Don't u think Sai is actually very adamant? Reality check? - Page 6

Originally posted by: chinnu_kaku

@bold I wish my pitha reads that who always shut my mouth that i should adjust for the sake of kids😡.elders will be like that and we should adjust

i am junior ashwini 🤬

i have seen my mom going through this and many other women.

thats why i say that if a woman wants to do this by her choice then she need not to adjust, cuz when it becomes her choice she will be happy. but agar usse 'ADJUST' karna pade then sooner or later she will break emotionally and mentally or get frustrated with her life.

cuz roz roz adjust karne koyi choti baat thodi hai?

Originally posted by: kashishrocks

I can see so many people are in favour of Sai and lol i am tired of replying. So i will quit arguing now. I just put up my point and I believe that smartness is very imp for anyone in life specially when it comes to tackling people. Just put in google on how to reciprocate a verbal argument. U will get tonnes of sites and not even in one site, u will find that arguing or shouting back is the correct way. Even if u ask ur elders they will not say that its correct. Infact there are so many other smart ways to actually tackle such people without using our tongue. Anyways, thanks to everyone for replying.

you should have mentioned the smartness point earlier in your post and the smartness can be learnt,only when sai starts getting exposed to outside world,meet many people in her life especially married one who can guide her how to handle these pyschos ..oh ya i forgot..psychos cannot be handled by smart people but only by police. but still she has to live with pyschos,so she should befriend a psychologist/psychiatist(apologise)🤪 to avoid turning herself into a psycho..lets have some mercy on her,she is just 18..mujaey apnaey didi ki maut ki hadsaey saey bahar aanaey mein 2 saal laga,think about sai who lost her father,its not easy as we see.she is under depression and tried to commit suicide.It is virat's responsibility to take care of sai...depression is not a joke.

Originally posted by: kashishrocks

U know support of husband goes a long way. If he is supportive a woman can tackle the family easily. She is considered worthless in their eyes or not that doesnt matter for Sai at all, she doesnt give a damn. So she can just ignore and all those people who dont like her. U know people tend to get bored of such people very fast. Clearly Viraat has started disliking her behaviour to an extent that they are having fights. And this is television, so definately he will love him after all her flaws. But, no husband will actually tolerate a wife who keeps on arguing everytime whether it is about inlaws or other things.

I agree with you to a certain extent about how if the husband is supportive like virat then it can go a long way in helping a woman tackle her in-laws, but like we have all said, this is not a normal in-laws at all, and the things they say to her and the way they treat her in actual isn't something any married woman/ bahu can ignore just because she has a supportive husband. A woman cannot simply rely on the hope that her husband will tackle the family for her all the time by speaking against the family on her behalf. No normal family talks this much shit to their bahu the way these chavans do... that's a whole lot of tackling even for the husband to do. What needs to be done is for someone to give such a family a reality check about their behaviour, and it clearly seems sai can't do it because she is a bahu who is expected to either take the abuse silently so as not to look badtameez or just pray her husband will put in the effort to argue in her favour, so it is only virat who can really push them to change by giving them a strong ultimatum to change their behaviour towards sai, but because this is not a normal family, they won't even listen then.

Originally posted by: Chandu_500

i have seen my mom going through this and many other women.

thats why i say that if a woman wants to do this by her choice then she need not to adjust, cuz when it becomes her choice she will be happy. but agar usse 'ADJUST' karna pade then sooner or later she will break emotionally and mentally or get frustrated with her life.

cuz roz roz adjust karne koyi choti baat thodi hai?

my mother has bottled up so badly that she has completely changed upside down.har baath mein negativity dekthi hey.

i have wholeheartedly accepted that this is what my life is going to be..i have diverted myself from this. i dont even feel like crying. i am now more worried about kids life and future.

Originally posted by: sammy17

Double post

But kb tk virat sai ka support krega because she is not even listening to him also. As virat said sai tum whi krti ho jo tumhe sahi lgta h.

Ek insaan sure insaan k sath tb dega jb dono ek dusre ki thoughts ka respect krenge.

And I don't think ki sai itni choti bachi h she is 19.

