Will Virat lock sai? - Page 4

Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

😂😂😂.. great logic .. anyone can be abused . Cops , lawyers are not immune to abuse . There are many real life examples to back this

Yeah anybody can be abused irrespective of their job and your career has nothing to do with making a person more or less vulnerable to abuse. That being said, the relationship dynamic that sai-virat have where virat and his family are her only real family, where virat's family are actually emotionally and verbally abusive towards sai right in front of virat but he barely does or says anything to warn them to behave with her but just expects sai to be careful what she says to them in response etc does all make sai more vulnerable to abuse and virat and his family the ones in the position of power to abuse her.

Sai has surely hurt virat many times by misunderstanding his friendship with pakhi and not seeing the love he has for sai, but that too is mostly because of virat's own mistakes that he hasn't yet realised are the reason sai pushes him away, i.e., telling her he already loves someone else before marrying her, not admitting and clarifying to sai that he loved pakhi in the past but has no such feelings for her anymore as he has realised he loves sai.

Sai hasn't actually done anything that could merit her being called an abuser. Yeah she has accused virat of having a relationship with pakhi and covering it up under the name of friendship in front of the family (that accusation does have merit and is not completely baseless as we know the roots of this come from virats past words and some things sai has witnessed in relations to virat-pakhi), but the things virat, pakhi and chavans have done to sai are in fact abuse.

Verbally abusing, humiliating, throwing her out of house and denying her food etc are all abusive behaviours that virat, pakhi and chavans have all jointly subjected sai to. If you take these things into consideration Sai hasn't done any of that to him. Her only real follies are her misunderstanding virat's relationship with virat and accusing him for it (but virat and pakhi both are more to blame for sai's this misunderstanding) and constantly going around telling every tom dick and harry that her marriage with virat is a deal and bringing it up even when not needed.

And we also can't forget that even if sai did try and say anything against virat and pakhi, she was met with further abuse and insults from one and all, with virat too alongside pakhi acting like sai was just making things up without there being any basis to her accusations which only further made sai vulnerable to insults from his family. In short, sai has never been in a position to insult and humiliate virat even if she tried because this is his family she is living with, his family who always side with him against sai and not listen to a word she says against him but would instead just humiliate her.

Originally posted by: velvetscarf

True , plenty of real life cases but honestly this is not one of them.

Totally agree Sai is often irritating, obtuse, aggressive, rude, unappreciative etc etc.in fact i thought she really went overboard on so many occasions and becomes obnoxious . But by not stretch of the imagination can she be considered an abuser even if she was swearing at him. Although for instance I could apply that to Bhavani

But the way he’s been depicted Virat is an actual gaslighter & abusive male despite some good qualities.
Perhaps Neil’s good looks & general positioning as a good noble character has a lot of influence. If we imagined someone far less photogenic acting like this in real life i think the view may change. The dialogues & actions given to him put him beyond the pale at times. He really plsys with Sai’s mind because he’s too stupid to understand the problem or cant bear to admit his guilt in encouraging Pakhi. And now he’s being spiteful towards her just because she rejected him. Thats really petty and mean on his part.

Forget my view, i can still tolerate & try to understand him, my mother actually cant stand him! You should hear her comments

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Yep! It is incredibly problematic how virat himself has constantly encouraged pakhi's interference in his and sai's matters for a very long time to allow her to insult sai and not reprimand pakhi for it but reprimand sai instead if she attempted to give a retort to pakhi's insults, acted like sai was making up things and lying just to save his and pakhi's face in front of the family when sai exposed pakhi's behaviour towards sai being because of jealousy as pakhi and virat had a relationship and their friendship is to cover up that relationship, in turn making sai look like a complete liar and making her more vulnerable to insults from his family and then he stands there and cries acting as if he hasn't got the faintest clue why sai suspects his friendship with pakhi or why sai and pakhi don't get along.

Originally posted by: velvetscarf

True , plenty of real life cases but honestly this is not one of them.

