do u think its right to liplock before marriage???/ - Page 6

Originally posted by: charminggenie

Hey!

I normally write very less here but I just couldn't resist. See kissing or having sex as well is a very personal prerogative. Indian or not , its about how comfortable you are with your body and choices. Ofcouse being aware about protection and intimacy is a very good thing. But this in no certain ways has any reflective on a girl's morality or the society. OUr society has way too many evils to deal with then dictate and look down on a girl's personal choices.

FOr young girls, its important to learn how to rein in their emotions and be aware of their body. They need to learn that its ok to be intimate with someone if they feel comfortable enough. But be sure to draw the line where it becomes uncomfortable. Talk to your girls and tell them its normal to be attractive to somebody. Just dont be obsessive about it. Love happens many times and just be confident in who they are. Communication rather than policing them would go a long way.

At the end like I mentioned its personal call, if you feel like kissing do it and if you don't then be firm with that No!

Originally posted by: sita11

century doesnt hv to do anything wid this
going by ur views in 25th century ppl wont mind getting more intimate than liplock openly ...like on public places...
with each passing century we shd become more n more bold ..thats what u mean 😲😲

lol forget it im wasting my time and yours. bye. and just so you know the centuries behind us were much "bolder" than we are now. There was so much of infidelity and homosexuality in mid 18th century society in closed doors but as usuall everyone looks down upon it in the surface but deep inside enjoys it. And i think sexual expression kept as a taboo is a big reason why so many rapes happen in our country. We have so many men who are sexually frustrated because society keeps on seeing sex as a big taboo , so whatever they feel sexually stores up as sexual frustration and when that goes to extreme , it ends up as a product of girls being raped. if there were proper sex education and no hush hush about sex in society along with gender sensitivity classes then Im god damn sure India would not be so infected with rape as it is now.

OMG thats so shocking to read that school girls losing their virginity ...
even in my school we caught the students who after the school hours went for dating n all ...in the nearby restaurent...our school director and principal very strict in these cases...we caught few student redhanded in that restaurent but they were there only for the eating purpose ...

..well Lucknow and Kanpur ( Uttar pradesh ) are my home cities...these 2 cities are adjacent and at a local distance so i am talking abt with the frame of mind of these 2 cities...

Originally posted by: sita11

century doesnt hv to do anything wid this
going by ur views in 25th century ppl wont mind getting more intimate than liplock openly ...like on public places...
with each passing century we shd become more n more bold ..thats what u mean 😲😲

Originally posted by: Escape.My.Love.

lol sita i dont know which indian society you are talking about cause in the india i lived in my entire life , there almost every girl around me except me has gone way way further than just kissing when we were in high school . it was very common for half of the girls in my school and other schools across kolkata to have lost their virginity during high school. So I dont know which indian society you are talking about. I know so many conservative Indian parents' children who have gone much much further than just second base and were much younger than me.lol. India is extremely promiscuous , much more promiscuous than you think but its all done in secrecy cause everyone in our society pretends to see it as a taboo but secretly enjoys it . That's the hypocrisy of our society. Moreover , some girls feel that they shed their inhibitions when they go physical , and some don't and some feel that they do at one time and don't feel the same the next time , i mean it is all about ones point of view , and change in perception and action is constant and we can never judge that. ones so called moral standards i feel should only apply to themselves..they should not be the judging parameters for others around them. I always do that. Thats why I have best friends who are completely opposite to me in such matters.

Originally posted by: sita11

OMG thats so shocking to read that school girls losing their virginity ...
even in my school we caught the students who after the school hours went for dating n all ...in the nearby restaurent...our school director and principal very strict in these cases...we caught few student redhanded in that restaurent but they were there only for the eating purpose ...

..well Lucknow and Kanpur ( Uttar pradesh ) are my home cities...these 2 cities are adjacent and at a local distance so i am talking abt with the frame of mind from these 2 cities...

and what harm is there in dating and going to restaurants? People take one hour to receive and rescue a naked raped body laying on the road dripping with blood with their organs out but they take absolutely no time in catching people doing things as normal as dating? Incredible india. and theres nothing shocking about losing your virginity or dating - i mean it is something very natural and whether you do it now or not all depends on your choice. thats the only difference , but everyone ultimately does it one time or the other , when you choose to do it completely depends on you and its your life so youll do what you want.

Sita, I was thinking whether to comment on this post or not but after reading your reply to @charminggenie I just had to. First of all this question itself is way too personal, entirely depends on a person's perspective. If you were my teacher I would be shocked that you had asked such a question in an entertainment forum. As my teacher I expect you to teach what is right for me and what is taught by every parent in the society and you know what should be the answer to this question. Even as a parent you teach the good things to your kids but it depends whether the kids would follow it or not. Everyone have their own perspective as they grow up and that can be seen in the different comments as well, which is absolutely right. But we don't learn anything from them, it is we as an individual who have to decide whether it is right or wrong. Are you by any chance asking this question because you have doubts or is it based on what is shown in DDEJ ? As far as a show is concerned anything can be shown in a show since it is purely for entertainment. We don't need to take any lessons from them, that is why a real and reel life is always different. As for the actors it is their job & career, it is their right to decide what they should do or not. Sorry if I offended you in any way.

but we hv to make sum standards in an educational institute ...and make the students aware ...esp the girls in their teens ...esp when the institute is a co-ed one .
by the way nice to know more n more views on this topic.

Originally posted by: Shiny13

Sita, I was thinking whether to comment on this post or not but after reading your reply to @charminggenie I just had to. First of all this question itself is way too personal, entirely depends on a person's perspective. If you were my teacher I would be shocked that you had asked such a question in an entertainment forum. As my teacher I expect you to teach what is right for me and what is taught by every parent in the society and you know what should be the answer to this question. Even as a parent you teach the good things to your kids but it depends whether the kids would follow it or not. Everyone have their own perspective as they grow up and that can be seen in the different comments as well, which is absolutely right. But we don't learn anything from them, it is we as an individual who have to decide whether it is right or wrong. Are you by any chance asking this question because you have doubts or is it based on what is shown in DDEJ ? As far as a show is concerned anything can be shown in a show since it is purely for entertainment. We don't need to take any lessons from them, that is why a real and reel life is always different. As for the actors it is their job & career, it is their right to decide what they should do or not. Sorry if I offended you in any way.

hey its ok...i am not at all offended
yes just becaz there was so hue and cry over this issue in the show...that actually gave me the idea of making this topic ...becaz tv shows are also a reflection of our society

.sorry if u didnot like my post...

i don't know about it...to kya bolu...????