Stop Hating on Shravan - He's JUSTIFIED. - Page 3

Originally posted by: ...FieryPhoenix

Bingo. Loved your take on the entire situation especially the bolded bits. And bolded red, sooo effing true.

I think many of us evaluate the situation very superficially and ready to tag it right or wrong. But it's not that simple. Yes, it takes a great heart to forgive and move on. But at times, it's quite difficult to do so especially if one is scarred deeply. And the fact he never got any closure, his wounds kept getting deeper and deeper. So I have hard time tagging him wrong per se. And the same reason I have hard time warming up to Suman entirely.

What she did during school was bullying of a kind. Shravan was in love, so he held onto whatever he could get from Sumo without cribbing or complaining. But just cuz one doesn't speak up against the bully doesn't mean bullying is justified. It's not. Thus, it becomes really difficult to feel sorry for Sumo. What he did, stooping to her level, wasn't the solution. But I can't hold it against him given his past experiences with Sumo.

All in all, what he did was stooped to her level, which he didn't need to. He could have still avenged his insults just by being himself and ignoring her completely. Too bad, he's still not over his love for her, which is why he continues hurting. And the fact Sumo apologizes yet doesn't mean it (her words of her past mistake not being a big deal aka her ego), Shravan's wounds yet again started to bleed, which led to the entire fiasco.

So yeh, I really can't hold this incident against him cuz I can't judge just one incident in isolation without looking at the entire picture.

P.S: You got such maturity at a young age. Wish Sumo did too 😆

I don't hate Shravan at all. I totally get what he did. But its tough not to feel bad when he plotted and planned a deliberate attack on Suman. But end of the day, maybe he DOES think that she is superficially liking him for the guy he is today, successful and hot.

Originally posted by: .SankaDevi.

Hey girl! Haha, can totally see you feel passionate about this topic! Don't worry I think most of us aren't hating on Shravan and can sort of understand where he's coming from. None of us support the way he did it, but I think most of us can see why.

I think what most people forget is what Suman had to deal with for one day, Shravan had to deal with for his entire life (that is, the entire duration of his friendship with Suman). He was always put back "in his place" as the geek who can't be seen with "the queen bee," denied the right of being a friend when they were in public, quasi-stood up at prom, and some of the bits and pieces of the flashback hint at some sort of past public humiliation for him as well.

Bachpana is not an excuse to make someone feel that horrible about themself. Unintentional the hurt may be, and even if on the surface young-Shravan acted like he was fine with the way she treated him, I don't think it takes a genius to figure out that treating someone that way probably somewhere does hurt them.

I'm saying this because I'm also in 12th grade right now, and maybe that's why I don't really seem to understand/completely see how Suman's behavior in the past is forgivable/can be written off as "bachpana." I think at this age, mujhe sahi/galat ka fark ache se nazar aata hai.

And if after all that Suman did, she was still "completely unaware" about hurting Shravan, then she was consciously being insensitive/choosing to look the other way when it comes to making that realization. And that realization was pushed off till it completely got lost in her memory, leading her to see her mistakes in the past as not a big deal ("itni bhi badi baat nahi thi"). She was fortunate enough to be able to cling onto the happy memories of their friendship, Shravan wasn't.

I don't have any ill feelings for the Suman of today because I absolutely love her, the only thing I just really want her to see is that admist being hurt about the tamaasha at the party, she takes into account how much she hurt Shravan (to the point where it caused such an extreme reaction from him) and reflects on that.

Just my two cents.

-Kriti ❤️

Originally posted by: Lyla.Khan

You just said her intentions weren't bad. So weren't Shravan's. He didn't do this to intentionally hurt her either. He simply stood up for his worth finally. He did this to show her exactly how he felt every day all those years, its only a glimpse of it. Her bindaas nature made someone feel SO terrible about themselves just for being who they were, constantly, everyday. You know what type of effect that can have on a person? I know she may not have meant it but it's like being emotionally and psychologically bullied by your own friend for so long. She may have done this in her immaturity but something like this stays with a person. You can't expect Shravan to just forget and forgive so fast, especially when she never even tried to truly makeup for it properly. If her heart was in the right place, she wouldn't be so unaware of her mistakes. She acted like what she did was never a big deal despite knowing how Shravan felt for her and how much he valued her. She never tried contacting him for 10 years, if she was ever sorry she would've. Yes he could've solved this issue in private, that would've been more mature, but I don't blame him for doing this either because he's blinded by 10 years of extreme hurt and anger right now and when people are this hurt/ angry they tend to act irrationally. I'm sure they'll realize and learn of each other's true intentions soon and mend their relationship from there. But I like that she finally has an idea of what she put him through.

