Don't u think Sai is actually very adamant? Reality check? - Page 5

Originally posted by: kashishrocks

Thanks for agreeing. Well u know the serial showing these kind of behaviour actually spoils the minds of so many girls. They feel that this is the correct way to live after marriage. They feel that if they will adjust they will become a doormat. Everyone should keep their self respect but at the same time, life is about adjustment and it goes for both men and women.

There are adjustments, but there is also "oppression" under the guise of so-called "adjustments." If Sai is compliant with their behavior then it would not be called adjusting, instead it will provoke more abuse towards her. The way the family treats her can NO WAY BE JUSTIFIED! Under normal circumstances, girls like Sai who have in-laws like hers would commit suicide... however, since Sai is much strong-headed, and because this is an ITV drama she is enduring it and standing up for her own self.

Originally posted by: Anvi2009

I do not get the idea that Sai has a problem adjusting or listening to elders when required. But the thing is she has been treated as an enemy from the second she showed her face at the entrance. How is she to adjust if there is not 1 chance given to her or any understanding shown toward her situation? Constantly it is a do or die fight for her.

On the first day of college, she was the only one not informed about the puja and what is expected of her. Everyone knew she was starting college and the elders purposely plotted against her to stop her from going to college. Sai tried to tell nicely, but did it make any difference. She went on and on about how she needed to go, did they let her go. She was just about to leave like you said as she had Ashwini and Virat's support but then Patraleka triggered her by saying she is thankless to Virat as he has done so much for her. Then what is she to do. Ignore it and still go to college so they would think she is really thankless.

Apparently, at 18-19 years of age, she should have already learned how to play mind games like the rest of the family. Probably then she would know how to handle these enemies of hers smartly.

Virat needs to read this!!

Originally posted by: silvermoonlight

Ok and what about elders towards bahu? Favouring one over the other

Calling her names like jungli

Grabbing a plate of food from her and throwing it

Honestly the "elders" in this family are not deserving of the kind of respect we are taught to give to our elders so I actually don't give a damn about how sai behaves with these childish and horrid elders. Someone here commented correctly that women have been conditioned since childhood since the dawn of time that we have to be even more careful about how we behave, especially with our in-laws no matter how they are with us, because women are judged far more and somehow society feels women need to be judged and critiqued and kept more in check than men. This is why for once when we are seeing a girl/ bahu on ITV who does not mince words and speaks up for herself against people who offend her, we are also saying the same thing that she needs to watch how she talks to the elders and respect her in-laws more etc, when clearly the elders/ in-laws in this show are not like any respectful and deserving in-laws, when the in-laws here actively want to insult and humiliate their bahu using the most derogatory words.

Originally posted by: kashishrocks

She will not become Ashwini 2 bcoz Viraat is not like his father. He doesnt insult people like his father. When ashwini wanted to study, his husband didnt support her. But Sai was able to study bcoz of Viraat. So no way he is like his father.

he was not, but if he keep on being blind towards his 'respected ghar ke badon ke harkatein' he will soon be. on Thursday's episode when sai pointed out to him that his behavior towards is mom was not right, he defended himself saying his mom was wrong and what he did was right.

suddenly now he became more 'matured' than his mother also? really?

Anyway we are taking about sai adjusting in her sasural..and above post was my opinion. as virat is hero and good man no doubt in that so he may not become like his father but sai will soon become ashwini 2.0 like i said if she adjusts to things like u said. (from ghar ki bahu's point of view)

in fact it will be worse in sai's case and ninad doesn't respect ashwini as she can be indifferent in front of him also, she doesn't have to hide or pretend anything.

but in sai's case as virat is unaware of his family's 'true colors' sai will have to 'adjust' with the family and pretend to be happy in front to virat as he doest know how his family behaves with sai. yeh tho narak se bhi batter hoga.

all the woman who adjust, they should only do that if its their CHOICE, not cuz they have to ADJUST.

Originally posted by: Chandu_500

ashwini did adjustments, just like virat is telling sai to do.

where she stands now? do they even respect her? NO..

if sai 'adjusts' to all that kaku and gang says just because its her 'sasural' then she will ashwini 2.0.

and how many years will women have to 'adjust' and forget their own identity and their real self?

if sai keeps on listening to their taunts and the names they give her without talking back and trying to 'adjust' this chulbuli si sai will be lost..and people like kaku and gang will continue to think that this is only the right way to treat ghar ki bahu.

i don't support shouting at elders her tone is not right, but everything she does is right.

in fact if she 'adjusts' just because she is married, it will be a wrong message to society.

if she really adjust it should be her choice..not out of majboori or some stereotype.

