Hello All!
Missed me...What you didn't...Bad ...Naughty people..Seems like tedha Shravan entered all your bodies and corrupted your system..Well! even if you didn't miss me...I am here to bore you...you see, his tedhaness has infiltrated my very mind (Ask Anu and Roshni)...and as such, it finds expression in writing this post... invariably to make you all go mad😆😆😆
However, a cautious warning ...am not sure if I can cogently and coherently present what I felt in the last two episodes (Friday and yesterday's one)...Yet, try I will ...Hopefully, I make some sense..
Would like to point out that both Friday and yesterday's (Tuesday) episode were connected to each other...in the way words were used and hence, I shall start with my two cents from the Friday episode.. Words have a way to signify both time and space.. Words can suggest the past and the future as well as embody the present moment...Words give shape to a space, it does cover distances as well as propose the gaps to be filled...to be traversed... Friday's episode was pregnant with semantic possibilities...and the power of words to shape our world, to construct it
Shravan had taken the most important decision of his life ...a decision which he has lived with, felt it in these last ten years...he had said yes to a marriage with his Sumo...and yet, he was broken, disillusioned and almost driven to despair... Trying to drink away his pain... desperately attempting to find sense in the chaotic world of which he was a miniscule atom... He wanted to negate the reasons for which he was marrying Sumo...wanted to consciously reason it as because of his father's promise to Nanu...yet, a son whose father was everything...why didn't he feel the joy of doing something for him...Why? Because here was a man who was marrying the girl of his choice, of his dreams and yet, could not spell it out as love... His love could not be defined as such...it could not be given a name...but could only be verbalized in terms of duty and responsibility towards his father...His love was being crippled by terms where equal partnership was merely an illusion...Love here was a choice denied...He wanted to marry Sumo because he loved her...a conscious choice on his part... Not where, the choices though it leads to the same purpose categorically negates it as a choice...Shravan read Sumo as saying yes to the marriage not merely because he was the alternative choice but rather, he was the only available option/choice... He was chosen by a Nanu or Sumo because there was a need by her family to dispense her to anyone that comes along... A man who is driven to despair and disillusionment nevertheless feels the need to ensure his father that his marriage will not fail. Why does he bother about it failing or not? Its another matter that his father already feels he is doomed.
Shravan says he will not let Sumo to become a Nirmala...and this is where I say that the words begin to suggest more than what is being articulated...Meaning as of now, in the present moment Shravan still considers Sumo as different from a Nirmala. There is a huge chasm between the girl he loves (now unconsciously felt) and is marrying (as he wants to believe because of his father) and the persona of his absent and yet ever present figure of his mother. In his stated words he proposes that he shall ask her to forgo her ambition and her self-respect because he does not want her to be like his mother. His mother who left him as he has understood over the years because she chose ambition over her family...the mother who for him, is representative of a persona whose choices have had huge repercussions on those left behind. However, between the figure of Sumo and Nirmala is a huge gap, a divide which he wants to sustain...so, that his Sumo never leaves him. Sumo is not like Nirmala and he wishes to maintain this binary divide between the two...And for that chasm to be maintained he would do anything...so that his marriage works out...
What he fails to understand is that his father asked her to toe a line, to follow his regressive thinking...Superficially, this also seems to be Shravan's attitude, yet...I see it as a ray of hope.. as even in his drunken state and when he is almost oblivious to any and everyone's pain.. this man is able to see that Sumo is still not working under someone's shadow... Further, toeing the line masks his fear that she may leave him...as Nirmala left his father... This cynical man still believes ...fast diminishing ...yes...but, still there.. that his Sumo is creator of her own stories...❤️
Ironic... One can see this train of thought mirrored in Sumo's optimism ...she is willing to work, to make her marriage a success...because she believes even though there are many differences between Shravan and her...the love tangentially still holds or flows. Her viewpoint is positive...though they have several misunderstandings between them ...yet, there is an unseen, invisible connection between them... not yet spelled out but felt...Love..😳
She believes this marriage will work and she will make it work... How did she manage to find so much belief in her love for him? Keeping in mind the circumstances...she should have given up on him ...if not moved on...What made her believe as E. E. Cummings said:
love is more thicker than forget...
