Jalebis and ridiculousness. - Page 12

Coming to patience part, yes he is patient. We have seen him how patient he was with Sai also...but he snaps out with Sai because the feelings involved are infinite times more than any other person.

With Pakhi he behaves even more patient because she is an 'outsider' to him.

I'm sorry but i disagree that he has tried very hard to explain . He has tried -yes but he has also given up easily.

It would have taken 2 secs to shut the door of their bedroom, hold her hand- and say 2 minute chup raho aur mujhe bolne doh. Sai is impatient but shes not stupid or irrational. She may have abswered back but eventually ahe would shut up n listen.

He has several times denied any allegations/questions by Sai in the past. He used to shy away from acknowledging his past, his vaada etc. He used to get angry n exasperated whenever she brought up pp or talked about him having feelings for her/being in love with her. Also there have been many times when he has simply chosen the wrong time- tried to explain things to Sai when she is clearly in no position to listen because she is too emotional. And if nothing then unfortunately they just get interrupted by pp/aai or someone. So thats not Sais fault either. Sai does listen to what he says. But he needs to be tactful too. He is an ACP and he is a really smart guy. He knows Sai best. So if he really wanted, he'd communicated to her by now. But problem is he was often ok with letting the topic of pp slide because it makes him pretty uncomfortable to talk about it n so he actually was relieved to just let it go rather than get it over with once n for all.

When Sai overheard pp-virat at pool she was far too emotional to listen to him but when she was in the room, he should have been patient n made sure she listened. But he stormed out of the room when Sai suggested that maybe samrat had learnt the truth. Then she went to find him on sofa and took him back to room and applied hot compress- again he had a chance, Sai was calm then but he didnt use the chance n let her walk away. Then Sai was alone with him in the doctor appointment time too, but again he wanted Sai to confess but didnt use the chance to say anything. He had a chance to give a full detailed explanation when he stopped Sai from leaving CN. But he gave her only part of the explanation. It was obvious Sai didn't seem convinced when he said he doesn't have any commitment to pp. But virat instead of clarifying tried to reverse the situation and probe Sai instead on why she was so affected by him talking to pp and she closed up because she obviously didnt understand why she was being interrogated. When Sai had the accident and was in hospital she was too emotional to register when virat said that "why is our marriage not real". During birthday Sai freaked out and overreacted and she did the same in anniversary too. But save those two situations where she definitely did overreact , most times Sai has asked questions but virat refused to answer. And in those two situations where she did overreact, if Virat had demonstrated the same tact, the patience, the honesty that he does in his conversations with pp despite pp being SO frickin inappropriate with him so many times- instead of allowing the fear of rejection to take over or getting upset/defensive, then things would be different.

I dont fault Virat for getting upset at Sai. He is very much justified in his hurt/anger especially at how she spoke to him and reacted during anniversary but at some point i hope he can understand why.

even when she was yelling in the anniversary she clearly told him why she was upset. She told him that you are telling me your tragic tale with pp n your yoga instructor has told me your love story so stop celebrating this fake anniversary. i thought that conversation would be the time where finally virat with mohit/sunny help could clarify everything. And Sai despite her anger was listening to them. When sunny said virat cut off ties with pp she asked a very logical question- then why is pp pining for you. Why didnt he just answer that honestly ?! Tell her that i have told pp to keep a distance but she won't do so.

Ignorance towards Sai is definitely understandable. But how is getting a transfer n abandoning her to be left alone in Nagpur a solution. Even if his love isnt reciprocated he always said he has an obligation to be near Sai n take care of her coz she has no physical family. How will he do that if he takes a transfer n goes to some other city altogether? Atleast of Sai moved to hostel n was still in nagpur he could check up on her.

Isnt he reacting in a rash and impulsive way himself by wanting to run away from the situation like Samrat did.

So yes Sai is also being slow, keeping her guards up n not helping matters get resolved.

But she has let her guards down in the past only to be hurt and have brutal reminders of virats past with pp.

I definitely acknowledge that I have higher expectations from virat because he is the one that has the baggage so the larger bulk of responsibility falls on him and definitely he is emotionally more mature than Sai. Having higher expectations from him doesn't mean Sai is absolved of all guilt for her mistakes but her situation is really lonely, depressing n overwhelming. She really has no one to counsel her either. Virat has sunny/mohit atleast. No one has cared to look at how Sai is coping/dealing except Samrat now because he identifies with her pain. Even in the anniversary fight, Sunny/mohit failed to see Sais anguish and didnt go after her to help calm her down n see reason.

Sai clearly does not have the emotional bandwidth to manage this on her own with no one to fall back on and if Virat chooses to abandon her entirely and leave Nagpur in order to emotionally distance himself, it will be really sad.

Does he really think Sai can stay in CN in his absence for more than like 2-3 days before BK gang tortures her to the point of leaving?

Has he thought this through- about where Sai will go if he gets a transfer n leaves. Doesn't Sai also need to figure out her living/boarding situation. Is he just going to alllow her to fend for herself now because "he's had enough"

Yeah for the missed opportunities I dont blame Sai also because she carries the baggage from vaada.

So I think the story is showing this tug of war very well...there is no other way these two can come clean. They have to go through this long exercise to understand each other and finally confess.