THEN and NOW.... - Page 4

Originally posted by: dolphinUSA

Thanks a ton for your kind words towards my post and for giving your views too.

Nandu and Poo - I LOVE you guys and I always will.

Ankita - I liked what you said. What's beyond me is...she kept searching for the man who, she deep down in her heart knew, betrayed her and ran away. She kept hoping she would meet him...not to take revenge that time..but just to talk to him....and here she is running away from her husband without giving him a second thought. I do not know what to make of such a wife. This is not MY Geet

Geet the woman of today. A phoenix that rose from its own ashes time and again. An inspiration to many who related to her plight & every fight to begin with.

As a viewer and as a woman Geet Hui Sabsey Parayi appealed to me not coz of any actor to begin with, it had me waiting since the promo promised to give us glimpse into the life of this innocent girl who is to be wedded far from home & her fears, hopes & anticipation were hinted clearly as was the alarm of her future in this bond.

As her journey began so did mine as a viewer who felt connected to her both as a girl & as an individual.There were moments I felt one with her & lately have had moments I found her a total stranger.

'The only constant thing is change'.
Yes I know nothing is static. People change as their environment, their situation & circumstances change. Experience & emotions we exposed to change us & so do people who cross our life & more the ones who stop in our life, they change us.

But within this change & groW*H one thing that does not change is who we are, our soul holds our true self to us always just like the roots holding to ground when branches aspire to touch the sky.



Geet I felt connected to was the woman who punished her family for having wronged her, who seeked justice not alone for herself but as a lesson for those who thought woman are weak & can be treated as flesh or rag. She lost her family in this quest, a big loss yet that did not stop her.

But I cannot relate to this woman who forgives Dev in name of 'moving on'.

She had moved on long back , come out from the shadows of her dark past when she broke away from her family, when she loved Maan, when she told him about her being pregnant, when she learnt Dev is Maan's brother, when she married Maan, when she had her miscarriage & when she wanted to start her family with Maan.




Geet I felt connected to was the woman who could not voice her love for Maan, nor accept his love coz she considered herself as tainted as Dev had touched her. She called herself not pure anymore.

But I cannot relate to the woman who with a smile let her sinner touch her with the same hands those once had violated her. I could not relate to the woman who showed respect by doing the 'tikkaa' of the same devil who her husband hated to the core for having ruined her life.

She knew Maan did not know the truth & without him accepting Dev as family, the family ties that were tore of coz of her she acknowledged him all on her own.




Geet I felt connected to was the woman who when wanted to explain to Maan the whole truth about her pregnancy had run after him, dared to lock him in a room & make him hear her since she felt she owed it to him.

But I cannot relate to the Geet who did not wait for Maan or reach out to him to tell him the truth, hear him or be heard only walked away leaving others to explain what was but only theirs to say & understand.

She had earlier refused to let go of the love that has come her way without putting up a fight & now her marriage did not matter to her but those few words did that Maan said only coz he was unaware of the whole truth that she did not tell him of.




Geet I felt connected to was the woman in love who having seen the broken frame of the man's picture who she felt binded to by an unknown force, by destiny; overcome by concern for his well being had rushed with the need to see him once to sooth her soul to know that he is fine.

But I cannot relate to the Geet who seeing the broken frame of her husband's picture frame dropped tears of silent prayer but dint feel the need to call him, hear him once for herself to know that he is fine.

Neither could I relate to the woman who is so much engrossed in self pity that has not for once has thought of the well being of her man & her family knowing that like her they too will be suffering.




Geet I felt connected to was the woman who was filled with love & pride for the man who said 'Infront of me no one can say anything bad to you'.Driven with this love she too had stopped Rasika from raising her voice against Maan & had dared her.

But I cannot relate to the woman, a wife who let her family bad mouthed her husband & instead of stopping them or herself reflecting what Maan is to her stood there listening to them.

The bride who shivered in fear at her mandap that her Darji will separate her from her Maan, acknowledged Beeji's order to never allow her to see him, go to him with a smile.No I don't relate to her.




Geet I felt connected to was the woman who read her man's silence, she knew his silence speak more than words could do justice to & also knew as was his possessiveness, his trust , his fear , his love ; so was his anger only driven by his heart that only did beat for her.

But I cannot relate to the woman did not feel the pain, the hurt in the anger of this man who did not blink once before jumping in between her & the bullet that was meant for her.

'I hate you Geet' when he had said this to her moved by the hidden pain in his raging fury she had reached to him & did not allow him to drift away from her & now her own hurt was so consuming that his shattered being never appeared to her sight.




Geet I felt connected to was the woman who had not given up Dev when he had after a night of pleasure had left her at airport drugged, crying, scared,unprotected, in trauma..unconscious. Yet she refused to give up on the sacred bond of matrimony, on her husband of one night. She fought with herself , with her family that she cannot let go of her marriage, she wanted to hear Dev's reason to have abandoned her, to tell him she cared for him. She did all she could to keep her marriage.

But I cannot relate to the woman who walked out of her true marriage, walked away from the man who protected her, her tears have always scorched his soul, her happiness he holds above everything else, her self respect above his own pride.
She walked out of her marriage, leaving her love , her man & her home for few rude words alone. Yes the one we love & trust their words hurt us the most but don't their pain affect us first too.

Instead of feeling his pain, confronting him with her own hurt she walked away from him for forever. No I cannot relate to this woman.




Where is the Geet who thought about Maan before herself, who accepted him with all his anger as he did with her past, who knew every action of Maan is just for her. Geet who had promised Maan she wont let anyone or anything come between them & now her one decision shook the very foundation of her relationship, of her love.

No I fail to relate to this Geet, to connect to her both as an woman & as an viewer.

I cannot connect to her 'ego' & stubbornness that can see her husband grovel but not reflect, recollect the love & respect he has given her...but only holds to that one moment of his outburst & forgets all the lifetime worth love.

Originally posted by: ankita10

The most disappointing change for me has been Geet's character. This is certainly not the Geet I loved and admired in early episodes. In HP she rose from being a meek and submissive girl to a strong and courageous one. In office track she was a beautiful mix of strength and vulnerability, naivety and sensibility. Things started going downhill post marriage. Her innocence and vivaciousness turned into silliness. She somehow became an over the top,irritating and stubborn wife. Then came the MC,forgiveness and infamous Holi scene. Then walking out. I had no issues with even walking out. But after that it seems like she has disowned Maan forever. No regret,no attempt at even thinking what went wrong,no reflection. It seems like Maan is almost over for her and after some days of tear shedding she would move on with her life. I dont think Maan's mistake was so huge that he doesnt even deserve second thoughts.

Worst part is that in her refusal to go back to Maan I could neither detect pain or hurt,nor self respect or pride. All I could see was ego and stubbornness.Well I have stopped relating to her character for sometime now,so much so that it is difficult to believe that I cared for her most once upon a time.