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Originally posted by: canapoem

Sorry, I am back again, but wanted to write something more about the state of widows in our cultures which I feel is injustice too.

Being born and brought up in South India, the other major injustice I have noticed is widows are not encouraged to actively participate in rituals during marriages or festivals etc.

For instance, a widow cannot hold a haldi kumkum ka plate or the plate having flowers and such things. Even during weddings they are always found somewhere behind on the stage not at all actively participating in the activities. Sometimes even in their own son's or daughter's weddings, they are hardly given prominence. It hurts to see that rights to participate even in small activities is restricted because a woman is a widow.

Whereas if a man has lost his wife, there are no such restrictions except a very few minor ones. He can do almost all things the other men are doing.

Such inequalities too hurt a lot and many women just accept these injustices as a part and parcel of life.

Originally posted by: canapoem

Sorry, I am back again, but wanted to write something more about the state of widows in our cultures which I feel is injustice too.

Being born and brought up in South India, the other major injustice I have noticed is widows are not encouraged to actively participate in rituals during marriages or festivals etc.

For instance, a widow cannot hold a haldi kumkum ka plate or the plate having flowers and such things. Even during weddings they are always found somewhere behind on the stage not at all actively participating in the activities. Sometimes even in their own son's or daughter's weddings, they are hardly given prominence. It hurts to see that rights to participate even in small activities is restricted because a woman is a widow.

Whereas if a man has lost his wife, there are no such restrictions except a very few minor ones. He can do almost all things the other men are doing.

Such inequalities too hurt a lot and many women just accept these injustices as a part and parcel of life.

That is very insensitive about our culture.. If man in widower, then everyone wants him to remarry to look after the "children" ..what an excuse..but same doesn't apply to women..
couple of my observations..
A widower priest can not do pooja in temples. This is a strict no no..
One of my mom's cousin's wife became widow within 6 months of her marriage..they got her married to her brother in law..she is a very nice lady and now her kids are married..this happened some 40+ years back , that too in Mangalore and not in any metro..

It's a beautiful ff. Arnav is going to surprise khushi by landing at the door step soon... So love the way it's going...was arnav too late to go and woo khushi ten years back? What separated them?

Originally posted by: maina95131

The emotions you bring out in these characters...The characters comes to life. You feel what they feel.

I love the friendship that Arnav and Maya has developed for Mohan. Loved Maya for returning the favor. You won't know unless you try. Loved how maya said your Khushi Gupta.

I love La for encouraging khushi to take the second chance. Loved how La said your ASR.

Khushi let him go the first time. She waited for him even though she let him go.

Everything happens for a reason. They were not ready the first time. They were meant to have this second chance.

I'm not very good with expressing my thoughts in writing here are some quotes to share my thoughts.

"I've learned that making a "living" is not the same thing as making a "life." I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back. "I've learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow."
-Maya Angelou

"Love is also not mutually exclusive one of the other. Loving again does not mean that the love for a late beloved somehow goes away. It doesn't. Furthermore, loving again does not dishonor or disrespect the person who is no longer here, nor does it disrespect thememoryof that person. This is a concept that can create a fair amount of discord (especially within families) when a widowed finds companionship or love once again." Unknown

Ps. Thank you for the early and long update but still left with wanting more

Well said
Brilliant update
Loving Arnav-maya & khushi-lavnya friendship