This is unbeleivable - Page 4

Originally posted by: Raz2012

I don't know how many of you are married,a mother.i am.i've been married for 11 years,have 3 beautiful children.
If tomorrow I was in Ratans shoes(god forbid!),I don't know,maybe I would react the same way.
When you have been married for so long,had the perfect love & suddenly your life is shattered this way,it's only normal to feel what ratan is feeling.its such a big betrayal.the hurt,pain,betrayal,& humiliation she feels is normal.and I think many of you forget that shes pregnant therefor hormonal.i know what that's like!
There are some boundaries in a relationship that one just cannot cross against the other.this is the ultimate betrayal a husband can commit.not only does ratan know that her husband has been with another women,he has a child with that women,a child she so badly wanted after her son.That has to hurt.
Coming to her being irresponsible towards her son,well in time her maternal instinct will kick in,just right now she's wounded.
She knows that the child is there in her home so she's finding it hard to come out of her room,to face that child who reminds her of her pain.
It's a good story and I'm enjoying it.im looking forward to seeing the story unfold on a beautiful relationship of a brother and sister.
Sorry for going on and on,just giving my point of view.

Originally posted by: _charu_

i agree. i can't relate to her pain n i dun know how any woman will react in this situation but yes, any mother will at least take care of her child and her unborn...what's the fault of that little girl ? at least ppl. should be sympathetic towards her instead of calling her "paap" ..how can anyone be so heartless towards her?

secondly Ratan should have at least "listen" to Sampooran...he's a human being too and he can make mistakes..she acted very harsh..Ratan treated her husband like God..i agree, so many years of trust and love was shattered, but for the sake of that love, at least hear his side of the story...if she took some time and took charge of the situation, think about it, her family life wouldn't have got ruined...if , after years of painful life, she gets to know that her husband was innocent then? will those years come back which she spoiled by herself?

Sampooran shouldn't have left his family like this either...at least think about his children and wife...that's highly irresponsible behavior...

I am one of the ones that has to disagree, not because of Ranvi and Veera's story to go forward but because of the situation Ratan has been placed in. Many of you who are saying that Ratan should be a responsible mother probably have not faced what she has. I haven't either, in fact I am not even married yet, but I understand how she feels.We are of today's generation so we want every woman to be strong and independant, but Ratan is not. She is a girl who was brought up in a village, where they teach girls to worship their husband. She has dreamed of a happy marriage most probably and experienced one for about 10 years or more. When suddenly some woman comes and tells you that the truth you were supposedly living for that many years is a lie what do you expect as a reaction. The point isn't that now they were happy together, the point was that Sampooran cheated on Ratan while they were married. Whatever be the situation Sampooran's mistake cannot be justified. Just because he isn't a womanizer doesn't mean that he should be forgiven because some mistakes cannot be changed and they really influence your life. Even if such a mistake isn't intentional it still is a significant truth in your life and you have to accept it, because it cannot be erased. People might think that since Ratan has always been concerned with her husband and son and that she was always a compassionate mother and wife, she will forget what happened to her and tend to her son. It is not so easy. It is always easier said than done. Ratan was NEVER strong. She was always a weak person, but because she was happy and secure with her family she looked strong. Everyone is different, some people are able to stand up to circumstances and some cannot. Ratan couldn't, she fell, she broke. When we get a wound, it takes some time for it to heal and FYI she hasn't been in her room for days as it is being said. Just because it has been two weeks in our world doesn't mean it has been two weeks in the show. So my point is that Ratan was always a weak mother and in punjabi families the sons are expected to take care of their mothers and family even if they are young. I am punjabi so I know. Now about Sampooran walking out on his kids and sick wife, it is really not unrealistic because men if you don't realize are really not sensitive. Men can be really stone hearted and though Sampooran was not, he didn't think that anyone needed him. Sampooran was guilty and he felt like he needed to be punished more than anything. We might think that parents can never do this, but parents are human and they can make mistakes as well. If a husband or wife can cheat their life partner, if children can kick their parents out of their home, if siblings can hurt each other, than parents can do these things. They are not God and there are plenty of selfish parents out there. I have never been in any of these circumstances and most all people are brought up by loving parents either together or separated, live with loving life partners, have amazing kids, and have never faced what Ratan has had to face in her life.