Don't u think Sai is actually very adamant? Reality check? - Page 10

Originally posted by: kashishrocks

I dont know in which way u said this. But for Sai this is true.

This is trend of ITV

Female lead can never be wrong

If it turns backfire makers make scapegoat to male lead or his family or vamp 😆

Sai is right many place because you can't keep quiet everytime but she also should understand others specially those who support her

Just someone pointed out your mistake that doesn't make person wrong

If you want other person to understand you same apply to you. You should understand them

Can't hide under the carpet by saying she is just 18 or no one has in her life except her baba whenever she is wrong

If wrong then accept it and this is how people grow not like thinking I am always right 🤔

When parents give their daughter to a guy and his family, they would tell her how to behave with others. During Sai's bidaai, no one told her how to behave.

If her father were alive, she would not have to face the situations she's facing now. If Sai is adamant, then even Bhavini and her chamchas are no less.

I don't deny that Virat supported her. But in the past few days, he has been ignoring what Sai has to face while she leaves for college. She does help in the house after coming back and studies at night.

If Sai finds more peace in the hostel, she should move out of CN.

Even if she takes a stand, Virat does not let her go, which makes her stay back even if she doesn't want to.

Originally posted by: kashishrocks

Honestly, day by day Sai's behaviour is going wrong and Virat is correct in taming her. In reality, such a daughter in law cannot survive in a joint family. There are times where things has to be handled maturedly and not the way she does everytime. I agree that the inlaws are not good but, having a war with them everyday will one day make her bad in the eyes of the ones who actually admire her. No one can tolerate this kind of behaviour even at the workplace, forget about the inlaws. I am surprised to see that this forum doesnt have any such post about her wrong behaviour. All the other daughter in laws like karishma and pakhi are bad at heart but they are shrewd to keep themselves in the good books of everyone. But, she being good at heart dont have the basic skills and manners to survive in a big joint family. Its not always necessary to fight and reply for everything. I mean i dont feel thats her tashan, it just shows her immaturity. And in reality people actually boycott such kind of people who never agrees on anything and always do whatever they want. This is just my opinion. I dont know why no one ever pointed this in the forum.

Hey adjustment comes from both the sides , I am from joint family and in my family there is more than 30 members and I won't deny that they had their own setbacks or fault but no one has ever in my family snatched a plate of food from someone's hand ( like bhavani did) they are just tarnishing the image of joint family ,it is also a family like any other and what they are doing is totally come under law as mental torture and domestic violence and bahu hi kyu adjust or compromise kre baki family k part ka kya that's just pure patriarchal mindset that a women needs to adjust to be a part of family why the heck would she when they are not even treating her like outsider or guest leave family alone and what bhavani did by snatching food from Sai's hand was totally inhumane and gone case bro

This society has trained us to NOT ACCEPT anything other than a meek DIL. It had taught us that if you are different from what is expected, you won't be accepted. It taught us that perfect DILs take all the shit but never give the shit back.

I do agree with your point, to survive in a joint family.... Things need to be compromised. But the compromise should be self initiated. A person should feel comfortable to bring a change in their own self. If someone is trying to beat this compromise into you, it is called abuse. Can be verbal or physical or emotional or it can be all of the mentioned.

And when a new person enters the family, isn't it everyone's duty to compromise WITH her? She is Already doing so much to fir into a new family but if they don't cooperate, how will she survive?

Lovely thread!

I just wanted to make a couple of points.

1. Elders don’t necessarily mean that they are Gods and their every moment of toxicity has to be endured as a part of adjustment.

2. The deal was to get married to Virat and not the toxicity. This isn’t a conventional marriage and thus the screeching everyday isn’t a part of the deal that was supposed to be there.

3. The years of toxicity is so ingrained in the system that women have now become the torch bearers of traditional patriarchy and controlling women. Result: Anyone that defies the norms becomes a Budtameez!

4. If anyone speaks against their upbringing, father or meaninglessly starts cursing someone, the person has full right to retort! Sai isn’t liable for keeping the whims and fancies of every family person.

5. Why don’t the retired men in the house cook or help in house chores? What are they doing sitting there. I can understand division of labour maybe for men and women when someone goes out. What special treatment have the men to be given?

The day a show shows better egalitarian world and stops glorifying abuse, I will be happier.

For now, Sai isn’t wrong and need NOT adjust to :

1. The imaginary whims of a man who claims to be in love with his brothers wife.

2. The toxicity of this family who rules and regulations which would make any sane person mad.

Marriage (NOT COMPANIONSHIP) is a highly patriarchal institution in itself with norms that are highly biased towards a man to keep his familial structure and hierarchy intact.

Let’s be a part of change in this narrative! Let’s not be stuck to a romantic notion of a ‘WOMAN adjusting and keeping Quiet!’