Totally agree Sai is often irritating, obtuse, aggressive, rude, unappreciative etc etc.in fact i thought she really went overboard on so many occasions and becomes obnoxious . But by not stretch of the imagination can she be considered an abuser even if she was swearing at him. Although for instance I could apply that to Bhavani

But the way he’s been depicted Virat is an actual gaslighter & abusive male despite some good qualities.
Perhaps Neil’s good looks & general positioning as a good noble character has a lot of influence. If we imagined someone far less photogenic acting like this in real life i think the view may change. The dialogues & actions given to him put him beyond the pale at times. He really plsys with Sai’s mind because he’s too stupid to understand the problem or cant bear to admit his guilt in encouraging Pakhi. And now he’s being spiteful towards her just because she rejected him. Thats really petty and mean on his part.

Forget my view, i can still tolerate & try to understand him, my mother actually cant stand him! You should hear her comments

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Thanks u for saying this ..the mind games with a teen who is vulnerable is the key word.

Plus many people are used to one mold.of FL lead bubbly submissive forgiving. But she is sarcastic at times sai overreacts but toxic abuse not at all. Denying to accept love when the other person is clearly toxic and still friends with crazy narcissistic ex is not abuse

Originally posted by: Guneet80

Please enlighten me how Sai is the abuser here?

Did she throw Virat out of the house at literally midnight? Did she deny Virat food? Did she stood like a mannequin and forgave her family for their crimes? Did she maintain a special "friendship" with her ex and character assassinated her husband just because she saw them talking?

Did she witness her family abusing her husband day and night and did nothing other than giving empty lip service occasionally? Did she actively calls her ex her "friend" even after knowing the said ex has tried everything to made her spouse's life hell? Did she collaborate with the said ex in badmouthing her husband in front of her disgusting family?

I know Virat has done a lot for her BUT that doesn't negate how abusive he and his family has been towards her. Lol the victim blaming is SO real here.

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U have articulated so well Guneet . I have seen some of your reactions before and they are so crisp. What do u do ?

Originally posted by: sammy17

Yeah anybody can be abused irrespective of their job and your career has nothing to do with making a person more or less vulnerable to abuse. That being said, the relationship dynamic that sai-virat have where virat and his family are her only real family, where virat's family are actually emotionally and verbally abusive towards sai right in front of virat but he barely does or says anything to warn them to behave with her but just expects sai to be careful what she says to them in response etc does all make sai more vulnerable to abuse and virat and his family the ones in the position of power to abuse her.

Sai has surely hurt virat many times by misunderstanding his friendship with pakhi and not seeing the love he has for sai, but that too is mostly because of virat's own mistakes that he hasn't yet realised are the reason sai pushes him away, i.e., telling her he already loves someone else before marrying her, not admitting and clarifying to sai that he loved pakhi in the past but has no such feelings for her anymore as he has realised he loves sai.

Sai hasn't actually done anything that could merit her being called an abuser. Yeah she has accused virat of having a relationship with pakhi and covering it up under the name of friendship in front of the family (that accusation does have merit and is not completely baseless as we know the roots of this come from virats past words and some things sai has witnessed in relations to virat-pakhi), but the things virat, pakhi and chavans have done to sai are in fact abuse.

Verbally abusing, humiliating, throwing her out of house and denying her food etc are all abusive behaviours that virat, pakhi and chavans have all jointly subjected sai to. If you take these things into consideration Sai hasn't done any of that to him. Her only real follies are her misunderstanding virat's relationship with virat and accusing him for it (but virat and pakhi both are more to blame for sai's this misunderstanding) and constantly going around telling every tom dick and harry that her marriage with virat is a deal and bringing it up even when not needed.

And we also can't forget that even if sai did try and say anything against virat and pakhi, she was met with further abuse and insults from one and all, with virat too alongside pakhi acting like sai was just making things up without there being any basis to her accusations which only further made sai vulnerable to insults from his family. In short, sai has never been in a position to insult and humiliate virat even if she tried because this is his family she is living with, his family who always side with him against sai and not listen to a word she says against him but would instead just humiliate her.

