Stop Hating on Shravan - He's JUSTIFIED. - Page 2

Originally posted by: .SankaDevi.

Hey girl! Haha, can totally see you feel passionate about this topic! Don't worry I think most of us aren't hating on Shravan and can sort of understand where he's coming from. None of us support the wayhe did it, but I think most of us can see why.

I think what most people forget is what Suman had to deal with for one day, Shravan had to deal with for his entire life (that is, the entire duration of his friendship with Suman). He was always put back "in his place" as the geek who can't be seen with "the queen bee," denied the right of being a friend when they were in public, quasi-stood up at prom, and some of the bits and pieces of the flashback hint at some sort of past public humiliation for him as well.

Bachpana is not an excuse to make someone feel thathorrible about themself. Unintentional the hurt may be, and even if on the surface young-Shravan acted like he was fine with the way he treated her, I don't think it takes a genius to figure out that treating someone that way probably somewhere does hurt them.

I think saying this because I'm also in 12th grade right now, and maybe that's why I don't really seem to understand/completely see how Suman's behavior in the past is forgivable/can be written off as "bachpana." I think at this age, mujhe sahi/galat ka fark ache se nazar aata hai.

And if after all that Suman did, she was still "completely unaware" about hurting Shravan, then she was consciously being insensitive/choosing to look the other way when it comes to making realization. And that realization was pushed off till it completely got lost in her memory, leading her the past they shared as not a big deal ("itni bhi badi baat nahi thi"). She was fortunate enough to be able to cling onto the happy memories of their friendship, Shravan wasn't.

I don't have any ill feelings for the Suman of today because I absolutely love her, the only thing I just really want her to see is that admist being hurt about the tamaasha at the party, she takes into account how much she hurt Shravan (to the point where it caused such an extreme reaction from him) and reflects on that.

Just my two cents.

-Kriti ❤️

kriti dear well said I have nothing to add. You know how much I written about this topic so I have nothing to written new. As I said maybe his way was wrong but not his intention. I think he really want to stand up for himself he couldn't able to do that in 10 years back.

Hahaha...seems u took our discussions seriously...
We didn't hate shravan...nor we support him for whatever he did


All are representing their povs...just light hearted discussions...so that we can keep the forum active...

Personally, I don't think he's justified for acting like a 7-year-old by humiliating someone like that in front of so many people - especially her childhood friends. What Sumo did was wrong for sure but you have to realize that she wasn't doing it purposefully. That was her 'bindaas' nature and she was childish back then. It was wrong but her heart was in the right place. Her intentions weren't bad. What Shravan did on the other hand, after 10 years, is simply ridiculous. I don't support it. There were so many ways for him to resolve this matter with her in private. But I get where Shravan is coming from.

Originally posted by: sriarshi

hm...once shravan knows his sumo changed ..he means lot to her..then shravan definitely feels sorry for her.. he can't forgive him self what he did for his sumo... i think it will take some time how story unfolds...so don't want to judge who is correct who is wrong...

sumo have feelings for shravan ..but she never expressed infront of him as of now..so he is thinking she is same not changed st all.. so thats why he is behaving like this... i think shravan's main moto is not insulting sumo..his main moto is to make understand sumo that he valued her so much and their friendship...

Originally posted by: rekha.366

kriti dear well said I have nothing to add. You know how much I written about this topic so I have nothing to written new. As I said maybe his way was wrong but not his intention. I think he really want to stand up for himself he couldn't able to do that in 10 years back.

Originally posted by: -Pixi-

Personally, I don't think he's justified for acting like a 7-year-old by humiliating someone like that in front of so many people - especially her childhood friends. What Sumo did was wrong for sure but you have to realize that she wasn't doing it purposefully. That was her 'bindaas' nature and she was childish back then. It was wrong but her heart was in the right place. Her intentions weren't bad. What Shravan did on the other hand, after 10 years, is simply ridiculous. I don't support it. There were so many ways for him to resolve this matter with her in private. But I get where Shravan is coming from.

Originally posted by: Lyla.Khan

You just said her intentions weren't bad. So weren't Shravan's. He didn't do this to intentionally hurt her either. He simply stood up for his worth finally. He did this to show her exactly how he felt every day all those years, its only a glimpse of it. Her bindaas nature made someone feel SO terrible about themselves just for being who they were, constantly, everyday. You know what type of effect that can have on a person? I know she may not have meant it but it's like being emotionally and psychologically bullied by your own friend for so long. She may have done this in her immaturity but something like this stays with a person. You can't expect Shravan to just forget and forgive so fast, especially when she never even tried to truly makeup for it properly. If her heart was in the right place, she wouldn't be so unaware of her mistakes. She acted like what she did was never a big deal despite knowing how Shravan felt for her and how much he valued her. She never tried contacting him for 10 years, if she was ever sorry she would've. Yes he could've solved this issue in private, that would've been more mature, but I don't blame him for doing this either because he's blinded by 10 years of extreme hurt and anger right now and when people are this hurt/ angry they tend to act irrationally. I'm sure they'll realize and learn of each other's true intentions soon and mend their relationship from there. But I like that she finally has an idea of what she put him through.

But he planned this whole thing out. The dress, bringing Urvashi as his date. In fact, the whole party was held for the sole purpose of getting back at her. There is a big difference between standing up for your worth and humiliating someone. One can be done without having to do the other. I never said I expect Shravan to forgive and forget because none of us know what happened on the day that he left India. I don't blame him for doing what he did. All I said was that I don't support it. I'm allowed to have my own opinion, right? 😆 There is more to their backstory than just Sumo ignoring him in school. Anyways, I still love Shravan as a character. There is so much depth to him. I'm looking forward to seeing where this new track takes us.

If you can call the intention of young Sumo as bullying, you should also accept the fact that mature Shravan's intention was wrong. He purposefully used her, send her medicines and all so that she could simply come to the party. And if he was so upset about the fact that young Sumo didnt acknowledge him publicly in the past, he could have backed off, as you yourself said that they weren't kids, but young adults. Rather than continuing the friendship, he wanted to take it to another level.😲 This only means that young Shravan at that time was okay with this kind of behaviour, it was only I believe, the letter incident which made him re-read those incidents, those times they spent together in a new light.

EXACTLY.😃

No ..i don't hate Shravan & his actions r not at all justified... Sorry can't agree on this 😊