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Originally posted by: AnjuRish

I know because I have suffered with those kind of mindsets

In my mid 20s I had a arranged marriage. This person was very abusive both physically and mentally. But in public he has his soft pleasing persona. As per many, I have this cold and very slightly intimidating persona. I can be brutal with facts when angry. It was so difficult to walk out , he used to portray himself as wronged.

MCP behaviour, gaslighting .

My bro said he does not care , if I don't want to live with him that's a good enough reason for him to support me. I was so touched , even though he has never let me down ever till then. I walked away despite all the taunts and crap.

In court I was able to prove all my allegations and won my freedom.

It was a tough battle . Believe me the kind of crap I got from.extended fam and all that

It's all about agenda and who can manipulate more

I dislike this gender bias . I believe even men need respect , support and even space as much as us.

A few years later , I reconnected with a old friend and we are now married and I have a 4 year old.

Glad you are in a happy space now.

It gives us courage to fight.

Happy life 💛

Originally posted by: AnjuRish

I know because I have suffered with those kind of mindsets

In my mid 20s I had a arranged marriage. This person was very abusive both physically and mentally. But in public he has his soft pleasing persona. As per many, I have this cold and very slightly intimidating persona. I can be brutal with facts when angry. It was so difficult to walk out , he used to portray himself as wronged.

MCP behaviour, gaslighting .

My bro said he does not care , if I don't want to live with him that's a good enough reason for him to support me. I was so touched , even though he has never let me down ever till then. I walked away despite all the taunts and crap.

In court I was able to prove all my allegations and won my freedom.

It was a tough battle . Believe me the kind of crap I got from.extended fam and all that

It's all about agenda and who can manipulate more

I dislike this gender bias . I believe even men need respect , support and even space as much as us.

A few years later , I reconnected with a old friend and we are now married and I have a 4 year old.

you are such a brave woman🤗 more power to you

its really difficult to stand up against abusive marriage. its very good to know that your brother supported you. If family is supportive every woman have emotional support and motivation to walk out of a dead relation but what I have seen in real life is, many women are supposed to face all kinds of abuse and still respect the spouse. divorce is still taboo for many women in India. I cant tell you how suffocated I feel when I see any such couple and I cant help that woman.

Thankfully, God has been kind enough to bless me with understanding family and in laws. So whenever I see any such couple where either husband or wife is abusive I feel sorry for them.

Here in the show, I feel sorry for both virat and sai. They dont have mutual respect, trust and understanding between them to make their marriage successful. Love can happen afterwards, its not a big deal but mutual respect and trust needs to be build first. These itv couple are setting wrong examples for everyone.

Originally posted by: AnjuRish

I know because I have suffered with those kind of mindsets

In my mid 20s I had a arranged marriage. This person was very abusive both physically and mentally. But in public he has his soft pleasing persona. As per many, I have this cold and very slightly intimidating persona. I can be brutal with facts when angry. It was so difficult to walk out , he used to portray himself as wronged.

MCP behaviour, gaslighting .

My bro said he does not care , if I don't want to live with him that's a good enough reason for him to support me. I was so touched , even though he has never let me down ever till then. I walked away despite all the taunts and crap.

In court I was able to prove all my allegations and won my freedom.

It was a tough battle . Believe me the kind of crap I got from.extended fam and all that

It's all about agenda and who can manipulate more

I dislike this gender bias . I believe even men need respect , support and even space as much as us.

A few years later , I reconnected with a old friend and we are now married and I have a 4 year old.

Sorry to hear what u face & happy for u that today u r in a happy space . May god bless u.

Believe me I have a friend who husband carries d qualities of sai joshi , she only pointed out to me that sai having qualities of her husband which were damn toxic to live with , her husband was engineer , never agree to her at anything , he had a habit to do things according to his own will without thinking what consequences my frnd will face coz of his actions , ghar or bahar never fails to insult her but if anyone else say a word to her he picks up a fight, never cares for anyone pov , carries an unapologetic behaviour , damn arrogant , egoistic etc. I had seen me frnd living an horrible life till she dragged her husband to divorce luckily husband rectified himself today she is happy.

As all this thing we're done by a man so it was called toxic but if woman carries such attitude she gets a free pass. Why ?

I dint used to notice this till my frnd brought this in my notice. Kuch cheeze sirf tv pe hi acchi lagti hain real life mein bahut hi ugly hoti.

My father always taught me man or woman r equal women r not less than men in any ground . My parents never differentiate b/w me & my brother.

Originally posted by: AnjuRish

I know because I have suffered with those kind of mindsets

In my mid 20s I had a arranged marriage. This person was very abusive both physically and mentally. But in public he has his soft pleasing persona. As per many, I have this cold and very slightly intimidating persona. I can be brutal with facts when angry. It was so difficult to walk out , he used to portray himself as wronged.

MCP behaviour, gaslighting .

My bro said he does not care , if I don't want to live with him that's a good enough reason for him to support me. I was so touched , even though he has never let me down ever till then. I walked away despite all the taunts and crap.

In court I was able to prove all my allegations and won my freedom.

It was a tough battle . Believe me the kind of crap I got from.extended fam and all that

It's all about agenda and who can manipulate more

I dislike this gender bias . I believe even men need respect , support and even space as much as us.

A few years later , I reconnected with a old friend and we are now married and I have a 4 year old.

