Originally posted by: Ashu25
Nam - One point you did mention right. About the right
May be its not an issue with the Bhallas but yes Iyers will torment their own daughter for having done nothing. They assume, especially the sil and appa, that II has glorified herself indirectly through her father in law despite being told not to do so.
They will now tell her to be in her own limits. And then only she will learn.
I am very sure she has parked herself at the border. But she wont relent. She will still give.
I am just surprised at their behaviour.
I mean this is what they understood of their daughter? Just because she married someone not of appa's choice, now the whole family will side with poor sulking appa who has lost his right of gifting something to the newborn and vehemently oppose II of giving too much for them.
She needs it may be. She had to be told ille.. Each time she gives?
ashu...I think it's more the middle class way of doing things??
I don't know...I totally agree that the entire iyer clan is going to make sure to give II a piece of their mind
1. They cannot overlook the status difference for some weird reason...they keep thinking of anything II does as a burden because she is somehow not of their LEAGUE anymore
2. They always knew she was impulsive and a lady who would think by the heart...but now somehow they hope she starts acting matured just because she got married... How is it possible?
3. So never hurt the Son In Law's self respect...so even when they like what II did...in terms of booking a hall...they won't support her...otherwise amma and vandu should have asked her not to do the moment she texted somebody for the booking right?
" I totally agree with everyone who supported bala in how he feels...he is right in his place"
4. And this whole reaction towards what ranjan gifted...why look at it like a rich man bringing something for their grand kid? Can't it be looked at like a grandfather doing something for a grand child...!
But u know...I understand... Maybe they feel indebted... Maybe they worry to take the money
Like I send a few posts back
We middle class ppl are wrong in many ways and right in many ways...no point asking us to change our thinking
We are made that way
Imagine how they will feel about these things when II has kids?
That's another tangent
What will they gift a baby who is born with a golden spoon?even if its thier own?
This gap will continue
And no one will ever be able to bridge it
It's the story of II's life and many other such woman who hace married across two different societies
It's a challenge that needs patience and it will keep reappearing all thier lives
That's the beauty of it too...never boring...always a new lesson learned
No solutions to such things
Can II stop gifting the baldie? No...can bala not react on a costly gift? No...can they still love like a happy family after every crisis... Yes?? Love somehow helps u manage and live through it
Lunch tha...page kha gayi
Thanks
Ghum Hai Kisikey Pyaar Meiin
