Don't u think Sai is actually very adamant? Reality check?

Honestly, day by day Sai's behaviour is going wrong and Virat is correct in taming her. In reality, such a daughter in law cannot survive in a joint family. There are times where things has to be handled maturedly and not the way she does everytime. I agree that the inlaws are not good but, having a war with them everyday will one day make her bad in the eyes of the ones who actually admire her. No one can tolerate this kind of behaviour even at the workplace, forget about the inlaws. I am surprised to see that this forum doesnt have any such post about her wrong behaviour. All the other daughter in laws like karishma and pakhi are bad at heart but they are shrewd to keep themselves in the good books of everyone. But, she being good at heart dont have the basic skills and manners to survive in a big joint family. Its not always necessary to fight and reply for everything. I mean i dont feel thats her tashan, it just shows her immaturity. And in reality people actually boycott such kind of people who never agrees on anything and always do whatever they want. This is just my opinion. I dont know why no one ever pointed this in the forum.

Originally posted by: kashishrocks

Honestly, day by day Sai's behaviour is going wrong and Virat is correct in taming her. In reality, such a daughter in law cannot survive in a joint family. There are times where things has to be handled maturedly and not the way she does everytime. I agree that the inlaws are not good but, having a war with them everyday will one day make her bad in the eyes of the ones who actually admire her. No one can tolerate this kind of behaviour even at the workplace, forget about the inlaws. I am surprised to see that this forum doesnt have any such post about her wrong behaviour. All the other daughter in laws like karishma and pakhi are bad at heart but they are shrewd to keep themselves in the good books of everyone. But, she being good at heart dont have the basic skills and manners to survive in a big joint family. Its not always necessary to fight and reply for everything. I mean i dont feel thats her tashan, it just shows her immaturity. And in reality people actually boycott such kind of people who never agrees on anything and always do whatever they want. This is just my opinion. I dont know why no one ever pointed this in the forum.

In other words Sai is failing the dormat test😳

Most of us acknowledges that Sai has her own flaws. She'll grow as a character with time. She is only 18-19 years. She's lived a sheltered life with her Abba. In a wink, she'd had her entire life changed.

But most of the times the family starts by riling her up, verbally abusing her, and torturing her. Just like most of us understood Virat's outburst, Sai is only human as well.

I'd rather she is in the good books of a few people only, instead of a large group. She has people who genuinely care for her in Ash, Devi and Shivani. What's the use of having a whole crowd behind you and being in the good books of everyone, if in moments of difficulty, they'll leave you on your own because they'll be too preoccupied to save their skin.

I will just redirect you to this post:

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/post/155550101

Hey, while I like your intention of this post but trust me, the society has made it so conditioned in the psyche of even the females that one has to be a doormat to ADJUST to a joint family!

Joint family or otherwise, it’s not a woman’s RESPONSIBILITY to ADJUST to a family!
Women are independent creatures and I am glad the SHAMING for having a voice is being addressed in the show!
Spare her the HORROR please! The amount of shit given to her everyday is horrendous. That too unnecessary!
Let’s cut her some slack, shall we? An 18 year old after 12th standard should study and have a normal life and not have to deal with all that nonsense.


Her anger might be impulsive but she isn’t wrong!

I personally think the family is very adamant in hating & torturing Sai and they are the ones who need a reality check.

Sai did not marry Virat to become a bahu or a wife. The deal between Virat and Sai was clear, Virat will support her while she studies and after she becomes a doctor, she can leave him. And this was the deal from Virat's side, not Sai. Yes, Virat told her that his family will have expectations and that his family is "traditional." It is not like Sai started wearing mini dresses as soon as she entered the house or violated any household rules. She was quiet for a couple of days. But what did the family do? Taunted her father's upbringing, the very man who sacrificed his life for their son?

Again, this is no normal family where Sai has to learn to adjust. There is no adjusting here. It is either she stands up for herself or she becomes a doormat. These are the only 2 options Sai had, luckily for her, she chose the former.

Originally posted by: ..Peppermint..

In other words Sai is failing the dormat test😳

Most of us acknowledges that Sai has her own flaws. She'll grow as a character with time. She is only 18-19 years. She's lived a sheltered life with her Abba. In a wink, she'd had her entire life changed.

But most of the times the family starts by riling her up, verbally abusing her, and torturing her. Just like most of us understood Virat's outburst, Sai is only human as well.

I'd rather she is in the good books of a few people only, instead of a large group. She has people who genuinely care for her in Ash, Devi and Shivani. What's the use of having a whole crowd behind you and being in the good books of everyone, if in moments of difficulty, they'll leave you on your own because they'll be too preoccupied to save their skin.

Its not about being a doormat or not. Its also not about being in the good books of everyone, its unnecessarily becoming bad in everyone's eyes. I mean she intend to forget what other people did good with her and starts nagging on them. She clearly knows Viraat has done good for her but if he doesnt agree with her, than she turns her eyes on him also. He tries to make her understand but she doesn't calm at all. Keeps on arguing. Is it correct? Someday if her MIL will scold her more than once, she will go against her also She doesnt have stability at all. How can she just keep on going? when the other person is purely her wellwisher.

