Pati Patni ke ye naate... - Page 2

Originally posted by: hedwig_potter

Agree with all your points and especially what you said about Virat not showing his affection due to fear of rejection.

Because even before Sai came into the picture Virat had made it clear to Pakhi that nothing can happen between them. I know different people are interpreting his 'vaada' in their own way, but what I feel is that Virat had no intension of having a relationship with Pakhi (none romantic whatsoever) after he found out she is the one marrying Samrat. He requested her to marry Samrat (because in some twisted way, he thought that this would keep Samrat happy) because he expected Pakhi to move on. He never should've promised her that he would never love anybody else, I agree, but never loving anybody else did not mean he will always mope around for her. And definitely did not mean that he would have an EMA with Pakhi. And even if we consider their so-called love "true", still pakhi's actions are not justifiable. Since Pakhi is not keeping her end of the promise, I think it's only fair that now Virat should be released from it to, because this is something nobody has control over. What is going to happen will happen and it is unfair to keep him accountable to a promise that is virtually impossible for almost anybody to keep. But of course Pakhi has never been the one to care about what is fair and what is not.

And the resultant of all of this is that Virat asked Sai to keep her distance, multiple times. When Virat realises his love for Sai he will face the dilemma about his promise (which I think should be the least of his concerns) but more so he will face the dilemma of his deal. From the first day itself, Virat stripped Sai of the right to love him because he supposedly "gave" it to Pakhi. How will he now ask her to love him? He dug his own grave, for Pakhi's sake, by first promising her something so unreasonable and then asked Sai to maintain her distance. By robbing Sai of the right to love him, he robbed himself of any right to love her as well.

It would be interesting watch how will get himself out of this situation with Sai.

Yes, you're right. Don't know how Virat will get out of this mess which he has created on his own. And, very soon he will realise that the promise he has given to his so called true love/best friend is not even worth it and the very same person is trying very hard to separate Virat and Sayi and taking full advantage of the situation.

Originally posted by: MyThoughts

Can't agree more. I am curious as how 'Virat Chavhan..Pakki zaban' handles the Vadaa. It will have to face himself (mainly), Pakhi and its possible ramifications on his 'Parivaar'.

I don't think he is as rigid about the vaadas he makes, as we thought. I am saying this because in his moment of anger and disillusionment during the "complaint", he did tell Sai that he will have to break away from the promise if she continues to 'misbehave' with the family. Obviously, when he sees PP repeatedly falling to new lows and joining in harming Sai, he will consider his subconscious knowledge that she has no willingness to execute her part of the vaada -- of being "married" to Samrat in the true sense. It won't be the "vaada" that will actually be the hindrance than the awkwardness it has brought to the relationship with Sai, where he is the one who has spoken about "maintaining distance" and claimed that his heart belongs to another woman. Undoing that will be the dilemma.

"Agar Pati patni ek doosre ke saath samay bitana chahte hain toh isme na Kisi ko gussa aana Chahiye, na Kisi ko dukh hona Chahiye."

It was good to see Virat setting the boundries which Sai wanted to do from the begining. But I still felt that he referred to the 'deal' wali shadi not more than that when he said that to Pakhi.

I thought his statement to Ninad about "pati patni ek doosre ke saath thoda samay bitana chahe" was actually totally taking away the 'deal' part because he acknowledged their 'Pati-Patni' status in front of the whole family for the first time. So far,he has only called her 'ghar ki bahu' during the family confrontations. Why would deal wale pati patni want to spend time together and even fight with the family for it? His statement to PP was in continuation of spelling out that boundary. It was a gentle reminder to her that he was speaking as "Sai's husband" -- whatever be their personal equation with each other in their bedroom -- PP (now a 'kisiko') need not be disappointed with Sai and him spending time together.

Originally posted by: yyyy

Enjoyed reading your views on Virat’s feelings .Hopefully will get to read about Sai as well .

I feel the main reason why Virat might not acknowledge his love for Sai would be not to bind her in any relationship.Like he promised Sai “main Baandh kar nahiin rakhunga “ .Both had their own terms and conditions while signing the deal . Sai showed her disapproval to marry him many times and that would haunt him till he gets a signal from Sai that she is equally interested in continuing the relationship. I do feel the age gap will definitely play a role in future .He might have some insecurities related to their age gap . It’s only after passing all this obstacles the Vaada will come to play a important role .

Thank you dear! 🤗 Sai is slowly entering that confused phase now 😆 but honestly, I want her to not fall in love at the moment.

I agree. He has been too brash with his "umeed mat karna" dialogues to suddenly want to bind her with him. He cannot bind her morally. So he will have to take a long route to undo his own mess once he realises that Sai never really disliked him at all, as he assumed.

I think the insecurity regarding their age gap will come to play during the extra-marital accusation track.

Originally posted by: njain16385

As always 🤗

Thank you dear Nidhi. Hugs back🤗

Today take away

1) Boundaries : The pati patni has set out boundaries today. They don't want any third person to comment on their deal marriage. As Virat said pati patni kuch time akele mein bitayein. Yes the CM family wanted to question the base of their marriage with taras khake,majboori ki shaadi jibes to break it, and taunt Sai each time they had a chance.They drew a boundaries that no one will raise question on sanctity of their marriage. And special check mate was for PP with Sai ka pati indicating your illusionary husband is taken now and he is Sai ka husband and you have no claim left over him now.

For outer word they will now be Sairat together, but in their inner world they will be two separate individuals who are still in process of discovering each other.Love will come later.

