would have stopped her. Only once she was out of sight he was so thoroughly manipulated by his girl friend and mom. He was overwhelmed with thoughts put in his mind by others but Laajo's thoughts still emerged from his mind because of deep down connection with her.

About Laajo I appreciate her choices and respect them, I wish she could choose different but I can tell you from life's own experiences, once we are married na...one makes choices much differently and unfortunately self respect some times takes a back seat. believe me when I say that ---in reality it happens a lot. But I agree that at low point of her life physically and mentally she would survive and become even stronger than before.

I do feel though she is very strong for what she did, in her place I would have stayed at Nikhil's permanently for sake of my family .

yes Di,even i appreciate ..but this dying thing just got on my nerves ..it is way too dramatic ..and don't knw why everyone feel that after being married means we can't think of our self respect ..i mean only this way of thinking needs to be changed ..and after that only girls wil be able to survive .. i m stuck with only one side portrayal of love ..why it needs to be so pityable .. i just hope she just didn't want to die and that's all :)

Originally posted by: ninag

She didn't back out because nikhil didn't love her she knew from the start he didn't and he wouldn't. She backed out cos he told her to go. She isn't trying to kill herself - that is a completely different thing - I think she tried to help her beloved kaka dr. Both of them worked without precaution when the disease started to spread. Unfortunately she caught it. He didn't. It just shows how selfless she is, how dedicated she is and what a great dr she will make. Now she is seriously ill se is saying she wants to die and listing her reasons for it but before she fell ill she was carrying on with life and was trying to be brave. I'm saying as already said before she is physically as well as mentally exhausted and that's why she is talking/thinking the way she is...we all hit a low point before we start to fight back. This is hers. That doesn't mean she is weak. It means she is human.

u got it wrong dear ..she is not playing a fighting spirit here,she willingly got the disease .. u didn't get what they have shown .. she did it willingly ..and that's why when her mom noticed the spots on her body,she remained silent ..if she was a victim like others she defo wld have told others,and if not anyone to get them tensed,at least to Dr. Kaka .. she has not been playing selfless all along,she did it willingly ..u can ask anyone and her convos with her mom,her mom confronting bua.. that is my point..if we get heart breaks in life that doesn't mean we need to die or lost the will to survive .. this is also a stupidity for me .. coz i respect my life very much and every girl should.. why i shld think my life is a wastage just bcoz some persons couldn't get my importance?! :)

yes there is a low point .. and during this period she is playing weak ..what is problem in saying her weak when she is actually weak? i also know the story onwards,she wil defo become a strong and redefined person for sure ..but at the moment .. she is weak and i don't think it is wrong to say that ..

Sami I fully agree with your observations, I think Nikhil's character has many layers. Deep down somewhere he is a very caring person, and hearing about Laajo's illness he just swung into action. Whether this care and concern will manifest into love or it is Love is yet to be seen.

I agree I don't think she intentionally wanted to catch the disease to die, but she didn't prevent it either...she just didn't care what happend to her anymore.