@bold I wish my pitha reads that who always shut my mouth that i should adjust for the sake of kids😡.elders will be like that and we should adjust

i am junior ashwini 🤬

Originally posted by: lonelyyyy

Here this is not a topic of a perfect bahu. Here we are pointing out her behavior towards elder

@Bold- When these elders don't care about tameez or treating people with love and respect, then they cannot expect the youth of the family to learn respect and tameez. It won't matter if sai speaks to them with tameez or doesn't even answer back to them at all, as they will still continue to abuse and insult her, as was shown since the moment of grahpravesh etc. So these elders in this house don't deserve respect.

Originally posted by: by_stander

There are adjustments, but there is also "oppression" under the guise of so-called "adjustments." If Sai is compliant with their behavior then it would not be called adjusting, instead it will provoke more abuse towards her. The way the family treats her can NO WAY BE JUSTIFIED! Under normal circumstances, girls like Sai who have in-laws like hers would commit suicide... however, since Sai is much strong-headed, and because this is an ITV drama she is enduring it and standing up for her own self.

I can see so many people are in favour of Sai and lol i am tired of replying. So i will quit arguing now. I just put up my point and I believe that smartness is very imp for anyone in life specially when it comes to tackling people. Just put in google on how to reciprocate a verbal argument. U will get tonnes of sites and not even in one site, u will find that arguing or shouting back is the correct way. Even if u ask ur elders they will not say that its correct. Infact there are so many other smart ways to actually tackle such people without using our tongue. Anyways, thanks to everyone for replying.

Originally posted by: sammy17

@Bold- When these elders don't care about tameez or treating people with love and respect, then they cannot expect the youth of the family to learn respect and tameez. It won't matter if sai speaks to them with tameez or doesn't even answer back to them at all, as they will still continue to abuse and insult her, as was shown since the moment of grahpravesh etc. So these elders in this house don't deserve respect.

but most of the elders in indian family doesnt understand it..😭

Originally posted by: kashishrocks

I can see so many people are in favour of Sai and lol i am tired of replying. So i will quit arguing now. I just put up my point and I believe that smartness is very imp for anyone in life specially when it comes to tackling people. Just put in google on how to reciprocate a verbal argument. U will get tonnes of sites and not even in one site, u will find that arguing or shouting back is the correct way. Even if u ask ur elders they will not say that its correct. Infact there are so many other smart ways to actually tackle such people without using our tongue. Anyways, thanks to everyone for replying.

Actually they are blindly love the character of sai

So they will never ever agree.

And I m repeating this post is not about FEMINISM plzzz..

Originally posted by: Anvi2009

I do not get the idea that Sai has a problem adjusting or listening to elders when required. But the thing is she has been treated as an enemy from the second she showed her face at the entrance. How is she to adjust if there is not 1 chance given to her or any understanding shown toward her situation? Constantly it is a do or die fight for her.

On the first day of college, she was the only one not informed about the puja and what is expected of her. Everyone knew she was starting college and the elders purposely plotted against her to stop her from going to college. Sai tried to tell nicely, but did it make any difference. She went on and on about how she needed to go, did they let her go. She was just about to leave like you said as she had Ashwini and Virat's support but then Patraleka triggered her by saying she is thankless to Virat as he has done so much for her. Then what is she to do. Ignore it and still go to college so they would think she is really thankless.

Apparently, at 18-19 years of age, she should have already learned how to play mind games like the rest of the family. Probably then she would know how to handle these enemies of hers smartly.

👏👏👏 Every word you said is so true. This family is so verbally, emotionally and mentally abusive intentionally towards sai since the very second they saw her. Sorry, but them having elders and in-laws tag does not make them deserving of respect from her, and her watching her tone and behaviour with them will not make them change their horrid behaviour with her at all, so what is the point of her being respectful and tameezdar with her abusers simply just to get the tameezdar bahu title that society expects of a woman no matter how her in-laws treat her. So glad ITV is now showing a bahu who has the nerve to talk back to her in-laws