💯👌 So well written and sai pov is explained so well

Originally posted by: sammy17

Yeah anybody can be abused irrespective of their job and your career has nothing to do with making a person more or less vulnerable to abuse. That being said, the relationship dynamic that sai-virat have where virat and his family are her only real family, where virat's family are actually emotionally and verbally abusive towards sai right in front of virat but he barely does or says anything to warn them to behave with her but just expects sai to be careful what she says to them in response etc does all make sai more vulnerable to abuse and virat and his family the ones in the position of power to abuse her.

Sai has surely hurt virat many times by misunderstanding his friendship with pakhi and not seeing the love he has for sai, but that too is mostly because of virat's own mistakes that he hasn't yet realised are the reason sai pushes him away, i.e., telling her he already loves someone else before marrying her, not admitting and clarifying to sai that he loved pakhi in the past but has no such feelings for her anymore as he has realised he loves sai.

Sai hasn't actually done anything that could merit her being called an abuser. Yeah she has accused virat of having a relationship with pakhi and covering it up under the name of friendship in front of the family (that accusation does have merit and is not completely baseless as we know the roots of this come from virats past words and some things sai has witnessed in relations to virat-pakhi), but the things virat, pakhi and chavans have done to sai are in fact abuse.

Verbally abusing, humiliating, throwing her out of house and denying her food etc are all abusive behaviours that virat, pakhi and chavans have all jointly subjected sai to. If you take these things into consideration Sai hasn't done any of that to him. Her only real follies are her misunderstanding virat's relationship with virat and accusing him for it (but virat and pakhi both are more to blame for sai's this misunderstanding) and constantly going around telling every tom dick and harry that her marriage with virat is a deal and bringing it up even when not needed.

And we also can't forget that even if sai did try and say anything against virat and pakhi, she was met with further abuse and insults from one and all, with virat too alongside pakhi acting like sai was just making things up without there being any basis to her accusations which only further made sai vulnerable to insults from his family. In short, sai has never been in a position to insult and humiliate virat even if she tried because this is his family she is living with, his family who always side with him against sai and not listen to a word she says against him but would instead just humiliate her.

Oh my god! This. This literally sums up everything that I want to say.

Sai's biggest faults are her brashness and the way she at times refuses to acknowledge what Virat has done for her, or even appreciate it. Though these are things that would frustrate the other person a lot, none of her traits stem from spitefulness or the intent to hurt. These are faults can be put right with simple communication.

Whereas with Virat, his words and his actions come with the intent to hurt and harm, only because his big, fat ego is bruised. The one time I can say that Virat was genuinely hurt was during the Devi Tai wedding, because Sai displayed a lack of trust in him (according to him) and it was understandable. No. I do not support the ousting and I still think that he was a miserable, pathetic person to retort to such measures, but, you can say that he was right in feeling hurt and could have done the ignoring drama then. In every other situation, the only blow that Virat got was to his ego. That's it. And Sai had to bear the brunt of his extreme nature.

And as for Sai hurting Virat by questioning his relationship with Pakhi, he dug is own grave. And all of Sai's question in that regard is valid. Because, when he is capable of "calling out" Pakhi for certain actions of hers, why can't he simply clear the mess by clarifying with Sai in person? When he expects words of affirmation from Sai, why can't he give her the same? Every time Sai brings it up, she's either met with death glares or harsh words from both Pakhi and Virat who pretend to be doodh ka dhula hua, and it is Sai who is spewing venom. So, I can never really sympathise with Virat when Sai questions his relationship with Pakhi.

And the thing with Sai is that she never compromises on her relationship with Virat. Every time they have a fight and someone speaks on behalf of Sai, she always asks them to back off because this is between Pati and Patni. Whereas with Virat, every time he's angry with Sai, anyone can walk over her, stamp her and treat her like dirt, and he wouldn't bat an eyelid.