I am so sorry to know that you had to go through such a horrible experience but also I am in awe of how you faced the challenges and is still going strong. Not everyone has the courage, resources, and state of mind to do that. Kudos to you. It's inspiring. Lots and lots of love to you. You are indeed so lucky to have found support in your brother. So inspired by your struggles and willingness to fight them head-on legally and mentally. Beyond happy to know you found your well-deserved freedom. Your struggle did make me tear up but the way you prioritized yourself and your self-respect are adulatory. I only have admiration and praise for your fighting spirit and winning the tough battle. So so proud. Yes, respect is required irrespective of gender. I absolutely agree with everything you said. So happy to know you found happiness and marital bliss with your friend. I can already see how brilliant of an upbringing your 4-year-old will receive. He/she is lucky to have such a brave, courageous mother. Sending lots and lots of good wishes, luck, and love on your way.

I have been raised by one hell of a mother and father who taught me not to take abuse from anyone. I married my childhood friend and by God's grace, it's going well. I couldn't have asked for a more respectful, sensitive person.

This is exactly why such behavior in ITV needs to be spoken out. It's definitely a piece of fiction but acknowledging the toxicity and misogyny makes a diff in the long run. The show is triggering on so many levels. I was so disappointed to see some distasteful replies and was wondering why did I bother to reply. But your story and response have made it worthwhile. As I said it's inspiring. So glad to have known your story from here. Its a bliss to be surrounded by such women. Thank you for sharing your personal experience. I understand it might not be pleasant to recollect but I so much appreciate the effort and you. You are inspiring. More power to you Love.

Love, positivity and strength always

Rose

@laksh, bulbul. Thats exactly the point I was trying to make. Thank you for penning it down perfectly.

What virat did was inhuman indeed and nobody is absolving him of his sins. But at the end of the day , he is NOT ninad. He is not omi. He is not Kaku. Sai has the option of moving on. I loved the role barkha tai played here..when she told sai that she has everything but not love and she misses that in her life..career , education etc is of utmost importance but having a loving relationship has a place of its own in one's life. Virat is not flawless nor is sai...virat isn't a misogynist or an obsessive narcissist either.... The family is the problem here. Imagine if they were on their own , they would be a perfect couple. Again..I don't imply that his family brainwashing him is the family's fault. No, it's his.

I started this post as something to bring out the toxicity that ITV normalizes.

Irrespective of gender it's wrong to abuse or misshandle anyone.

It's a very personal topic as I was part of domestic violence also in childhood.

To all those who have taken a stand 💛 and to all those who fighting to take a stand 💛

Thank you for bringing this topic love, it was needed.

So sorry to know what went through in childhood, you didn't deserve that but so much in awe of how you have handled the struggles and is now initiating convos around the same. YES. Speaking up is important. Thank you for doing that even if it was an uncomfortable experience to recollect. Thank you.

Hope you are at a better place mentally and physically. More power to you. So glad to have engaged. If you ever feel like ranting feel free to talk to me. So happy to be in the midst of such powerful, inspiring women. Lets lift each other up

Love, luck and more power to you

Rose

Originally posted by: Dvanshi123

I started this post as something to bring out the toxicity that ITV normalizes.

Irrespective of gender it's wrong to abuse or misshandle anyone.

It's a very personal topic as I was part of domestic violence also in childhood.

To all those who have taken a stand 💛 and to all those who fighting to take a stand 💛

Sorry 2 hear that , hope u r in a happy space now.

Stay bless & take care.

Originally posted by: _charu_

@laksh, bulbul. Thats exactly the point I was trying to make. Thank you for penning it down perfectly.

What virat did was inhuman indeed and nobody is absolving him of his sins. But at the end of the day , he is NOT ninad. He is not omi. He is not Kaku. Sai has the option of moving on. I loved the role barkha tai played here..when she told sai that she has everything but not love and she misses that in her life..career , education etc is of utmost importance but having a loving relationship has a place of its own in one's life. Virat is not flawless nor is sai...virat isn't a misogynist or an obsessive narcissist either.... The family is the problem here. Imagine if they were on their own , they would be a perfect couple. Again..I don't imply that his family brainwashing him is the family's fault. No, it's his.

glad you could feel connected to the post and liked it.

agree with your words

I think most of the people here are fighting for no reason. All are condemning Virat, all are agreeing that sai was also wrong on many points but the thing is being a woman, many of us identify ourselves more with Sai's plight which is ok, but when a relationship fails then blame cant be put on just one party. Wrong is wrong, it cannot be categorized as who was more wrong and who was less wrong because way of reacting is different from every individual. wrong doings of both the parties have contributed towards the situation they are in right now.

But all in all itv do sets wrong standards of an ideal couple. they romanticize toxic muscularity of ML and also equally glorifies stupidity, over the top drama of, distrust, doing things alone without caring for anyone else by FL

Originally posted by: Dvanshi123

I started this post as something to bring out the toxicity that ITV normalizes.

Irrespective of gender it's wrong to abuse or misshandle anyone.

It's a very personal topic as I was part of domestic violence also in childhood.

To all those who have taken a stand 💛 and to all those who fighting to take a stand 💛

@bold completely agree. Thats what we are all trying to say but in different words. I know everyone here is sensible enough to not support any kind of abuse towards any woman and not support radical feminism to always portray man as villain.

sorry to know that you had to go through bad experiences. Hope everything is fine now in your life.

lots of love