But he planned this whole thing out. The dress, bringing Urvashi as his date. In fact, the whole party was held for the sole purpose of getting back at her. There is a big difference between standing up for your worth and humiliating someone. One can be done without having to do the other. I never said I expect Shravan to forgive and forget because none of us know what happened on the day that he left India. I don't blame him for doing what he did. All I said was that I don't support it. I'm allowed to have my own opinion, right? 😆 There is more to their backstory than just Sumo ignoring him in school. Anyways, I still love Shravan as a character. There is so much depth to him. I'm looking forward to seeing where this new track takes us.

Originally posted by: ...FieryPhoenix

That's exactly what is puzzling. I understand Shravan shouldn't have gotten involved with her or continued his friendship even after repeated neglect by her. But it happens. People in love or deep affection get carried away and they simply hold onto whatever they can get even if the receiving treatment is wrong. And that's exactly what happened with Shravan. He kept piling on the insults and hurt for the sake of his affection for Sumo. He never spoke up nor did he confront her for hurting him repeatedly. But all of that doesn't justify Sumo and her actions. Even if she was upfront with him regarding her so called image, it doesn't neglect the fact that her behavior was wrong.

So tomorrow a bully will be up front how he is bullying for so and so reason, doesn't make him less of a bully. S/he's still a bully regardless. And thus, I can't stuff her actions under the rug of "immaturity or young age". She was wrong. And even she should know how it feels when one is publicity mocked and humiliated like how he faced on several occasions when he was little.

Get a life? From where? Do we get it on lease or something? Please let me know..would be of immense help. 😳

Originally posted by: rekha.366

kriti dear well said I have nothing to add. You know how much I written about this topic so I have nothing to written new. As I said maybe his way was wrong but not his intention. I think he really want to stand up for himself he couldn't able to do that in 10 years back.

Well said girls...i m totally agree with u girls...mene bhi iss topic PE pahele ki post me bhi reply diye hai so usne mene apne thoughts diye the...par haha PE likha Hua ek ek world meri feeling aur mere thoughts diku rage hai so I m totally agree with u girls

Originally posted by: Lyla.Khan

<font size="2">People hating on Shravan for humiliating Sumo, get a life man. If only you knew how it feels to be used or rejected/ heart broken and still no closure for 10 years, maybe you'd understand how Shravan is justified in his anger/ hurt. They werent little kids back then they were graduating high school, thats not "kids" thats old enough to have a brain not to treat ppl like shit. Sumo only used Shravan and cared about her reputation more than him. She took him for granted for so long. Now that he's showing her how she treated him, he's bad? Come ON. It's called treating people the way they treat you to show them your worth. He's HURT for god's sake, more than some people clearly can't see. Sumo needed this reality check. How can you blame him? She deserves to feel how he felt ALL THOSE YEARS. How much she hurt him. This is nothing compared to how much hurt he went through. Let the makers do justice to the show and think before you hate.Of course they'll make up later on, but expect some conflict in the show. Also, he doesn't hate her...he's hurt, there's a difference. He still loves her, but he doesnt know how Sumo really feels now, so he's not at fault for misunderstanding, its what he's seen all these years. He will come to know of everything eventually but till then stop hating on him and enjoy the show! </font><font size="2">Can't wait for the next episode!</font>

I m agree with u dear...promo me jab mene dekha ke sumo bol rahi tho ki Vo mera bachpana tha tab bhi muje gussa aya tha abhi bhi usne realize nahi kiya ki usne shravan Ko acche treat nahi Kara..mere hisab se to suman ne usko friend hi nahi samja hai agar friend hota to Vo uske liye important hota naki uski reputation...suman Ko abhi bhi uski galti ka ahesaas nahi hai abhi bhi usko bachpana bol ke apne aap Ko Vo guilty nahi manti...promo se aese dikha raha hai abhi to jese episode dekhege vese hi pata chalege...kash suman Ko apni galti samaj me aajaye...aur Vo itni bhi chotti nahi thi ki usko samaj me nahi aye ke Vo shravan Ko kese treat kar rahi hai...bachpana bolke galti se Bach nahi sakte tab suman ki galti thi aur jo shravan party me Kara Vo sirf usko ahesaas dilane ke liye Kara hai ki jab aeaa hota hai to kesi feeling ati hai...abhi to sumo ne shravu ke letter ke sath kaya Kara hoga Vo to dekhna abhi baki hi hai...past ki story jese unfold hogi vese clear pic dikhega...teenage me ki Hui galti bhi galti hi hoti hai muje suman se yahi issue hai ki Vo apni galti man nahi rahi hai