And one thing also sai bhi virat ko jb dekho apne aaba se compare krti h kya kuch nhi kh jati h wo virat have you all thought about this.

the thing is girls, if it is only about little opinion clashes between sai and gharke bhade i would have agreed with u all regarding the adjusting part.

but here chavan niwaas ke bade we are talking about and if sai adjusts with them woh usse kaccha chaba jaayenge.

its not about supporting sai blindly or about virat.

as i always say i started watching the show cuz of neil only😆

according to me respect is something that has to be gained. it is not a license that people of a certain age gets it no matter what kind of person they are.

just think..if sai become like ashwini will u all be interested in watching the show? it is the highlight of this show sai breaking these kinds of stereotypes and teaching people like kaku and gang a lesson.

other than that yeh sab ke apne apne personal options as which need not to be the same and agreed by all. at the end of the day this is what makes us different and conversations interesting agar sab ki POV same hogi tho baat hi kya hogi?. 😃

Originally posted by: kashishrocks

U know support of husband goes a long way. If he is supportive a woman can tackle the family easily. She is considered worthless in their eyes or not that doesnt matter for Sai at all, she doesnt give a damn. So she can just ignore and all those people who dont like her. U know people tend to get bored of such people very fast. Clearly Viraat has started disliking her behaviour to an extent that they are having fights. And this is television, so definately he will love him after all her flaws. But, no husband will actually tolerate a wife who keeps on arguing everytime whether it is about inlaws or other things.

i accept this point of yours. all indian men are like that and only 10% of married woman get husband support. i cannot shout at my bhabhi else i will get a slap from my brother or father. but meraey saas kaey ghar mein my naanad rules.even if she beats me with a chappal,no one will question her. i am living in a contrasting atmosphere post marriage.till now i get scolding from my parents,lekin mere naanad kaey peechaey jaathi hey meri saas. khaana kao,woh karo yeh karo😆.my mother didnt even served me food when i was pregnant.she will cook and i will eat by myself.i used to get jealous on my naanad.🤣

coming to the show, here its a deal marriage,moreover its virat mistake to keep sai at home than sending her to hostel.

Originally posted by: VioletOrchid123

Ashwini is the living example of the result of tolerating everything in the name of maintaining peace in the family.. Look at how unhappy and frustrated she is.... Whatever sai is doing is only for her own survival.... She doesn't expect anyone to come and save her... She's doing it herself.... Surviving in a zoo like chavan niwas requires extraordinary courage and strength...we have plenty of fl's who tolerates every crap thats thrown at them... For once we have one fl who isnt a doormat.

If a girl in real life spoke to her in-laws the way sai does when her in-laws are not out-rightly abusive like chavans and maybe they are the typical in-laws who simply just do the occasional taunting, then I would say that the girl is being very bad with her in-laws because majority of in-laws in real life can be tackled without having to argue with them at all, but with chavans, no matter how you talk to them or are not even talking to them, you will be abused, insulted and taunted nonetheless, so the only way to survive with your self-respect intact is by raising your voice at elders like these chavans.

Originally posted by: lonelyyyy

I don't know why people here are not getting.

It's not the matter of what is the way of talking of opposite side .

And I don't think a girl of 20 yrs is too younger to don't know way to talk

Ok agreed her in laws are so bad but what about virat is he also bad? Ok today he behaved badly about to say to go out house. But she never listen calmly to virat.

It's already been said numerous times on this forum that sai should be more respectful with virat and try and understand the concern in his words, (although past few epis virat too has been wrong in his behaviour in parts with sai even when he can see that her behaviour is initiated by his family's abuse and humiliation and that virat is being very double standard in parts), but the people who in this thread who are criticising sai are repeatedly talking about sai's behaviour with the elders and saying how she should mind the way she behaves with elders, that's why in response to these critiques, those speaking in sai's favour are talking talking about how her behavior with the elders is justified.

Originally posted by: silvermoonlight

No she does give a damn

It hurts every time they call her names and say shit to her

In real life most inlaws wouldn’t behave like jungli animals either

So it goes both ways

Word! Barely any in-laws in real life are like chavans, so they aren't deserving of the tameezdaar type bahu society usually expects of women, until these chavans themselves learn how to be mature and civil instead of malicious and abusive.