Suprabhat Sisterhood! 🌞
Indeed a very early morning ☺️ because I am on the road and just feeling warm thinking about a couple of hours from now when I will be 'home', the ultimate destination where stories begin, love blossoms and hopes never let your dreams die. Isn't it?
So I loved the episode today. May be because I am already feeling loved 😆🥰 ya because I am glad we are one day closer to something we are leading to in this story.
(Warning: totally free hoon, being driven to the destination so thoughts are free flowing. Chappals still welcome but in pairs, non-returnable.😅)
Is jealousy to be seen as a sign of love? I know, much as we have been celebrating Virat's disappointment after witnessing Sai flirt with Amey, his anger-hangover is actually out of jealously. Yes, there is a factor of him wanting Sai to learn to use her combat skills more judiciously, and we all agree, but today, he was acting because his jealousy blinded him to a lot of extent. So much that even Ashwini -- thank God she finally spoke when needed and the right words-- had no effect in calming him down.
There were two jealous people in that room today (many, actually but two arising out of 'love'). One was 'blinded by jealousy' and the other 'delusional due to morbid jealousy'. Which one was better if the two? Aap batao.
Why do I say "blinded by jealousy" - because Virat knew honest-to-goodness that both his mother and Sai cannot be wrong in principle. He could actually even see how the entire Makad Sena pounced on Sai and any one coming to her aid-- aaj toh Karishma ko bhi itna confidence aa gaya, otherwise she is generally scared of opening her mouth in front of Virat. Did Virat not know that Sai must have been provoked? Of course, he knew.
But he was in such a vulnerable state given the insecurity arising out of his own feelings for Sai that he actually ended up giving each one of the undeserving members a chance to have a go at Sai, that piddi karishma included. I always say, the respect accorded to a woman in a household depends on how much respect her husband gives her. It was for Virat to see and acknowledge when he has calmed down what his one moment of anger has done -- it has given everyone the feeling that Sai can now be treated like a doormat.
Thank you, Ashwini, for finally speaking up! I wish you had done it earlier and I wish you continue to speak at the right moments. And while you are at it, please also speak facts --- tell your son the truths about the incidents that occurred and also the people he thinks are 'traditional'. Tell him that his spineless father threatened his wife with physical harm and, perhaps, you too have been a victim of it earlier. He needs to know so that he can tell toxicity from traditions -- he is neither unintelligent nor spineless. He is misguided and conditioned to conceal feelings and words. And that is exactly what is ailing him right now -- his inherent conditioning to just supress feelings that may 'go against' something 'virtuous' like holding on to a vain promise.
But wo kya hai na, when the feeling of "oneness" starts progressing towards the feeling of being "the one", jealously is a byproduct of insecurity. Virat has reached that stage. He did not want to make Sai fall in the line of tameez as much as wanting to 'end' the riot in the zillat arena. And he was too tired to take all of them on.
True. He said a few bad things -- to Sai and Ashwini but the most offending of his comments was asking Ashwini if she was backing Sai because she wanted to fire at Ninad and Bhavani over Sai's shoulders! I didn't find the Kamal Joshi remark very distasteful because I am giving it a benefit of doubt : he has seen Kamal Joshi helplessly screaming at Sai to ask her to refrain from her impoliteness in some situations. He was in the same boat -just reminding her that her father also always told her to mind her tongue. But that remark to Ashwini was distasteful. It's almost like a team member suddenly deciding to play a match from the other team 😑
Ashwini asked the right questions : most importantly : "Aaj aisa kya ho Gaya that you cannot see?"
Answer is "petty jealousy" for a feeling he's not even acknowledging. And in that moment, sorry to say, but he turned into a man who wanted to see if his 'wife' was going to follow his instruction.
A part of him was also in despair -- he just wanted to end the assault even if it meant surrendering for once because he knew the bigger storm is about to arrive.
But he also had a couple of moments of realisations:
- He did not miss the desperation with which Despokhi was trying to incite Sai."Bas Karo Dono" was a consolation.
- He did not miss the contempt his family has for Sai or anyone who stands with her -- in his vulnerable state he just wants this to change as soon as it can but it won't. His "Kaku please" for Bhavani calling his Aai a 'barveen' pass and therefore beneath the level of the aadarsh BA Pass and MA Pass was not enough 🤮🤢 This Kaku and her susheel bahu need to go to a de-addiction centre. They are smoking too much power and pretense to be oientated to reality. Did you regret at that moment, Virat? But jealousy was too overpowering today.
- He noticed that the people with the same set of values (and lack of it) were standing together in the same team and the one moment where Devyani kissed Sai made him smile in the middle of his muddled behaviour (Chavan saheb, don't even think you're going to get the chance to do that yet 😐😑)
- Shivani's reminder of his outburst last night --- she's actually the only one who may even tell him someday that he was jealous 😜 because am sure she spotted it right but isn't in the frame of mind now.
- He also cringed at Bhavani's references to the daughters of the house as 'grahan' -- ab ye Susheel bahu ke missing in action Pati and Bhavani ke doosre chaheete bete ki biological gayab mother Mansi kis category wali beti hai? 🤔 Aadarsh ya Grahan? And this Omkar? Isko beti isiliye Nahi di hai bhagwaan be. What is his aukaat? Thank you again, Ashwini!
Really Chavan saheb, I hope you are going to speak tomorrow warna guns are still loaded 😠 not just for Sai but for all those women around you, who have been put in the line of fire because the whole Makad Sena thought another monkey has come home 🐒🙊
Virat will have to apologise to Sai for sure but he should also accord an even bigger apology to his mother, honestly. I really wish that Sai refuses his apology when he has sobered from this hangover until he seeks pardon from his mother --- the only one who really loves him and has stood by him in his worst moments.
