Today I am pleased to announce that I am completing 16 years of my married life. As if it is not enough that my hubby has to put up with a temperamental, moody character like me for all these years, he also had to suffer my IF addiction for a quarter of our married life. So I guess I should be congratulating him for putting up with a half crazed wife like me rather than congratulating myself! But like any typical wife I keep teasing him that I am the one who has tolerated him for all these years!!!
I must give credit to Michi then and Maaneet now for making a difference to my married life in more ways than one.
Firstly, my Michi/Maaneet addiction ensured that I was glued to the forum most of my free time which meant there was less time to quarrel with my hubby! Must admit that although my hubby is not particularly fond of Shabbo or Guru and ridicules me for my crushes on the roles they play(ed) as Milind and Maan, respectively, he is a relieved man as I don't nag him like I used to before. He keeps wondering how I have really mellowed down over the years.
Thirdly, hubby too reciprocates my attention and is more vocal in his appreciation of me than before which makes me happy.
I would be lying if I say that ours is a fairytale marriage. We have had our ups and downs and had to go through a lot to get to where we are now. Why, even yesterday, on the eve of our special day, I had a showdown with him over the phone because he took some decisions without consulting me first. I felt that even after 16 years of marriage, he still doesn't consider me important enough to consult with me before making his plans. But I let him know exactly how I felt about his attitude. He was forced to reconsider his plans (which were faltoo in any case. You see he needs a wise woman like me to keep prodding him in the right direction!) Anyway, everything is back to being hunky dory again as he sent me an SMS early this morning wishing me on our special day.
I guess, like old wine, our marriage has matured over the years.
Here are some of the posts I made in IF about the impact my Jodi addiction was having on my hubby and our marriage:
He consented at the end of all this and managed to sit through a few of them. When asked what does he think of Michi he said it looked like a bear was standing next to a deer! Ofcourse he had to face the ferocious claws of the resident tigress for that comment!
I changed my tactic and asked what he thought of Michi chemistry and he had to admit it was . I tried putting some words into his mouth (the guy does not have a vast vocabulary). I asked him does he think they have amazing chemistry and he grunted a 'yes'. Before I can go further in my inquisition, he ran for his life.
Cornerning him, I told him that there are a lot of rumours linking Shabbo and Panchi. For this he laughed out loud and said "I am not surprised. This is a good marketing strategy to get idiots like you to watch the crappy show". I could'nt dispute that the show was indeed getting crappy by the day. So I had to finally let him off the hook. The guy sighed and went back to his cricket!
Posted on April 9, 2011
Maan has created so much insecurity in my husband that the first thing he asked me this morning while we were still in bed was, "What does the Deer Khurana have to say this time?" He calls him a deer because in Tamil 'maan' means deer. I asked him why was he asking me when he himself sees the scenes in the sly when I watch the repeats at 11.00 pm. in our bedroom T.V. I know that he feigns sleep but actually watches the show. I then asked him to admit that GC as Maan is definitely hot. He then grudgingly admitted that this deer is better than the 'bear' Shabbir. I coolly told him that deer are better looking than bears in real life too. I also told him that I have a crush on Maan the character and not GC the actor. That put his mind at ease I guess because he did not bug me with any more jibes.
My hubby has been acting all grumpy of late and when I asked why, he tells me that I don't give him as much attention as I give to the show, but then I think he is more obsessed with the show than I am. Tell me what else would explain this comment of his after hearing a koyal's chirping early this morning? "Oh God! Would this bird not shut up? Your 'Mahi.....' sounds better than this bird's wails!"
So from these posts you can see nothing has changed much in our marriage during the last three years, except for the change in my addiction from Michi to Maaneet.
Since I'm miles away from him today and can't celebrate the day with him in person, l'm sharing my special day with all my web friends here.
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