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Originally posted by: kclovearshi

@Bold: This is interesting..I guess no body questioned Arnav's fidelity when he made love to Khushi (I won't say sex, gives me bad vibes) when technically he was still married to Lavanya..

Now he is not married to Khushi, she is not his girlfriend who gave him millions of reasons to not to be with him and who agreed readily to the breakup which means they are not committed to each other..so how is the question of fidelity arising now?

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Originally posted by: canapoem

I have a bad feeling that Sujatha has something to do with it. I dont know but I feel that Sujatha might have called Aastha and spoken rudely to her or she might have done something through Madhu which did reach Aastha and Arnav ultimately. Does Arnav think that Khushi supported her mom?

Coming to the blonde, maybe it was a date and he did take her home but I am sure he did not have sex with her. Maybe he realised that he can never cheat Khushi and asked the girl to crash in the guest bedroom since it was late and she might have been drunk.

Now I hope this misunderstanding clears quickly.

Originally posted by: canapoem

Kavita, indeed a very valid point you have raised about fidelity/infidelity.

Ok here is my take on what Arnav feels.

According to Arnav, after he separated from his wife, mentally he was single again. He felt due to some rules of Ohio State he is not granted a divorce on paper, but emotionally, mentally and physically he was single. He felt relationships are only valid when they are bound through hearts and emotions which was not there for him with La.

So I think his conscience did not prick when he slept with Khushi (thrice).

But coming to the present situation, I am not able to say anything in his defense or against him as I do not know the entire picture.

The above views is only my understanding of Arnav's mind and I am not generalizing anything here.

Originally posted by: canapoem

Kavita, indeed a very valid point you have raised about fidelity/infidelity.

Ok here is my take on what Arnav feels.

According to Arnav, after he separated from his wife, mentally he was single again. He felt due to some rules of Ohio State he is not granted a divorce on paper, but emotionally, mentally and physically he was single. He felt relationships are only valid when they are bound through hearts and emotions which was not there for him with La.

So I think his conscience did not prick when he slept with Khushi (thrice).

But coming to the present situation, I am not able to say anything in his defense or against him as I do not know the entire picture.

The above views is only my understanding of Arnav's mind and I am not generalizing anything here.

Originally posted by: MEsw

just literally dying to understand Arnavs pov. what will explain, and justify this anger, this behavior of his??

i totally understand Arnavs this characteristics are making him more of a human...same grey character as others with all the flaws...and we love Arnav with warts and all...but than wart is a wart...isnt it...we just don't like the wart...but we love Arnav.

that is the thing of a story isn't it? that you love characters with all the flaws...they appeal to you in their realistic avatar...sometimes super human or super hero kind of characters feels like a fairy tale...a childs story...yes we love happy ending and there are elements in story which kind of escapes the reality of real life. but more realistic they are, more better..

i am so waiting it to be his "sabra" and not her "sabra".

Originally posted by: kclovearshi

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Yes..you are right about Arnav..What he did was right back then because he already filed for divorce and what he is doing now may still be construed as right as he has broken up with Khushi.

But I wasn't questioning him..

I was questioning the readers who are questioning his character..And if he indeed dated/had sex with another.. that it is unacceptable for them..

If I understand the western culture of dating & relationships correctly, what Arnav did in both cases is considered fidelity..but according to Indian culture it is infidelity in both cases..

so we cant pick and choose what we want just so it favors the protagonists..

What are the plausible reasons for Arnav's prolonged anger for months?

1. Arnav came across happy Kushi and Aman together on multiple occasions and places ever since their Gazebo fight?.

2. Sujata / Madhu / Some one else hinted Astha about Arnav and Kushi breakup and possible new alliance of Kushi immediately after break up (April itself ??????) and this news got carried to Arnav and he is extremely mad and upset with Kushi and didn't even bothered to check her messages?

3. Arnav really meant what he said at gazebo fight and dating other people to understand what he really wants and not bothered to check Kushi's messages?

Originally posted by: canapoem

You know Kavi, here I want to share something with all the readers what I had read a few years ago.

We all know that Bollywood director/producer Boney Kapoor is married to actress Sridevi and she is his second wife.

When his first wife died of cancer a couple of months ago, I read a article about her on one of the news websites.

It was quoted that she had not signed the divorce papers yet and then she came to know that Sridevi is already pregnant with her husband's baby. Thats when she thought that what is the reason for prolonging her signing the divorce papers if the other woman is already pregnant with her husband's child.

What surprised me was according to her was, no one said a peep about the entire issue including their family members and today Boney Kapoor and Sridevi are quoted as a couple so much in love and so ideal etc.

But what if these people were some regular people, then everyone would have said and written a lot about them.

The point I want to make is, people's opinions about fidelity/infidelity are so different from couple to couple that I want to ask how do we judge what is wrong and what is right in everyday lives???