@bold - And these are her only defenses at times. These are the thoughts through which she builds walls around her so that she doesn't make the mistake of losing her heart to him.

Great post dude!

Originally posted by: sammy17

Yeah anybody can be abused irrespective of their job and your career has nothing to do with making a person more or less vulnerable to abuse. That being said, the relationship dynamic that sai-virat have where virat and his family are her only real family, where virat's family are actually emotionally and verbally abusive towards sai right in front of virat but he barely does or says anything to warn them to behave with her but just expects sai to be careful what she says to them in response etc does all make sai more vulnerable to abuse and virat and his family the ones in the position of power to abuse her.

Sai has surely hurt virat many times by misunderstanding his friendship with pakhi and not seeing the love he has for sai, but that too is mostly because of virat's own mistakes that he hasn't yet realised are the reason sai pushes him away, i.e., telling her he already loves someone else before marrying her, not admitting and clarifying to sai that he loved pakhi in the past but has no such feelings for her anymore as he has realised he loves sai.

Sai hasn't actually done anything that could merit her being called an abuser. Yeah she has accused virat of having a relationship with pakhi and covering it up under the name of friendship in front of the family (that accusation does have merit and is not completely baseless as we know the roots of this come from virats past words and some things sai has witnessed in relations to virat-pakhi), but the things virat, pakhi and chavans have done to sai are in fact abuse.

Verbally abusing, humiliating, throwing her out of house and denying her food etc are all abusive behaviours that virat, pakhi and chavans have all jointly subjected sai to. If you take these things into consideration Sai hasn't done any of that to him. Her only real follies are her misunderstanding virat's relationship with virat and accusing him for it (but virat and pakhi both are more to blame for sai's this misunderstanding) and constantly going around telling every tom dick and harry that her marriage with virat is a deal and bringing it up even when not needed.

And we also can't forget that even if sai did try and say anything against virat and pakhi, she was met with further abuse and insults from one and all, with virat too alongside pakhi acting like sai was just making things up without there being any basis to her accusations which only further made sai vulnerable to insults from his family. In short, sai has never been in a position to insult and humiliate virat even if she tried because this is his family she is living with, his family who always side with him against sai and not listen to a word she says against him but would instead just humiliate her.

I think it suits the narrative...Abusive husband ...Abusive wife...so no one is at fault... and they are fit for each other...an eye for an eye...A very normal way to elevate the other spouse...isiliye Sai is an abuser...

I am absolutely new member in this show .. watched many episodes like a marathon in the past few days 😂

The only thing as of now I can say is

1. Virat must come out clean while talking to Sai about his stand for Pakhi in his life ... He can save Pakhi's dignity in front of the family but he cannot hide this from Sai and expect her to do mind reading and understand his love...

2. Sai has to stop saying "Meri shadi deal hai" to everyone who she meets and on every occasion or conversation... Ab tak to chavan nivas ki galli ke kutte billiyon ko bhi pata chal gaya hoga iss baare mein 🤣😝

3. Can they stop with "aapko kya fark padta hai and mujhe koi fark nahi padta" chants already?

I mean... What the Fark man !!!

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Originally posted by: AnjuRish

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U have articulated so well Guneet . I have seen some of your reactions before and they are so crisp. What do u do ?

Hey Anju thank you for your kind words. I think my replies have less to do with what I do and more to do with the anger I feel at people blaming women for whatever happens to them. Literally everywhere you look it happens, so I guess I'm habitual to countering stuff like this.

Tragic tbh because no woman should be at edge to defend herself all the time but I guess we just live in a harsh world. This is why I really like Sai, I relate with her.

And in no way I'm bragging about anything lest it feels like that to anyone 😆

Originally posted by: Shaome

Behen pointless discussion can be stretched to NO end

A 19 years old teen has so much power to abuse a COP 👮

More power to SAI 😎

The sarcasm in your reply really cracked me up 🤣🤣🤣