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Posted: 15 years ago
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hey bhootni...*hugs*...m not much knowing abt d show except past 2 epis.....

but abt ur topic-i dnt think all NRIs marriages r bound to regreted....as far as marriage is concerned all one need to knw is d future spouse's family,culture,character........n abt d show-i think its definetly upon a issue of village girl marriyng NRI whome she hardly knows n then is left to be sufferd in foriegn country afterwards....u remember aishwarya rai's provoked..?? it too was derived fm a true story.....so yes i happens...but it dsnt prove indeed dat all NRIs r not worth to be get married....looking forward to d show....geet turning strong,independent woman frm d subtle shy girl.....

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Posted: 15 years ago
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Sumi i dn't knw wat u call it in Bdesh.......but these 'NRI' marriages, n wat pple will do to get 1 of their children married to someone abroad!!!!
And no they don't need lessons from a TV serial to create awreness.........about 80% of these marriages are not sustained......th male or female spouse has to suffer soooooooo much..........in our countries it is impossible to hide n e thin.....yet parents want anyhw to get their children married to a foreignner !!!!!
Despite knowing the reality of soooooo many divorces.......as we know...i have seen sooooo often.........16yr olds...married to men arnd 50/60yrs of age!!
Sorry to be totally off topic....
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Interesting topic Sumii.

Hmmm.. arranged marriages to NRIs. I don't think the issue is so much to do with Geet getting married, it's more to do with the fact that it's being married to someone who's not originally from India.
I personally have nothing against NRI marriages - by all means, a lot of people want to preserve Indian culture and rituals, they don't want to spend their life with a gori/gora person, etc. But there's a fine line on these types of marriages.. and it works both ways.
In Geet's case, Dev's married her for the money. And now that he has it, he has no need for her.
In other cases however, I've seen people from India/Fiji (I'm Fijian-Indian btw) come here to get married just for PR, or even just to be able to get into the country.. and then they piss off.

I feel for Geet, especially knowing that she went into this marriage with a heavy heart. Yes, it was wrong of Darji to force the wedding upon her because she was of age, and Dev was from overseas. However, sometimes, family must interfere if they feel there's an issue - as was the case with Geet's dad.
And as for those hints that Darji got, I don't think he was so confident about it, but more thought of the prestige that comes with someone from his family marrying and moving overseas. It happens all the time.. a lot of people in India/Fiji automatically assume that when you come from a wealthy country, you're going to be just as wealthy, therefore they push their children into getting married.

I hope that this show is going to remain realistic about NRI marriages.. because if anything, it should, at the very least, have parents/grandparents thinking about these things - like, finding out about the family, thoroughly; asking their children what they want..

Just my thoughts. :)
Much love.

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Posted: 15 years ago
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im a silent viewer of the show...but i still have something to say...
its a very sad thing to say but indians in gereal are obseesed with NRI's...a NRI damad-son in law is like an asset....recently a well educated neighbor of mine is getting married to a guy,mainly beacause he is an NRI,they dont even care to check the credentials of the guy and his family!

Is it really necessary for a girl like Geet (I am assuming she is educated to say the least) to have a guy in her life? As in we've been noticing quite a few threads on who does Geet look good with.
NO...im a feminist and strongly belive that a woman has the capabltiy to survive on her own,i persoanlly want geet to fight the war against society herself without the help of any male....

Daarji is so confident in his decision to get Geet married to a NRI that he refuses to see the hints. Do you think that this has been show realistically?
i have a punjabi neighbor who has the same attitude......for such peopel thier decision in the ultimate truth...people like daarji do exist not only in villages but also in urban areas.....but ya i think the unrealistic ness comes in where daarji fixes the marriage without thinking twice...maybe since geet is like a burden to him....but any loving father wud have defn checked the guys background.
Do you think that this serial is creating awareness of how some NRI marriages can turn out to be? Or is it making the situation worse by tempting the people to assume that all NRI marriages are bad?
As of now it is showing the story properly....that if a person does noe check the background only then the marriage can turn bad......before marrying an NRI one should do resaerch etc....
i sincerly hope they dont turn a story like geet into a love story but stick to the actual issue!
shruti
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Is it really necessary for a girl like Geet (I am assuming she is educated to say the least) to have a guy in her life? As in we've been noticing quite a few threads on who does Geet look good with.
We live in a society where marriage is an end all and be all for every girl. Marry by 23 and first kid by 25. God forbid if you cross the 'marriageable age'.

Daarji is so confident in his decision to get Geet married to a NRI that he refuses to see the hints. Do you think that this has been show realistically?
The family is so obsessed with getting an NRI guy, they often fail to check out the background and credentials. Daarji here had blinkers on, taking Dev on face value. Its fairly real. and can also happen in India. No wonder urban families now prefer hiring detective agencies to check out the credentials.

Do you think that this serial is creating awareness of how some NRI marriages can turn out to be? Or is it making the situation worse by tempting the people to assume that all NRI marriages are bad?
Not all NRI marriages end up this way. But this issue is quite prevalent in Punjab. I've heard horror stories of girls reaching foreign shores only to find out that the 'husband' is already married and has a couple of kids too. To make matters worse, many of these men take away their passports, turning the new-wed girls to virtual slaves. I'm glad the creators of Geet didn't take the story to that extreme.


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Posted: 15 years ago
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    Is it really necessary for a girl like Geet (I am assuming she is educated to say the least) to have a guy in her life? As in we've been noticing quite a few threads on who does Geet look good with.

    Its not necessary for her to have a guy in her life, but since this is a show, people watch it for couples n romance, atleast some do!..n it adds to the TRPs anyway..but im pretty sure if given a chance she could've survived on her own till the right guy comes along.
    Daarji is so confident in his decision to get Geet married to a NRI that he refuses to see the hints. Do you think that this has been show realistically?
    Yeah he could've made out that the guy really wasn't someone to be trusted. There were SO many hints. Atleast Brij could see them, but everyone just sushed him. So they need to be a lil more careful. And for the realisitic thing, yes, it does happen in villages..because people there are illiterate and not that smart..i don't mean to be offensive..but thats the fact..
    Do you think that this serial is creating awareness of how some NRI marriages can turn out to be? Or is it making the situation worse by tempting the people to assume that all NRI marriages are bad?
    yeah it shows how NRI marriages can turn out to be. But (smart) people won't think that all NRI's are bad..its just that u need to know a person properly before giving your daughter to them..

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