How true were Ashwini's words - ye ladki apna gaon, apna Ghar chhodhh Kar tumhare Saath yahan rehne aayi Hai... These are such simple and raw words but not everyone gets the depth of it. A woman is expected to detach herself from her own identity, her family, her individuality just so that she can join in with the man she marries and then carry the burden of the expectations from his family -- deserving or undeserving. She must toe the family lines, respect the disrespectful and always remember that she will be an outsider until the approval from a matriarch or patriarch of the house, no matter what kind of bond she shares with her husband or not. I LOVED how Ashwini reminded him that his 'wife' had come along with him only with the trust she had in him and no one else. That 'trust' did not deserve this kind of sudden shaking off the hand she has been holding.
I felt Sai went overboard with her retorts yesterday until Virat arrived but, today, she was absolutely right in not budging about tendering apology to the Makad Sena. They don't need it. But in the process, Virat has ended up pushing Sai to another space, which she will contemplate only once she's finished the task of handling Amey and proving Shivani innocent -- the adrenaline rush about the act coming up has not allowed her the space to soak in Virat's behaviour entirely yet. It's just come as a 'shock'. I wish Sai uses her calm mind to discern what happened and ask the right questions 😐
This is the second time they sparred in full public view -- the first was when Sai was adamant about going out to meet the DIG, even taange tudwake the son of the house, for Virat. Incidentally, this time too, she's prepared to bear any kind of humiliation, accusations and curses for someone else - this time, it is the daughter of the house. A house that she doesn't even think as her own, yet she does.
It is such an irony that the household that breathes their false sense of pride into your face needed an 'outcast' to defend their actual prestige. Like she told Virat the other day when she defended Shivani: "Pehle Apne Ghar walon ke aankhon par jo patti bandhi hai, wo utaarne ki zaroorat hai humein." And took it upon herself to prove her point. Wasn't it evident today why she thought it was needed. Because her 'chhote chhote kandhe' are also the strongest of them all.
What a contrast it was --- Sai, the hated badtameez bahu wanted to fight for the dignity of the daughter of the house while the aadarsh bahu wanting to pull her down and maintaining "Silence" during ill treatment to every other woman in that house, who doesn't qualify the 'susheelta' parameters. And then the third one, fence sitting and waiting for opportunities to display her wannabe susheelta.
And morbidly Jali Hui Didi ke hallucinations ke baare me toh kya bolein... Ye Nashik yoga camp wali breeze aaj bhi face ko chhu rahi thi but ye kya, expression toh ekdum unchanged tha 😆 waise, Didi badam Nahi khati kya (agli Baar ration list me add Karwa lena Apne liye) She forgot ki last time public me navra Baiko Ka jhagda hone ke baad it was Didi who left the house not Sai 😂🤣... I am actually loving it that she has no idea whatsoever why her imaginary husband is so livid with his Baiko 😅 she doesn't know why his love eyes aren't coming and settling on her susheel face -- they are only eyes of cynicism now. She was not smart at all in her attempt to incite Sai and I am amazed how firmly Sai has resolved to not fall for Despokhi's trap even while shutting her up😎.
"Aur Kitna neeche gir Sakti ho?" She asks 🤣😅
Didi, Didi, don't worry she will not beat you at least in this competition. Wo Kitna bhi neeche gire, aap ke upar bhari padegi 😐
Sai, this is exactly what is needed in the rest of the case too, which is what your exasperated husband wants to say, setting aside his jealousy for today. Someone tell the Mallika-e-Maturity that "mere aai Baba ne mujhe sikhaya hai" wala monotonous ghisa pita dialogue is not working with her imaginary husband because he has seen through and felt the indecent vibes coming from his jilted saas-sasur 🤣😅 and decided to keep her at double-arm's length for the sake of his real-deal-wali Baiko's honour.
There is a Marathi saying: Tichya sarv dukhhnyache Karan Pati viyog aahe (She is missing her husband which is the real cause of all her complaints and ills). Patthar-lekha is getting a lot of leeway because of this cloak she has. She will soon let that slip too when she realises how 'blended' Virat and Sai are they the scope for separating one from the other has moved beyond the realm of their physical existence.
I am still hoping that Virat will get a grip of his logical side tomorrow as he already began showing signs towards the end today and his instinct to protect Sai (and him) from the vultures waiting to prey on them will be on the top again. Although if you ask me, he has done quite a bit of damage today to his own team. Kya karoge, Chavan saheb? When sense knocks back into your head, who should you say sorry to first -- Sai, Aai ya Shivani? Yes, I think even Shivani deserves a small apology of courtesy for the outburst you had in front of her. And yes, Sai is Baar sorry Nahi bolegi. Sochna bhi mat. 😑
Hopefully you will get a firm grip of your own emotion just like the collar of that man who's totally swallowed you up after you witnessed that painful flirting by the Baiko. Aamhi vaat baghtoy, saheb 😎 tab tak, one song for you:
Mujhse zyada mere jaisa
Koi hai toh hai tu
Phir na jaane dil mera kyun
Tujhko na de saku
Kuch toh hai jo dil ghabraye
Kuch toh hai jo saans na aaye
Kuch toh hai jo hum hotho se
Kehte kehte keh na paaye
Yahan tak aa Gaye ho toh ye gaana bhi sun lena aur mera heartfelt aabhar bhi accept Karna 🙏🙏 I just heard and so had to use it 😅
Have a lovely day my lovelies! 💞 If you are also waking up with some unresolved issues today, write on your heart that today will be the best day of your life. Go, and own it!
And what better than going at it with a cup of coffee ☕: cappuccino, espresso, latte or mochacinno -- whatever you like. Brew it, smell it, have it and live it. Coffee and kindness ❤️
Hugs, kisses and dher saara pyaar
Love you all
J
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