Originally posted by: kashishrocks

Honestly, day by day Sai's behaviour is going wrong and Virat is correct in taming her. In reality, such a daughter in law cannot survive in a joint family. There are times where things has to be handled maturedly and not the way she does everytime. I agree that the inlaws are not good but, having a war with them everyday will one day make her bad in the eyes of the ones who actually admire her. No one can tolerate this kind of behaviour even at the workplace, forget about the inlaws. I am surprised to see that this forum doesnt have any such post about her wrong behaviour. All the other daughter in laws like karishma and pakhi are bad at heart but they are shrewd to keep themselves in the good books of everyone. But, she being good at heart dont have the basic skills and manners to survive in a big joint family. Its not always necessary to fight and reply for everything. I mean i dont feel thats her tashan, it just shows her immaturity. And in reality people actually boycott such kind of people who never agrees on anything and always do whatever they want. This is just my opinion. I dont know why no one ever pointed this in the forum.

I will like to add sai is not exactly wrong d way she treat kaku mast mandali coz her reaction unke action pe based hota , vo usse instigate karte hain vaise reaction dene pe .

If we r demanding respect then we have to give also . Sai opened her mouth in reception episode when kaku insulted kamal sir , usse pehle sai was quite thou kaku mast mandali kept on insulting her from grahpravesh , u can say she gave them time as she understood their anger .

kaku mast mandali ko respect se allergy hain respect unko digest nhi hoti , ye naayi tarah ki bemari hain, so sai can't help them in it as she has just started going to college so she is not a doctor yet.

Aur vo kutte ki puch hain kabhi nhi seedhe hone wali , jis din seedhi ho jaye samajhna serial ka end aa gaya.

Sai never had problems with Ashwani , devi, Shivani.

Pakhi don't respect kaku mast mandali she want virat for herself &know kaku don't like sai , so she just siding them to get rid of sai .

Karishma is a chameleon who also don't respect anyone.

I don't appreciate Sai's behaviour with virat

Yes u r right real world people will not tolerate sai's attitude if she will behave impulsively as she has to learn to control her anger .

Originally posted by: Anvi2009

I personally think the family is very adamant in hating & torturing Sai and they are the ones who need a reality check.

Sai did not marry Virat to become a bahu or a wife. The deal between Virat and Sai was clear, Virat will support her while she studies and after she becomes a doctor, she can leave him. And this was the deal from Virat's side, not Sai. Yes, Virat told her that his family will have expectations and that his family is "traditional." It is not like Sai started wearing mini dresses as soon as she entered the house or violated any household rules. She was quiet for a couple of days. But what did the family do? Taunted her father's upbringing, the very man who sacrificed his life for their son?

Again, this is no normal family where Sai has to learn to adjust. There is no adjusting here. It is either she stands up for herself or she becomes a doormat. These are the only 2 options Sai had, luckily for her, she chose the former.

If that was the deal, than Virat shouldnt bring her at his house. When people stay somewhere, they have to adjust that doesnt mean they have to become a doormat. Like for eg: when she was told to cook on her first day of college. She could have easily ignored everyone and left as she was already having her MIL and Viraat's permission. The point is that she should tackle smartly not foolishly.

Wow no wonder CV keep showing doormat bahus

this has become the expectation it seems

We all have our opinions etc but I don’t want to even bother commenting on how wrong I think your notions of ‘taming’ a woman are so ill just agree to disagree

Originally posted by: deepikagupta9

I will like to add sai is not exactly wrong d way she treat kaku mast mandali coz her reaction unke action pe based hota , vo usse instigate karte hain vaise reaction dene pe .

If we r demanding respect then we have to give also . Sai opened her mouth in reception episode when kaku insulted kamal sir , usse pehle sai was quite thou kaku mast mandali kept on insulting her from grahpravesh , u can say she gave them time as she understood their anger .

kaku mast mandali ko respect se allergy hain respect unko digest nhi hoti , ye naayi tarah ki bemari hain, so sai can't help them in it as she has just started going to college so she is not a doctor yet.

Aur vo kutte ki puch hain kabhi nhi seedhe hone wali , jis din seedhi ho jaye samajhna serial ka end aa gaya.

Sai never had problems with Ashwani , devi, Shivani.

Pakhi don't respect kaku mast mandali she want virat for herself &know kaku don't like sai , so she just siding them to get rid of sai .

Karishma is a chameleon who also don't respect anyone.

I don't appreciate Sai's behaviour with virat

Yes u r right real world people will not tolerate sai's attitude if she will behave impulsively as she has to learn to control her anger .

I dont want her to give respect to those unworthy people but i want her to respect Viraat as he actually cares for her. I just want her to ignore those stupid inlaws which will save her energy as well.