it is most sane and sunly
and more it cannot die
than all the sky which only
is higher than the sky
Her hope is made possible by the fact, that it is a hope invested not only in her personality but in the person to whom she is marrying.. Why do I say it? Ten years before they had a fall-out..and Sumo waited for him to come back...he did...❤️
One can see this semantic possibility further ...in Ramnath's threat to Sumo...to let him know what were her plans to ensnare Shravan? Was Ramnath scared? Why was he so interested in knowing those so-called plans? Anyways, the word plan is interesting...we know neither Sumo nor Shravan had planned...neither had Nanu...yet, as Sumo said... Shravan jo mujhse nafrat karta hain aur mujhe respect nahin karta...sochiye woh kitna desperate hoga mujhse shaadi karne ke liye" -😎 That is the crux...Shravan was desperate to marry Sumo?
Shravan used one open window of guru dakshina to make Sumo his own...it may not be consciously felt...or reasoned... but, nevertheless, it was not to be a good son that Shravan was marrying Sumo. Had he been a good son, he shouldnt have ever married her...as he knew his father believed she was an exact replica of the woman who had abandoned them. The last semantic possibility that was there in the Friday's episode was Shravan saying it did not matter who he married...the result would have been the same...he would have still been broken. My question why? Only Sumo and Nirmala had wronged him...why blame the other nameless women out there in the world...
The results would have been the same only because these were the two women whose loss he felt so strongly...
One can see that chasm in his sense of loss as against Sumo's sense of hope...
In both ways, you feel so strongly because the love itself was the most powerful semantic thread... He loved her and he believed he has lost her...hence, the rage, the conflict...
She loved him and hence the optimism...she will win him again...In both accounts...the belief is not in oneself but invested in the other...❤️
Coming to yesterday's episode...Many have discussed as to who is right and who is wrong...Am not going to discuss that...As I am concerned with words and how words not only mean what it says but also what is unsaid...what is implied...
The lines ...Pati_patni...😆
Remarkable...as much this dialogue was irreverent, mocking, sneering at Sumo's self-respect...
This dialogue opened up a world-view which is prevalent about language today...Language is understood by theorists (poststructuralists) as a system of signs...Where meaning is evolved as being a part of that system...So, if one were to ask how to define phoneme "A"...the answer is A is what B is not...A in itself has no identity, no intrinsic self...it can only be understood in terms of relationships...Shravan may sign all the papers in the world... He may become the husband...but, as he impudently mentioned...he needs her to sign on the papers as the wife... for him to become a hubby...A relation...where both work together... but, more so it brings to mind Daboo's eternal query? Kya aap Suman didi ke Shravan ho? He replied no...paradoxically, yesterday...he redefined himself without comprehending that those words manifested not the chasm...but distances traversed... Shravan cannot be what he wishes to be without Sumo...
And Sumo...who was hurt beyond measure by this suave but cynic and manipulative man...did not refuse to let him be that hubby...
Ten years before...a friendship started because of a challenge ...can you complete this puzzle of a cube...in one a half minutes...Someone had rose to that challenge...Yesterday, it was the other half who did not hold back ...and took the plunge...to answer Kaun Sumo? The girl who loved...😳
There is another powerful dialogue in yesterday's episode...you can easily marry, but you have to live with it and you cannot come out of it as easily...as much as this reflected a foreboding of things to come...it also reflected of a man torn...between his desires and the collapse of those desires...
There are other aspects to it...which I shall leave for Rekha (Sanfan) to explain (she is the best person to explain it😳)...
I know I have bored you all long enough...But before I sign off...a small poem by Christiana Rossetti...which speaks very well for SS...
I loved you first: but afterwards your love
Outsoaring mine, sang such a loftier song
As drowned the friendly cooings of my dove.
Which owes the other most? my love was long,
And yours one moment seemed to wax more strong;
I loved and guessed at you, you construed me
And loved me for what might or might not be -
Nay, weights and measures do us both a wrong.
For verily love knows not mine' or thine;'
With separate I' and thou' free love has done,
For one is both and both are one in love:
Rich love knows nought of thine that is not mine;'
Both have the strength and both the length thereof,
Both of us, of the love which makes us one.
If you have managed to read this post...and found some meaning in it...do leave your responses as well...😃😃