That is the beauty of being soulmates -- you don't have to be nodding at each other all the time and enjoy your own personalities but for the outside word there can be no other combination as formidable as the two of you! ❤️

2) Adore : Today when Sai was talking to her Aaba. Vada boy silently adored her . When caught he wanted his headphones back, then his shirt. But wifey refused as the things that belonged to you are hers now.

Next scene too that made fun of reimbursement for 2 day leave hubby took for wifey. Gradually their formal rishta is getting informal now. That contant teasing, mimicking each other, admiring are indicating that holes have been dug out in the walls of Singhad fort and the water from Virat river has started mixing with Sai river. Thats why she said aap toh bilkul mere jaise hogaye ho.

They have started to fall in love, but the realization will not be easy. For Virat it will stop him due to his Vaada done in past. It will need some jealousy and separation for him to come terms with what is heart wants.

Virat CANNOT and SHOULD NOT get Sai so easily. He needs to actually feel the pang of separation to understand and differentiate between his illusionary 'true love' and actual 'true love'

Sai may also feel for him, but she will not open doors of her heart so easily. She knows you love PP and no other women can bear her husband belongs to someone else. Virat has to realize himself first and then break walls of Singhad fort to win her.

Ending with

Yeh ishq nahi asaan bas itna samjh lijiye

Aag ka dariya hai, aur dub ke jana hai.

Oh yes! 😒

Note: I don't wanna talk about PP. But special thanks to Karishma. She knows why PP was talking now and she will definitely spill the beans at correct time and place to show real face of susheel bahu to chavans.

Karishma, but, will find a common ground to also put down Sai because ultimately it is only Sai who will still have the freedom. So, I won't be surprised if Karishma saves the information about PP for some time...

Originally posted by: Bana

When this show eventually ends I shl miss Virat/Neil & Sai of course but that will be nothing compared to the withdrawal symptoms fm Janki’s daily analysis!

Oh that's so sweet of you 🤗It made my day.

I have a mind to withdraw every day, but something just draws me back 😆

Originally posted by: Dimagnehihai

Great analysis Janki

Love reading your thoughts

Thank you dear! I love your posts too! They are witty and make me laugh so much 😆

Originally posted by: prs_725

Janki such a fabulous post! I love reading your analysis, so beautiful and serene and hitting all points.

Thank you dear! 🤗

I really loved your mentions of Why people marry and choose to be w one another. I think it doesn’t just fit this show but also made me realize one thing - I’ve been asking myself why I ever would want to marry? Everyone in the fam is telling me that “umar ho gayi hain to find someone and marry” but I don’t get why I should do it when I am happy as I am. Your points on choosing to be w each other and having a better life w one another hits the nail. While no one is forcing me or mentioning it to me everyday, I do think abt how and why women and men alike decide to spend the rest of their lives w each other when they may already be happy or content being alone as well. I mean I’m a successful professional and have my life set right now and I’m still searching for some answers .. I don’t know if What I’m saying makes sense haha

Oh, you are lucky and blessed that no one is forcing you at least. There are many families who just feel marriage is the be-all and end-all or that a woman cannot live alone etc. Yes, I totally understand what you mean when you say you are still searching. Keep at it, your heart will lead you to your treasure ❤️

Originally posted by: fatssrilanka

Lovely post, Janki. It was so apt. I think after Samrat's return things might change to a certain extent and it will be interesting to see how Chavan family will react when he stands up for Sayi and not his so called wife and family.

Samrat's return may take a while but yes, whenever, he is back, he will have the ACTUAL view of everyone's intentions, including his pyaari Kaku and Mamas. Feel so bad for that guy.

Originally posted by: hedwig_potter

Agree with all your points and especially what you said about Virat not showing his affection due to fear of rejection.

Because even before Sai came into the picture Virat had made it clear to Pakhi that nothing can happen between them. I know different people are interpreting his 'vaada' in their own way, but what I feel is that Virat had no intension of having a relationship with Pakhi (none romantic whatsoever) after he found out she is the one marrying Samrat. He requested her to marry Samrat (because in some twisted way, he thought that this would keep Samrat happy) because he expected Pakhi to move on. He never should've promised her that he would never love anybody else, I agree, but never loving anybody else did not mean he will always mope around for her. And definitely did not mean that he would have an EMA with Pakhi. And even if we consider their so-called love "true", still pakhi's actions are not justifiable. Since Pakhi is not keeping her end of the promise, I think it's only fair that now Virat should be released from it to, because this is something nobody has control over. What is going to happen will happen and it is unfair to keep him accountable to a promise that is virtually impossible for almost anybody to keep. But of course Pakhi has never been the one to care about what is fair and what is not.

Fully agree. I think he made a conscious decision to move away from PP and allow her to move -- there are at least three instances when he wanted to call her from Gadchiroli just to make a courtesy call but did not dial the number. Virat's vaada was ambiguous and also because he had realised that if he hadn't met her at the wedding, she would have actually married Samrat. She was backing out because she found the guy who she "blocked" was not wrong and wanted to patch up. But it was too late.

And the resultant of all of this is that Virat asked Sai to keep her distance, multiple times. When Virat realises his love for Sai he will face the dilemma about his promise (which I think should be the least of his concerns) but more so he will face the dilemma of his deal. From the first day itself, Virat stripped Sai of the right to love him because he supposedly "gave" it to Pakhi. How will he now ask her to love him? He dug his own grave, for Pakhi's sake, by first promising her something so unreasonable and then asked Sai to maintain her distance. By robbing Sai of the right to love him, he robbed himself of any right to love her as well.

Yes, and Sai being the self-respecting person that she is, will NOT flex until he really, really makes up for this.

It would be interesting watch how will get himself out of this situation with Sai.

He HAS to do penance if their love has to be strong to withstand the storms.

Awesome post by you, Janki! 🤗